You are very smart! You are absolutely right, and i don't even know you. So thank you for being so real, so correct and unconditionally supportive. I really appreciate it!!!!!!!!!
Ashynikki, i know you are right, because i've seen this scorpio man take good care of me, he tried to do everything I wanted and asked for...he really did, except he stopped trying so hard and put me on auto pilot. Seven months is not enough time to put a relationship on auto pilot.. Not trying to generalize about scorpio men and aquarius women,
my mistrust began a few months ago, when he couldn't tell me that a call he took was from a woman he is in school with. She called two weekend nights in a row.. I felt he should have taken the call in front of me, and handled whatever she wanted (he said it was school related and she had questions about the assignment and was freaking out about it), but he ignored the call when he saw it was from her and then texted her, and when I asked who called and, he said no one. then he said it was xxxxx. (her name). It took him several times to not lie to me about this call, as i kept asking him why he wouldnt answer, and he didn't have an answer. Why would she call after 9 on a weekend night about school, couldnt she have texted him?? This is when my mistrust came into play and then it grew progressively to the point where two condoms are missing and he said I miscounted.
Stranger, mine always stressed equality. Scorpios ( i dated three this last year and not on purpose) are intense and go after what they want with full force and once they get it they put it on auto pilot, stop trying so hard and stop focusing on their partner. They can be very self-absorbed also. I found that my guy is stubborn and doesn't really express what he feels, when that would be the way he could make progress in getting what he wants (having his cake and eating it too)!
My thoughts are in this new moon, when out with old in with the new are here, it means do something different, change something, an action, a thought, take a new perspective, etc.. and move forward.
I concluded that forward is the energy and motion of the future and dwelling on what wasn't is not productive. I explained what i need and people have to figure it out. Like an employer who says; your job description is such and such. The need to do less wont' work and the need to do more isn't necessary.
We are responsible to put things in perspective with the help of our past as a guide and maybe good friends that can keep it real?
we used condoms in the beginning of course, and then when we announced our exclusivity for one another it became a mute point. The differences were where he is financially as to where I am use to.. In a away, he appeared more solvent than he claims to be now.
I am not looking for match me a millionarie, but also not seeking a man who needs to reorganize after a bankruptcy.
he needs to know that dating does cost, whether its dinner at his house or dinner out. And as a woman, more traditional and very educated, I don't like to carry a man financially.
I agreed to be conservative with his budget, because I felt it was the right thing to do.
Hauntingly familiar such as??
As i showered from the bike ride, my "gut" was loud and clear, and I was not comfortable, having recalled the way he reacted to my texts and phone call, like he put me off...and although we talked about it and he said he was mad that he couldn't go on the trip, and we couldn't come to an agreement on the expenses of the trip, he wasn't going to wait around by the phone. I said to him that two weeks prior to the trip, he was "fine" with knowing he couldn't afford it, and i knew I needed to support him in that decision, and it seemed fine. Apparently, it wasn't. He, I feel, punished me because he wasn't on the trip and I was. Additionally, I am leaving on another trip the end of the month international, and he isn't going.
While he showered, I looked in a drawer, that I normally don't go in... This is the drawer by his side of the bed which has condoms in it. A few months ago, i opened that drawer in front of him and asked him why he needed to have those condoms there?
He didn't say anything specific, just kind of not paid attention to my question and I didn't pursue an answer.
But after my shower, and my suspicion which my gut told me, I waited until he got in the shower and looked in the drawer...please know this is so untypical of me and of aquarians. We usually trust and he is one of two people in which my gut spoke to me. I opened the drawer and counted two less condoms...go figure.
He said i am nosey and suspicious, and snoopy and i miscounted... i broke up with him because I can't be in a relationship where i feel suspicious.. and if it's me, i can fix it, but if it's truly him, he doesn't get a second chance. So I am licking my wounds and the question remains why he didnt' try to make me feel more secure???
Last month he wanted me to move in with him...please.