It's sad - this guy really loves you, but he also fears you and the power you have over him. The more he loves, the more he fears losing the thing he loves. It's a vicious circle and until he works it through on his own (you cannot help him since you are the source of his fear), there is no chance of having a healthy, enduring relationship. So don't put your life on hold for this guy as it may take him a very long time to resolve his issues - if ever! There is always more than one person who can make you happy in life. Find someone else who can do that for you.