Cris, thanx for the reply. I appreciate it! I understand where you are coming from and am not offended by anything you said (wrote).
I apologize that I offended, insulted, or upset anyone else. It was not my intention, of course, to start such a s h y t storm and get everybody so riled up over nothing. I thought it was a reasonable question. I merely wanted to know if he's interested and if and how it would work out if I went for this with him, but seems because it's secks, not Love, that's out of line here and gets people irate in the britches. I just don't see anything wrong with casually dating and hooking up with someone. If more happens, fine; if not, that's great, too - fun for both while it lasted. Not everyone wants 'forever and ever amen' or feels that dating or being with a person has to "lead somewhere" or "go somewhere" or be something deep, serious, and soulmate-y. At least, I don't. So, no, I'm not trying to marry him; I just want fun and a good time. Two consenting adults going into it with clear, honest communication & eyes open. That's bad, how?
Someone mentioned others' personal situations affecting their view, and I get that. But whether it's that reason for the crawkus, or whatever else, everyone is entitled to their own beliefs and opinions & to live their life in the way that makes them happy, in a way that works for them. And this works, for me, for now. If, for whatever reason, you don't agree and think that's wrong, bad, immoral, or (fill in the blank), that's fine, too; we'll agree to disagree.