I would have thought about him wanting to be friends with benefits but when we close to doing it, he is usually the one that stops it.
So I don't know.
Last year I went to my friend's (Leo) birthday party (7/30). We used to work with each other many years ago. We have known each other 20 plus years. That night we ended up talking and having a really good time. As the night ended and people left, we snuggled on the couch and made out. We ended up falling asleep in each others arms. It was nice. Very unexpected. I left and we texted for the rest of the week. Towards the end of the week he said he wanted to have dinner and talk. So we did. Dinner was ok. But when we got back to his house. I saw him having a mental battle with himself. It felt like we were having a conversation with me, more like a couple that had been dating for months. He wasn't sure what he wanted. Blah blah. He told me i could hate him if I wanted to. The whole thing upset me because he is someone that I could have serious with.
We stayed in touch but it was a little rocky for a bit. And then he came to visit family near me and we met and talked. He said he just wanted to keep it as friends. So we did.
Not shortly after that, I started to date a Cancer guy. Which just ended two months ago.
Even through we just keeping on a friends level, we still randomly text.
Me and the Cancer guy were on a break. The Leo guy asked me to dinner. I went. He drove, opened car doors, told me how sexy I was, paid for dinner. Got back to his place, he rubbed my legs on the couch as we watched a movie. I did all my moves thinking he was going to kiss me. End of the night comes, he walks me to my car and hugs me. That was it.
I flew from another city to come see him ( I fly for free). I drove back to my Mom's in a daze, trying to figure out just what happened.
Time passes So we carried along and would text radomly still. And here and there he would sorta text me more prevocitave things. And I would reciprocate and then would have to catch myself because he made it clear he didn't want a relationship. So I did have to nicely tell him I dont talk to guy like that unless we are dating or in a relationship. He agreed. And it would stop. He will still time to time try to go there but I would just play stupid.
About a month ago he kicked it up a notch with full on sexing. I did reciprocate, because I do have some feelings for this Leo.
I really don't know what to think of this guy anymore?
Can any Leo ladies or Leo Males shed some light on this?
Thank you for responding. I totally agree with you. I could only tolorate so much, and I just couldn't allow him to treat me so coldly. I am not sure if handling it another way, would have resulted in another outcome. When I think back, he checked out of the relationship long ago. My sending the text and him calling was just making it offical. It is what he really wanted to do but couldn't be adult enough to do. He is 42 years old but I think has alot of growing up to do.
I know you think I will hear from him again, but I am not going to hold my breathe on that one.
I plan on keeping myself busy like you mentioned. The past few guys I have dated including this one have really hurt my heart. So for right now I am just going to do my own thing.
Again, thanks for your kind words. They helped me more than you know.
I kept my distance for about a week. Then I heard through the work grapevine that he thought I was mad at him, so I thought maybe this all a mis-communication. I did text him to tell him I wasn't mad. And it took him til the next morning to respond, and it wasn't very nice. Next thing you know we are texting back and forth, and he said I was annoying him, then he said that I was pushing his buttons. Then two days later, I sent him a text message ending it between us. I was very nice about it. About 20 mins later he called me, and just kept saying he didn't want a relationship, with me or with anyone. I told him that there was no need to ignore me and be snippy with me on text message. He said he deserved someone good that would give me the 24/7 attention I need. I told him I don't need that, but I do need someone who isn't vacant in my life. We wished each other well and I told him to have a good life. He said I will talk to you soon, and I said have a good life.
I have no plans of talking to him again. All I wanted him to do was be adult about all of it. My feelings are still hurt. He was very cold to me and insensitive.
Still trying to heal from the wounds. I just could't not know what was going on. I had something similar happen and I lived in the dark for 3 years. If he comes back, then it was meant to be. I always felt like he had one foot on the banana peel and one have way in the relationship. I want him to be with me, not forced. Just putting it in Gods hands.
@Blmoon - Thank you so much for the kind words. It did help. I do care for him and do want to be there for him. I understand more than he thinks about going for a mom. There is not anything I wouldn't do for my own. I just feel like he is pushing me away, and I don't know if I should contact him and let him know I am there or allow him to come to me on his own?
I feel like it's a very fine line I have to walk.
I do know he has trust issues but I have slowly but surly trying to earn that with him. Also, I just don't like the fact that he isn't keeping his word. He is saying one thing and doing another. That is concerning to me.
I am willing to do what it takes to keep the relationship going but he has to meet a little bit.
I (Picses) will give you the short version. I have been seeing this cancer man (7/5/1972) for about 10 months. Things have been slow to move but maybe the last 2 months he started calling me his girlfriend. Everything seemed to be going along. He mentioned to me his Mothers health is not doing well, and IF things take a turn for the worse he might have to move to Tennessee. I said ok. Next thing you know I am at work (we work for the same Company) and I have to hear from work people that he is moving to Tennessee. I was so upset. My cancer guy called me saying he was sorry and that we would make this work, and everything would be ok. That we would split our time between the two cities. I said ok. We will make it work.
That has been almost 3 weeks ago since I have seen him. I lightly mentioned to him that I have missed him and would really like to see him, and he has made no attempts to see me. The only communication we have had is very surface conversation texting. He knows I feel unsettled about everything and would like to see him and chat. Last time I have heard from him is Friday, and it was another surface convo. I haven't bothered him, and quite honestly I am so frustrated with the whole thing. Seems like he is avoiding me. I even said that to him, and he said he wasn't but really.
I don't mind the fact he is going for his Mother who is ill. But how he has treated me is not acceptable.
What should I do?
What is going on with him?
Sorry it's been even longer since I have written.
Even more stuff has happened. He came into town for work and I wasn't quite sure if I was even going to see him. As soon as he landed he was texting me to meet him for a bite. I did and we went out to our "old place" had a really good time. Ended up at Starbucks sitting, chatting together, then he told me not to move and he took a pic of me and sent it to his friends. So I took him back to his hotel to drop him off. He told me get out of the car and he hugged and kissed on me. We had an early next day. Next day he was texting me to see what I was up to, I went down to his meeting at lunch and we snuck away to have lunch together. That night I didn't see him, and the next day after his meeting I picked him up for a snack and to take him to the airport. So we go and eat bagels and I love bagels. We sat and chatted... he told me a story about his friends wife and how she left him. Then he turns to me and said if you came home and told me you wanted a divorce I would be very upset. I couldn't believe he was putting me in that spot. He was thinking of me in a wife way. At least that is what I got from that story. Let me know what you think. So as I take him to the airport he is checking out my car to make sure the tires are in shape. WHen he gets out of the car he kisses me and we tell each other that we will see each other soon since we are going to the bears game or so I thought. He leaves and a few days later I get a text from him telling me he has a meeting he has to prepare for and cant go to the meeting. We work for the same company so I find out that it really is the case. I went to the game anyway with my Mom. All the time he was texting me to see how things were. I did't blow up at him. Told him we would have other chances to go to a game. Most girls would have been pretty pissed but I played it cool. Since then, I got more bears tickets. Texted him about them and he didn't respond, couple of days later I texted him to call me. He texted me and said he would call me soon and asked if everything was ok? I said fine. Everyday for about a week something came up. He would text me at some point in the night and tell me he would call me tommorrow. Finally he called me at work and we chatted and he admitted to me about getting the text about the tickets. He said " you will have to forgive me" I think I did see that. So we didn't go to that. Since then I have been playing it cool. No periodic texts to him. I thought I would hear from him on Thanksgiving and nothing. I was pretty disappointed. After thanksgiving on a sunday I texted him about our bears and he bantered back with me on text. That was Nov 20 and then when I was out of town on Dec 4th he texts me like old times. What's up Sweet cheeks? I responded but couldnt believe that he was acting if he had heard from each other the day before. So we went back and forth with texts for hours until 10:30pm at night. The next moring he sent me a pic of bagels with a caption that said "thought of you". I told him that the pic made me go get some too. He said they are so good I at mine and yours. So now I lay quiet not knowing what to think. I plan on sending him soemthing small for christmas. Let me know what you think.... My roller coaster ride isn't over.
Taurus 7.. I am sorry your going through all of this. I will keep you in my thoughts in Prayers.
I am glad your not going to settle. No one should. Especially you.
Two weeks ago my boss went to my taurus's city for a visit. On Friday they called me on the speakerphone and played a little joke. I went along with it. And my taurus said I will talk to you soon. Later that day he sent me a text message to tell me that my boss was good to him and that they had a good visit. And then said "I hope you have a good weekend." First off I was so happy to see a text from him. And he called me first too. WOW.
Shadowmist.. last week I did text my taurus. I was about to post a job he has been eyeing in jacksonville. He responded quickly and said it was really tempting. So it's still not a answer and I sorta wish he would take the job. He would be much more busy and less playtime with his friends.