I know what you mean about stuff not exactly fitting right with the descriptions. I'm a libra sun pisces moon guy and the only balance in my life is nonchalance only because I can sense and absorb my atmosphere's mood, traits, and aura. I've been that way most of my life, so being that I understand more then I want to, I don't have a premiscuous mind for company.
I'm not gregarious, but for some reason parties aren't right without me, (according to my friends.) I hate fighting because I love to fight too much. I'm not emotionally distant at all. I love fairness but most of the time don't really care because I'll cut you off a friendship before wanting to be diplomatic. I'm not indecisive at all. Everything I do is because of a quick resolution only I can execute. I hate pastel colors. Give me intense! I also don't use my looks to get what I want because even though people say I'm attractive, I don't consider myself "all that" or vindictive enough to use anything but my persuasion and facts to win. I'm not into sales. I'm artistic on a lot of avenues, but I'd rather do manual labor to keep my time moving. Oh, and none of my mannerisms are feminine!
At least I'm a loyal friend to folks though. I think with the pisces moon, I always have a fire to strive instead of being dormant because my signs are so contradictory. Wonder if that has to do with my lack of relationships and motivation to be in one. Either that or my libra just gets bored easy. lol