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You have gotten into a vicious cycle of believing things will automatically go wrong just when you are feeling happy. This 'expectation' of failure or disappointment is connected to your childhood, where you learnt not to get your hopes up because they would soon be dashed. Turn your attitude around so that whenever you feel this, you make a determined effort to do the opposite - think and act in a positive way. Tell yourself that things ARE getting better for you and will stay better. Count your blessings instead of your disappointments. It only takes about a month of thinking in a different way for your attitude and luck to change permanently. But it may be too overwleming to think of it taking a whole 28 days - try taking it one day of positivity at a time. When dark thoughts descend, do something positive that makes you feel good in order to shake yourself out of the gloom.

Good thinking!

thankyou, We have known each other for about 4 years and its only the last few months ive realised just how much I like him. I think being out of the dating/ relationship game for 7 years has made me too cautious and worried am reading to much into it. I was working with kids for about 5 years but will have to do loads of training to pursue that line of work again, so yes i am having to really think and reevaluate my career.