Did it ever occur to you that you were not the reason your relationship went south? That maybe he was a dirtbag and you got played? You emailed 2 months ago, and agin recently... now sorry to say it, but isn't that like way too fast for this guy to start doing the "I'm getting married dance", unless he was seeing you both at the same time. You aren't unhappy that he moved on, you are unhappy that he left you feeling like a victim.

No one is happy in a break up, but especially the one who was left feeling victimized. Make a personal rule and stick to it from now on, when it is over, IT IS OVER! No more emails, no late night calls, nothing--he is about as useful to your future as a busted birthday balloon! Stop looking at yourself as the victim here, and start acting like what you are by birthright--a powerful and wonderful woman! So one guy didn't work out... you've probably heard this before, but there are a million more out there and contrary to popular belief, the good ones are not all taken or gay!!! Burn that bridge child, get back in the game and find the one you really are meant to be with!

I don't want to sound obvious, or rude, but the best way to secure your daughter's future is to invest in yourself (as in your education.) No amount of prayer, tarot readings, or other such, will help if you don't put some personal action into the mix. A college fund would be a good start. I know it sounds daunting, but we have a deal with our kids, if they put their allowance into the bank, then we will match the funds dollar for dallar. 20$ a month per child doesn't seem like much, but it adds up, and with interest accruing on an APR, it might help them at least pay for tuition when the time comes. The other part rests squarely on their shoulders (or so they think), they have to make straight "A"s and take accelerated courses in school. Luckily, they have two parents who sit down every night and help them with their homework--but we NEVER do the work for them. The idea here is that if we can't afford to send them to college, then they will, in all likelihood, be able to qualify for scholarship and grant monies. I have also been known to take up an extra seasonal job (under the auspices of having more money for the holidays), but in fact, I take that money and put it directly into their education fund. What happens if they choose not to go to school when all is said and done--nothing... they get out of it, just what they put into it. And they can get a job of some sort and make their way as best they can, until they figure out that maybe college isn't such a bad idea. But, back to your original question, start preparing for her future now, and don't teach her to demean herself by saying she'll meet a "nice man, settle down, and have babies". Sometimes spouses are fickle, make it so your girl can stand on her own two feet and not need to have a man around for security!

The very first thing I would do is go to a local bookstore and find a set of Tarot cards that I feel a personal resonance with. It is much easier to learn how to do the readings if one is pschologically drawn to the cards. Usually these sets come with a book on how to interpret the cards, and have a few basic layouts in them. This will help you get started. I was taught by a family member that the cards represent the wheel, therefore as a cicle they have no beginning and no end. one of the excersizes he had me do was to sit in the center and lay the cards in a circle around me in the order that they were represented in the deck. That way I could learn the relationships between the cards. The next thing he had me do was to shuffle them and then repeat the process--amazingly, there was still a cohesiveness that I could see, but was hard pressed to verbalize. Anyway, that was what he called a centering excercise. Now, if you want to get further involved in the layouts for readings, and at some point incorporate runes into the readings, there are several good books available on the subject. Again, a trip to the bookstore is in order. Who knows, maybe you will become like me, I collect the different sets because the artwork is beautiful, and some make me feel more in touch with the person I am reading for than do others. At any rate, happy hunting, much luck in learning the systems, and blessed be.

Willow