I thought this article by Sarah Bellum was interesting -
"There’s been a lot of talk recently about soul mates and twin flames. Doesn’t it sound exciting to say that you’ve found your soul mate? Of course it does! But the fact of the matter is, that your soul mate is rarely the person who is destined to be your life mate. Now I can’t carve this in stone and say, “Told you so.” All I can tell you is that this is how things have worked in my life, and this is what the countless people whom I have counseled have found to be true, too.
Soul mates and life mate are rarely the same thing. Why? Well, with a soul mate you have a connection to learn something from each other, teach something to each other, or pass through something together in order to grow your eternal soul. That is the definition of a soul mate. This person can be your parent, your child, your sibling, your friend or any other pivotal person in your life. It is rare that this person is your life mate.
A soul mate and a life mate are very rarely the same thing. Soul mate vibrations are higher than life mate vibrations, and to be physically intimate with a soul mate can taint the divine connection that we have with them. Sometimes the physical desires overcome that soul connection — we’re all human, after all! — and that is when the relationship changes from ‘soul mates’ to ‘kindred spirits.’ The connection with a soul mate tends to be one with whom we have a very profound, but non-sexual, relationship, such as a child with its parent, siblings, best friends, and so on. The lack of physical intimacy is what separates it apart and elevates i, keeping it on such a high and profound spiritual level.
Sometimes we meet someone whom we swear we have met previously. This can be deja-vu, or it can be that we have encountered someone who is a kindred spirit to us. Being connected to a kindred spirit means that we share some history, there’s a connection there that transcends the physical. This does not necessarily mean that it is on a soul mate level though.
This is getting heavy, are you still with me?!
Spirit guides are something again different. A spirit guide is not incarnate — by its very name it is spirit, yes? Spirit guides have learned the lesson of earthly incarnation and have transcended them. There is no longer any need to take physical form. Some schools of thought say that it takes many lifetimes to evolve to this level. Some people call these beings “Ascended Masters.” These beings are different to angels in that angels have never taken physical form, so that aspect of their awareness is missing; spirit guides are human first, and evolve up to the spiritual realms.
My own place on the fence is that, while it is important to remember that when we return to Spirit, we keep our soul identity, but our personality fades. We become part of a group of the “collective subconscious,” and while it is possible that we can appear to loved ones as the person whom we were in life, usually it is just that divine energy that makes itself known. Those of us who are still on earth to want that individual connection that we had when the other person was incarnate. However, if we can lift our vibrations up to the collective in Spirit, rather than seeking for them to come down to our dense and human form, we can interact with them on such a much more profound level.
That all gets very heavy very quickly. What I want for you to take from this article is the interconnectedness of all things."
What do you think? Have you found this to be so?
I think that for a happy life, one needs two of these points to coexist in a man. After all, if your lover does not understand you, will not support and at all, you will have different views on life, then nothing will be good.
The key to long relationships is mutual understanding and support! Therefore, you need to find perdon that is soul mate and life mate in one person.