Thank you Nick! Some of that does resonate. Lots of work stuff going on and I'm trying to decide what to do.
The person who I think you see trying to help out..... has been sporadic. I think it could be a good arrangement (help on both ends) but I'm not getting a lot of feedback. On the other hand I would like to feel like I've "paid back" what they've given me even though they do not feel they gave a lot.
What would I need for this? Would prefer one that does not use birthdays...... Thanks!
ps I have really been discouraged lately. I don't want to give up on him after how hard he fought to be with me. I guess when things look "good" (or better) and then it hits me that they are "not the same" by any stretch of the imagination, it really sets me back. I am trying to keep my chin up but wow some days are really hard! I guess as long as he continues to feel positive energy from me when we talk or see each other, that can't be all bad I hope!
Hi Watergirl! Thank you so much! He's being a bit of a pill right now, a bit standoffish so I will likely wait a few days (unless I get my own positive sign in the meantime). I tried to get him to go out for a walk or ride the last few days but last night he went on his own ride THEN posted it to his FB after not answering me about it. Ugh!
I will take it as positive no matter what he says though, perhaps he just needs to hear this from me even if he does turn me down. (good thing I am strong 
)
I have to create a whole new account to change my name, but you're right, I should do so!
Thanks again, hope you have a good day!
ps - I'd like to ask him to a festival/concert in a couple of weeks. I'm sure he's either going with "others" or will be "busy". I plan on going anyway. Any advice on that? I've waited months to ask because I keep hoping things will be better (they are but still not "normal")
Thanks again!
I can't find a way to change the name. Do I have to email support? I know what you mean though. I had a very negative password from when we got in a fight once and never bothered to change it until a couple of months ago. People may scoff but it was shortly after that he started to reach out more. Have a great day! 
Watergirl thank you so much for getting to this and earlier than you suspected.
Funny a few weeks ago he stopped by and made a big deal of banging on the outside door. I told him if I hadn't seen him drive in I never would have heard him (and had unlocked the inside door for him anyway). He told me he wasn't sure who was over, which was the first time he made a comment like that in months. I just looked at him, behind me, my single car in the driveway and said ME. Told another male friend that and he said - hah! He's just checking to see if you're seeing anyone!
The reading sounds good and I will continue on as I have been, calm and steady (though internally frustrated lol)
If I want to check back is there a certain time I should let pass? What spread did you do for me?
Thank you agan, I really appreciate it!
ps - WE have not been intimate since early April so he is not using me for sex
That is a hard one to answer!
I will say this: his sister and cousin (female) worked very hard to separate us.
Cousin introduced him to quite a few women friends
One was very interested in him, introduced via FB about a year ago (she is married with 2 kids, at the time was "getting divorced" but this has not happened yet)
I did an event with him, her and cousin last weekend (her H was there too) and could not get a feel for current interest between them. If there is, I see it more on her end then his. She did not speak or act negatively towards her H and I have seen them at other events and felt the same. This time I spent 6 hrs WITH her and him. And since I also met "person who hates me" for the first time you can believe I put my best face forward!!
Also he is mentioning women as being cute etc, said he loaned his car to a "friend" last week. He did this in March when trying to push my buttons. Either he is doing so again (I have not sent him any emails to his dead acct telling him what he means to me in over 2 mos) or he is putting himself out there for real. When we were a real couple this was a common thing but I never worried about it as I was secure in his love for me. I'm afraid yesterday I bit (ie asked who) when he said he loaned his car out.
Oh as for this girl who "may" be interested (or at least was) she is very positive and outgoing and almost too bubbly. He has done a few group events with her this year that I know of, nothing one on one that I know of. Could be wrong, have not devised the perfect gps system LOL
Not sure if this helps as I don't have a solid cut and dry answer for you!
LOL Tue/Wed is fine. Neither of us are going anywhere.
Hmmmmm you are right, I picked that on another forum almost 2 years ago when I was dealing with something stressful in my life and wondering - why ME?!?!?! And it's not easily searchable by google (people on that forum found that they - and their SO's could google their usernames - oops).
So perhaps I will think about a generic yet more positive username - thanks!
Have a great rest of weekend!
Hi Watergirl! I have read some of your readings in this thread and really like how you explain things!
I am in a bit of a turmoil with a relationship of 3+ years..... I guess the best way to put it is that he decided he needed a break (or that I left him - which I didn't) so a few months ago he withdrew which was quite a shock to me as he was always attached to my hip 24/7!
He has continued to keep me around him though he is hesitant to do things with me. In the last month though he has found reasons to stop by and we've had some great chats. Emails have picked up as well. Last weekend I did a group activity with him that involved at last one person instrumental in keeping us apart during the spring. When we were a couple he did not often let "worlds collide" so I found that quite interesting (and put my best face forward for obvious reasons!)
I find all these "signs" to be positive.
My question is this - is he slowly regaining trust in me and us and will he allow his heart to give us another chance? Our issues are not huge, mainly baggage from our past lives and I have been actively working on mine and can confidently say it's a non-issue now.
I would appreciate any insight you may have. I dearly love this man and would wait for him for as long as need be if he needs time to get his bearings back - providing it is the right thing to do.
Thanks so much for your time!
(ps I never know how much or little info to give!)
Hi KushikamiKiba,
I don't mind at all - thank you!
I have discovered a lot of ups and downs - we both have. I have also discovered ways I can work on them and minimize them, something I was previously not willing to do until I was able to let go of baggage from a past relationship.
The stronger negativity is that he seems to have taken a break (without letting me know when and why) and although he still keeps me engaged by contacting me in many ways, it is not the intense relationship we once had and that I still desire
I have a hard time believing that 3 yrs together were complete lies but I'm sure it happens sometimes!
I find much of what he is doing now is similar to the early portion of our relationship before we were a couple. And I continually hope that this is his way of stepping back in as he regains trust (rumor has it I hurt him bad but no one will clarify that, and I can only guess). My dream is as you say, the relationship will become brigher and both parties will be content - hopefully with each other!
Thank you again.
Hi HealingWays, thanks for taking the time to reply! I did jump into a thread once I had a chance to look around, with a very basic question. Perhaps I will do as you suggested and go with my more specific one in the future.
Thank you again, it seems like a great group here!
Hi Mikyo,
I am looking for insight on a relationship I am in. My dob is 3/18/65
Thanks so much!
ps - I finally found a contact us button. But I'm still confused as to why I didn't get an answer to my question in the reading.
Thanks again!
I can't find the "contact us" so maybe someone here can help.
I just did a 12 card spread (my first paid tarot.com reading) and I thought it would give me a summary of my cards with their interpretation.
I got the summary all right but it's textbook and I don't know how to interpret it! Had I known I never would have bought it.
Is there anyone that can help?
Thanks!