Birdiebee,

Relax Rome was not built in a day!

If you don't hear from him the world will not stop, you will still wake up and go on.

Let it go seriously I don't mean forget about him.....let go of your energy in regards to the outcome. The more you wrap yourself up in guessing his motives and subliminally wanting him to speak to your timeline the more confused you will become.

Remember: Everything happens for a reason and that is just the way it is!

Warm Thoughts,

T.

HI Birdibee,

I would be happy to help you with that!

My name is Teri

Birdiebee,

Sure write him a letter, however men don't "read between the lines" so make it as cut and dry as you can factually. The rest of the letter will be whatever feels right in your heart but before sending read it through and ask your self does this message promote too much emotion?

I have a strong inkling that you sort of scare him with your strong emotional responses to him.

Relationships must have a strong foundation of friendship and some shared deep rooted affinity. If you want him to come out of his shell you need to be less emotionally needy. What about laughter and joking around, lightheartedness? This will go far with this guy! I see him as very hardworking, very stoic and very kind. He is not perfect or a god and should not be treated with worship, he is a compliment a man.

If you sent him a funny card with a maybe "lets go out for coffee" something light not heavy I think you may get a response from him. Remember everyone has free will and there are no absolute guarantees about anything going forward.

Don't worry and fret if you don't get a response from him within a week, my sources are telling me he is concentrating on work right now. He needs some lightness in his life and he is looking for an oasis of sorts from a woman. Does this make sense to you?

You need to concentrate on things that make you feel this "lightness" music, a massage treatment whatever. When you start to feel this light alot of good things come your way.

WOF

If you would like to salvage what is left admit you were scared about disclosing too much too soon.

I stumbled on this post via the front page that sends emails.

Firstly I am astounded at how its all his fault?

Why? quote "He was stressed." "I was trying to play hard to get "he came over kissed me on both my cheeks... acknowleged me at least and then I acted like he wasnt there... left without saying goodbye" "He also threw in that he wished that I would pick up the phone and call himm everyonce in awhile... what? We talked on the phone after that... him calling me of course... because of the time and space comment.

First I am just commenting without astrology just common dating sense.....Can a man not get stressed? Can a man feel overwhelmed by other things besides a woman? If a man goes up to you and kisses you why do you leave? What message does that send him....what would you do if you went up to him like that and he just acted unresponsive and left? I am based on the information you posted and it looks to me like an outsider that you have left him more impressions of non interest hot/cold/hot/cold/cold/cold/hot than he has given you.

I take it you really like this guy alot, or you would not be writing here or posting so I am going to ask you to ponder something. Reflection about how you have acted with him, if you watched this on the big screen acted out would you based on your version of the story blame him entirely? Or what? think about this.

If you want honesty, integrity, disclosure, unconditional love "soulmate" type stuff is this coming through loud and clear to him? I don't think so.

If you would like to salvage what is left admit you were scared about disclosing too much too soon. I can understand with a divorce this is hard to let someone new in and perhaps it's not the right time. I am not saying it meant nothing, sometimes we meet kinred souls whose function is to help us see we are worthy of great love, even if we don't believe it at first.

As for the future the best thing you can do at this point is to start putting out to the universe you are going to be authentic no matter how someone reacts to you. If they don't like it they are not your soulmate. If you remain steadfast to hold true what is in your heart and can articulate genuine warmth without "were are we headed" involved you will be farther along.

Just like you plant seeds in the ground for say an rare orchid, it will grow at it's own pace no slower or faster than it needs to. This orchid will not flower the second week , third week or fourth week, even if you pull up the stock and rub it like a genie lamp. It will flower when it's ready. Love and relationships follow a natural order .... don't push for results let go and trust the universe is working in the backround.

Please try to avoid making astrological influences a make or break with relationships. As someone who has studied quite a bit on this and I am very intuitive, every Cancer is not the same as another, different times of birth, year of birth and where the person was born give the best blueprint of the type of person, but no one should be picked based on a sign or shunned.

All Signs have mixtures eg. Cancer Sun sign, Aquarius Moon sign, Gemini Rising sign, Venus in Leo, Mars in Libra. yes this is possible so many astrological influences are possible. If you want to know what his is search "Astrodienst " plug in his information and viola carry on.

Sending you warm wishes,

WOF

Hi BrianTristan!

Did you see my follow up on page 10 or 11?

Just wanted you to know I appreciated your insight and wanted feedback on the questions about Expat Guy!

Have a grrrrrrreat weekend!

T.

Brian Tristan,

I had to say I had a huge grin on my face reading your suggestions....ah hmmm yes you do know about Expat guy and Doctor!

What do I think about a relationship with Expat...oh god that would be a very interesting partnership....question what about his "hangers on" groupie friends? They are half his age and are constantly making flirtatatious commentary, that I am not sure is reciprocated by him. Heh everyone wants attention, this is my only concern about him. Talking sure we do that yet I get tongue tied around him sometimes and don't really know how to act relaxed. He can get me very excited emotionally and physically and mentally. Like fireworks!

Doctor bud is great to chat with none of the above mentioned symptoms yet can talk deeper about things, though now writing this I can talk very deep with Expat if his posse is not around.

There lies the issue.

Any thoughts of yours are appreciated.

Sending you rays of bubbling pink and purple

Wheelofortune

Brian Tristan, you sure are a girl's most trusted friend! I can see from the posts these ladies have given you and your replies your a very trusted soul. I am adding myself to your network of women that find it difficult to understand men. We are everywhere! lol To have a third party look at a situation with a camera lens is very supportive.

My question is about soul connection and I do know that we all have various relationships that come and go with learning at the key ingredient, (easy to say but hard at times to understand)

I do believe in soul mates not perfect mates, the basis of these connections for me is very much an emotional connect that is more intense then the physical. Not that the physical is not present but there is this undercurrent of cord connection between both people.

As I have digressed at bit here is the question:

I was introduced to a man about 9 years ago, we were both single both out of previous relationships. I was instantly drawn to his soul like he knew me, he felt the same and told me so. Over the years we did not have the maturity to really understand what this relationship was meant to help each of us with as we do now. I can even think of him now and tears come to my eyes remembering something I just can't put my finger on that draws us together. So much love, very unconditional, and can be somewhat heavy.

The ease though is that he lives in the middle east as a expat since 2008. He has come back to visit his children twice and is coming again May 24th. We have IM'd each other and had a long talk two weeks ago, he wanted me to know that he was just a mess and that is why he felt he could not be the man that he wanted to be for me that I deserved so much more. He wanted to know if I had a good man in my life and replied I had a friend who I have met since January and we are very much in tune. I said key word "friend" this new guy I feel also very connected to in a different way like we are very very in tune and feel very similar about god, service to others, treating all people with respect as a matter of fact he is a doctor. This was one man destined to his calling as he has no desire for prestige or for money just helping people. He asks me to give him good energy and he gives it back to me. I really care about him and feel someone protective of him.

Now for your insight, what do you sense from the first guy and myself? Should I meet up with him when he comes? I am scared to fall back as he gets under my vunerablility, and I feel this huge pull when I see him. Is it over? Is it just beginning....

Second guy who came out of nowhere, what is going on there? What is manifesting?

I am in no rush for the answer, as I feel it will just come to you when your ready to reply.

Thank you in advance,

Namaste!

Hi Captain,

Hope you enjoyed your time away!

I was reading the above link about soulmates and would like to ask you a question.

I was given a reading by an intuitive in June 09. At that time she told me about a man whom I have known for 7 years, (June 2 1962) piscies rising ,who she said was not my twin but a soulmate. He is currently overseas in Qatar on buisness and has been away for a year. The intuitive felt that this relationship if it was going to happen would be after 2 years. She then explained that I would meet another person in the meantime, and I have and he is exactly how she described. I am floored at how acurate this has been as I certainly was not looking for him.

This new guy is (June 16 1970) cancer rising and I am November 6 1963 Virgo rising.

I really have been asking for guidance by praying about this and want some clarity.

What are your intuitive thoughts?

I look forward to your reply.

Icearia,

I am happy to sit on th warm rocks and sun myself by our expanding pond! Thank you sincerely for your blessing. Somedays we need more sun than others to sustain us when the clouds and rain roll in. Everything for a reason, we need the rain to keep filling our pond!

Namaste dear one

Iceariea.....AMEN to that! We all have been in the places you spoke of , myself included. Thanks for your blessing!......and may the angels keep you safe in their wings when you need it most!

Lovingly....W of F.