Like Sarah says, learn to love yourself first. As individuals we know what makes us tick and so ask yourself what makes me tick as opposed to what do other people do to make me tick.

Also if you are constantly putting yourself in the realm of need and want, that is the message that you are sending out to the universe and nothing will change. Think of what you have already in positive terms, of how you are blessed. Be comfortable with you.

I wonder if you have ever tried any form of meditation or used positive verbal reinforcement or affirmations. I know that on this site there are links to sites that can help you with this. One of my favourite books is Symbol Therapy by Ulli Springett.

Look at how you can spend those hours you are overspending at work to do something creative - find another aspect of yourself in this. You will have so much fun doing it. Have you heard of The Artist's Way? Look into it....

I wish you all things good.

Love light and peace

Hi there Brighid

I also have a son who is Virgo and like yours, he is a sensitive soul! I know what you mean about staying in your shell but I prefer to call it getting space!! There are times when I just don't want do be disturbed by the outside world at all - which includes unplugging the phone...

I feel it is because of the work that I do and I just need to take time for myself to recharge.

Although I didn't post this I also had a question about 5! It is relevant to the home I am about to move to. I have certainly been getting out of a rut and clearing my life of things that are no longer necessary, including relationships!

Hello to all!

I'm new here. I was so thrilled to find this site!! Especially since there is a communication option with other site members.

I have had a fascination in astrology for many years and would hope to learn more here. I am a Complementary Therpaist by profession.

Hi there! I am Cancer - born at 13.38gmt July 22, so I cusp Leo.

I studied literature, philosophy and history of art and worked in PR and Marketing in creative arts for many years. At the tender age of 36 I decided to have a career change and studied three disciplines of complementary medicine. I also teach relaxation and meditation both one to one and workshops. Untill recently I have been working with a project to help people who have had long term health issues, preventing them from working, to be able to return to the work place.

I decided about a year ago that both my self and my youngest son (older two having flown the nest) needed a change and we are in the process of moving house (in the next couple of weeks) to somewhere totally new. I have no idea what I am going to do other than something in Comp Medicine. I am letting the universe guide me....

I have found that when I tune into my intuition and go with the flow I am much happier than when I listen to outside influences. I am truly dreadful at realtionships - I end up being in rescue mode and it ends in disaster for me. I tend to crawl back into my shell relationship wise when it all comes to an end. With age comes wisdom! I am very guarded about who I allow in my innersanctum these days and read people better.