it almost felt like it was him saying those things to me and that's why i responded. it upset me.

I felt compelled to respond further to this post from ccfine page 1. It confuses me how this person seems to think I'm the only one to blame....

You not only judjed him as if you were God. You sentenced him and carried out his punishment.............I never judge anyone. I felt a distance. I gave him space. I never did anyhting to him whatsoever.

He was not only deeply hurt and insulted your actions took away any trust and hope he had for a loving relationship with you..............What actions? I didn't do anything.

You however could become willing to learn the ways of honesty and loving communication..............Thanks but I know how to be a good girlfriend. I am loving and blunt. So where am I at fault? hmm. And always bettering myself. Sure I have issues. Who doesn't? He had communication issues. He never flat out said I'm interested in you. I want to be with you. Somehow those words were most difficult to him. For this reason I always felt unsure about how he felt about me.

Hi Amy, After reading your post I felt as if I almost could've posted this. I have had very similar feelings of being unloved, unwanted, unsure of self worth. I have found listening to the positive voice instead of the negative one has helped immensely. I don't recommend trying to control your emotions. Managing your emotions ---yes. What has helped me is when I feel unloved questioning my emotional reactions and (trying) to change them. It's helped so far. I'm really my own therapist.

Hi Cancerman276, it seems we have a somwhat similar situation. I believe we could find a friend in one another perhaps.

MUCH better without him, much happier. humility.. He's angry at me for whatever reason and I don't care anymore, Such a waste of time. he can just deal with his own anger. He has a warped perception of me. And I believe he took out his anger from what a previous ex-girlfriend did to him out on me. She cheated on him. i feel bad for him. And he'll just have to deal with the fact that we have mutual friends.

Stay away from men that play games. it's not worth it. Don't get under their spell. I was very naive and innocent and he took advantage of that.

in this situation he wasn't taken for granted, i'm sorry if you were.. but i wouldn't do that. i'm the one who gets taken for granted unfortunately..

ccfine--that's not what happened.

I think many cancers have issues with saying how they feel obviously. I like the upfront/straightforward approach. And I know not all Cancers are Vanishers like this, just a few bad apples. ..This is what happens when you give your heart to someone and never think they'll stomp all over it.

Well said, Piscesstar...Yeah I've been doing nothing but blame myself and be down on myself I don't think I need to keep doing that.

it's horrible. i'm sad when i think about this happening to others.

ok, so I don't usually post here but i decided hey maybe i can get some perspective from an outsider about Cancer men. How do they just cut you out of their life like you're nothing? And then be all happy. Or are they really good at hiding their feelings? We had some jealousy issues (both of us) and then i started to feel things changing, and i was feeling like i wasn't getting enough attention so i tested him a little, he was sorta doing the same thing to me so i did it back. And then one day he decided to cut me off completely and never talk to me again. And this happened a few months ago but damn I still feel the pain. I feel numb sometimes. Is this how Cancers are? He hasn't tried talking to me at all. The thing I don't understand is he acts like he's great, like he wasn't sad at all. That is what hurts the most. It tore me up thinking that all the time, so depressed seeing him happy (not that I don't want him to be happy). I know people will say Get over him, he's a jerk, coward.etc. But I really felt like this is the one for me. I can't disconnect for some reason. I'm getting there, I'm much better than I was. Anyway, it's the worst thing anyone has ever done to me and i still want to be with him go figure. I never thought he would do that to me. I see him having bad karma for doing this to me. I'm a Scorpio female by the way. We both have Libra Moons.