Hello ladies! It feels like forever since I've been here. so much has happened with you ladies, I'm getting caught up. Well I am proud to say I've discovered the holy grail - the most honest V irgo man that has been comfortable enough to share all of the v irgo enigma that's being discussed in this thread. Let me first start by saying, he's a mid September v irgo. He has all of the typical v irgo qualities - very very good looking, physically fit, amazing eyes and smile, great job, makes good money, witty and oh yeah, mucho sexy! Now, the v irgo qualities, aka the bad things (based upon what one considers bad, this view may vary). Okay so let's start with the fact that he's narcissistic to a fault! Being full of himself is an understatement. He constantly pats himself on the back and says how amazing he is. He says he deserves the very best from a woman because he's worth it, which is not bad at all, but this is his daily mantra! He says that while he thinks he's amazing and deserves everything a woman has to offer, he would never date himself if he were someone else. He says he wants the same thing a woman would want in a man. I tried to get him to explain that but he couldnt. He did say it annoys him that women need to be constantly told how beautiful they are and need so much reassurance. He said he sees that as an insecurity. He said he takes after his dad as far as character is concerned. His dad had a gambling and drinking problem, left his mom and siblings when he was about 4, he was a liar, loved several women at once, and was a hustler (had several jobs, even illegal ones). .His dad left his mom and siblings in the middle of the night and never returned. He left with all the money that was left for the family so he and his family became homeless. They slept in the street or wherever they could find shelter. So now he said, as an adult, he looks for a woman that is financially secure because if ever he had to leave, she wouldn't be homeless and poor the way he was. He was married for nine years but he said he and his wife grew apart. They now have three kids together (I think), the mom has the kids. He's about 38 years old and lives with roommates! How is that even comfortable to do? To each his own, I guess. Let's see, he said he's a major freak, he said I couldn't even fathom how much of a freak he is. The day he told me all of this he was telling me that he was thinking about breaking up with his current "friend" because she didn't want to give him the cookie (if you know what I mean, wink wink). I asked how long they'd been together, he said he wasn't sure. I asked if he knew if she thought they were in a relationship, he said probably. So I asked how many "friends" he had, he said a lot, not sure how many. So then I asked him how many of them thought they were in a relationship with him? He wasn't sure. He said he never wants to get married and he said he also isn't relationship material. I was thinking um, obviously! I couldn't help but think, wow, the woman that falls for him is nuts. He said he never understands why women he dates think they can change him. He said he laughs inside when they try. So I asked the question I think most of the ladies on this thread want to ask - WHY DO YOU DISAPPEAR???!!! Well he put on the sneakiest smile and said because I like to ;). That I found very interesting so I pressed him and said he likes to see his woman squirm, but overall he genuinely needs private time to himself. H e said he disappears and that if the girl he's with at the time disappears also, it makes him anxious and he starts reaching out to her to get her back in. That once she's back in, he feels okay again. I asked why go through all of that trouble, he said because he hates feeling normal. He said once a relationship starts to feel normal he pulls back. The tension keeps him excited, I said well then you know you're going to lose the opportunity to have some really great people in your life because of that and he said he knew, but he didn't mind, I said what about the people you hurt? He said he's always very honest so it's their fault. I had to agree with him there. He then went on to say that the woman that doesn't complain about his disappearing and gives him his space is the one that usually becomes the one but he would never tell her that. How immature, right? Hahahah, ugh!
That's all the material I have for now. I just met him so I'm trying to get as much info for you guys as I can. I'm not dating him, we're working together. But of course like the v irgo he is he flirts a bunch so I can use him as a pawn to answer all of our burning questions, lol.
About my situation, still the same. I still have strong feelings for my v irgo despite everything that has happened. We recently reconnected, still haven't seen him, but he asked if I was in love, I said yes so then I asked him if he was and he said a little bit and that he has a thing for me, not even sure what any of that means, but oh we'll see. I'm sure things will remain retarded for a while, lol. I'm actually really consumed with my life and don't have time to think about "us". I love him and always will. Who knows if we'll ever be together?
Anyway, ladies, gotta get back to work. love and light to you all