Dear Shenita,

I'm in a fog. My love and my wife have left for the second time. The first time hit like a ton of bricks. I still have no clue why or what specifically the issues are. She still loves me but is not living with me. She is willing to toss everything away and end the marriage for ?? That is the part I don't understand. When you ask her you never get a direct answer. Her past somehow seems to be some part of the problem but I'm not sure. She will say we argue all the time but when you don't argue she will bring up something else that is vague. I'm in a fog trying to figure this out.