Hi laithano,

Am trying to make headway in all directions of my life but seem to hit blocks. Can you plase let me know the reasons for this. Thanks

Hi Lavama,

Just read about your plight and the caring responses.

Was in a similar situation some 20 years ago and made the decision to go alone. However much much later I had deep regrets as there were other factors at play.

Do not make an emotional decision when you are vulnerable. The worse insult is when your husband cheats on you. But many women forget and devote their lives to their kids and that is ok.

However think about the original reasons why both of you came together. Do you still love him and care about him? Can you find it in your heart to truly forigve him? It may not be possible to forget, but remember that the reason why men have affairs is because they feel neglected.

Just kids at heart I guess. It also depends on their true character. If he has been honest in the past and is sincere and regets it then give him a second chance.

Think of the long term effects it will have on your son and you. People wil give you advice but only you know the true gravity and all of the information. Advice taken on snippets of info that you have given might cause you to take a decision that you might regret later.

So please give very careful thought and see if you can go away alone and contemplate deeplybefore you arrive at a decision.

Words of wisdom Leoscorpion.

It is only when you are comfortable with yourself that you begin to attract people who are of similar mind. Life is too precious to compromise your standards.

Be true to yourself and all lifes answers will be revealed at the right time, not when we search desperately.