You've been dating this guy 4 years and you still haven't been given his home phone? He has not introduced you to his family, nor can you call his cell phone once he hits home? wanting to put this as gently as possible Has it ever occurred to you brokenhearted that your man is married, or at the very least in a committed relationship with another? These complaints you've listed are all classic textbook signs pointing towards a cheater. It's time for you to call in the Queen of Swords! She will help you to see the writing on the wall. The Queen of Swords is strong, has a mature intellect, is well respected and will help you to cut through any bull***t confusion this man has created in your life. You need her clarity. Study her, learn her...become her.

Cancer Female 48 years young

1. I have self confidence issues.

Yes...and as I've aged I've learned that most everyone else does too. Cool aye?

2. I tend to look at the negatives versus the positives

I can...especially when it comes to business. In people...at times, but then that fairness thing kicks in, and I quickly check myself.

3. I am often unmotivated and lazy

No...I am not unmotivated, nor lazy. Even when I was young I had to be always doing something.

4. Relationships mean much more to me than money or material things

No... money means a great deal to me. The more I have the more secure I feel

5. I often live in my head because I don't want to face reality

Yes...very true for me as well. I have learned to keep a journal to channel some of that.

6. I have used and abused **** and cigarettes as an escape

Yes...especially in my younger years when anxiety levels were high

7. I judge myself against a standard I can not live up to

Yes...but that's okay. Shoot for the moon that way if you miss you still land amongst the stars sort of thing. (Cheesy I know, but true)

8. I can be vain

Yes....definitely.

9. When I fall in love I can become dependant

No. In fact I often get complaints that I seem to not give a crap (but I do)

10. I am often indecisive

Business/ large purchases I take my time to mull things over, but do come to a decision I generally feel good about.

11. My surroundings affect my mood dramatically

Yes! Dirty surroundings will put me in a foul mood. Sitting at a table with people who have poor table manners will send me through the roof.

12. I don't enjoy being alone unless I'm in a relationship with someone who loves me and desires me.

I love my time alone, but I also love being social as well. Everyone needs to feel loved and desired. Human nature

13. I easly get depressed when I feel alone

Mmm no...not really

14. I enjoy taking care of people more than taking care of myself

Gads no. Though I have looked after those who needed to be looked after, I was always glad when I didn't have to anymore.

15. I think about life, death, and the meaning of life far too often

Yes

16. I have a hard time consentrating on things that don't mean much to me

I am always hungry for knowledge so I'd have to say (no) to this. I am one of those weirdos that reads the back of shampoo bottles as they soak in the tub, or reads milk cartons while eating breakfast.

17. As a Cancer man I feel way to emotional and worry way to much.

No...I am not emotional...but I will admit to the over worry thing.

18. I sometimes have a hard time sticking up for myself because I always stop to think about wheather what the person is saying is true or not. And even if it's not true, I feel guilty about fighting with a person I care about.

When I was younger no...now that I'm older I find it more and more difficult to defend myself. (strange) Yes I do battle guilt when I've argued with a family member, or friend.

19. I often blame myself for things that aren't always my fault.

At first yes, until the voice of reason kicks in and I have a long talk with myself. lol

20. I am physically attractive but I often feel dumb or not manly enough

At times yes...now for the manly thing I'd have to say, no.

If you believe any of these things relate to being a Cancer please let me know. Thanks!

Sweetmaddness

Him: Sun-Virgo, Moon-Cancer, Venus-Leo, Rising-Scorpio

He being a Virgo he is drawn to order, neatness, and intelligence. W/ his moon in Cancer, he has a rather dark, moody, secretive side to him, (loves intrigue) Venus in Leo, be prepared to dull out the applause and praises for his athleticism in the sack. That giant, roaring sexual ego needs to be fed and regularly. Scorpio Rising...again there is a tremendous secretive/abracadabra here-one-minute-gone-the-next type. (loves a mystery and to be a mystery) So what to do what to do. With his Sun being in Virgo, his Rising in Scorpio, and his Moon in Cancer I highly recommend appealing to his, or these types through intellect. A late night message (simple in context) but provoking will get you noticed and remembered. Don't ask a lot of personal questions in one setting. This will loan him that air of mystery and the emotional playroom he needs. It is definitely about the thrill of the chase. And when he has his catch in hand ideally it should be one that holds some mystery and challenges their intellect for some time. In their eyes the CATCH becomes a PRIZE. This one time romantic interest of yours would make a great CIA OPERATIVE.

A very clear line she has drawn, and you are already feeling the effects (coolness,distance,silence)

You need to move on for now and leave things be exactly as they are between you and Cancer girl. Concentrate on YOU. Should you take what has transpired PERSONALLY? If you don't it will all be for not. Take it to heart...letting it inspire a season of strong reflection and then opportunity for positive CHANGE in you.

CANCERwomanexGames your comment, "ok thanks...... anyone else. PLEASE its killing me!" gave me a chuckle

Okay now onto the situation at hand,

If what you did to get arrested had ANY kind of a violent theme...you can pretty much count on any female being leery/afraid/nervous...but especially the Cancer female! They are all about security! At the first sign of trouble they emotionally retreat into their shells until they can either figure a plan of attack or escape! It's fight or flight!!! No doubt she had feelings for you, but the Cancer also has a strong sense of duty, loyalty and family base. So if her parents or a parent type figure learned of your arrest and voiced a strong negative reaction to this...your Cancer is going to pull the plug and end this source of contention. Her crying and the come here and go away can be the simple duality of loving you and doing what she felt was the right thing. I sense a young girl, muchacha who is quite traditional.

I would have to agree with AquaBubbles and advice no pressure. No pressure may consist of backing way off. He wants time...give it to him most definitely. He needs space...give him miles. Meaning, no emails, texts, phone calls. Let him get a real sense (FEELING) what it's like not to have you in his world. And too 5-6 months is not a terribly long space of time to get to know someone. That isn't enough time to figure out what type of rhythm your relationship might have. For now go with the flow...

Wish you the very best,

Vanillaskies (also a Cancer)

Yay!!! Happy for you

You've no choice MRMCNULTY. If she's telling you she doesn't like guys that's a pretty good indicator that things won't develop the way you'd like them to. There is no need here for the tarot cards, and all the crystal balls in the world aren't going to give you the answer you seek. Offer her your friendship, and then nothing else. Anything more might seem like pressure. And you wouldn't want to do that to do that.

I get the distinct feeling there is more to the story than you are letting on, (that's okay though) Things will get figured out. Will take some time and he will need some space to lick his wounds. And PassionateCancerGuy is SPOT on when he says Cancer guy can't just be friends, especially when he has let you "into that zone." So much time and energy has been dedicated by the Cancer to let you in...so much time and energy on YOUR part to get into that trusted spot. Again, let TIME do it's job here which will allow things to settle down a bit, and the different influences involved will make themselves known so that the BEST possible choices can be made.

~Best wishes

Make no mistake about the Cancer YES they can have a sweet nature, but if for some reason you're not their type (romantically speaking) they will let you know. They will just do it gently...or if after you divulge your feelings and suddenly they are dogging you in the corridors...that's usually a clue too. If he is INTO you...be prepared for some Cat and Mouse. They enjoy a good chase. It's also in Cancer character to feel a need to leave some things unsaid for the sake of being mysterious. They are private individuals, and you will not get to know everything about them overnight as you might with some of the other SIGNS. Be Warned! They don't want to know everything about you in one sitting either. Be somewhat aloof with him, yet cordial. They tend to lean toward those who exude an air of confidence (not to be confused with arrogance) If in a room where you and your Cancer are present along with another male I suggest giving most of your attention to the other male making only occasional eye contact with the Cancer followed by the briefest of smiles. (Spsst the Cat and Mouse Game) Learn it...use it

~The very best of luck to you brett119