Would you like any outside help or advice with this? I see you have reached out to specific forum members.

It is always nice to have someone to empty your head with, even if we are all strangers here. Actually, at times, strangers are the easiest to dump on as there are no ties afterwards. But one must realize that, as strangers, we have a very superficial understanding of each individuals circumstances. Some advice is good and some is really just, for the lack of a better term, 'out there'. We need to look into our own situations and our own motives as we are the ones who ultimately live with the decisions that we make. Keep your chin up with your confidence, you are beautiful.

Thank you Captain, I have recently signed her up in a competitve swimming program which is right along the lines of your suggestion, it is not however a school program. We are triathletes and she has displayed some interest in the 3 sports but swimming is the most readily available team program for girls her age. I am hoping that this does instill some self confidence. Fortunately we are a vegan household and do not have many bad snacks in the house, so that has not become an issue for her...except an occasional cookie here and there. I will say that she is actually a very disciplined girl and has always been at the top of her class in both academics and standardized testing. I have rarely had to remind her to do her work which I hear can be difficult with some kids her age, so I am lucky in that regard. I'm just a bit concerned about the school related friendship troubles. She is very good with her local friends.

Thank you ScorpWolf. I find her vivacious and energetic but also see that she can begin to feel sorry for herself if things aren't going her way. Kids can seem mean at times but it's just part of all of their growth process socially. How can I get her to not take everything so personally? These are such crucial years. Anyone who wishes to give advice, please do.

Hi my daughter is 13 and is having a great deal of difficulty with other girls in her class. She is feeling like an outsider and hasn't any real friends in school, though she does have some neighborhood friends. Her birthday is May 6, 1998. Any advice or insight would help a great deal

Hi astronelly. I stumbled on this thread and I couldn't help but to weigh in. While it seems that you have a desire for freedom, it also seems that you have a wanting to be part of something that is bigger than just being alone. I am a believer in romance and, as a Sag myself, freedom in romance. It seems that you had some very caring feelings for the Pisces man, there may be some very good reasons for this which only you can be aware of as you were in the relationship. Having been with a man, who I am still with, while he had an extended period of being unemployed, I can understand how his inferiority has led him toward neediness. This is a trait that I found incredibly oppressive. I also decided, against others advice, to stick with this man because I loved him and had developed a history that only I understood. I did, at first try to distance myself from him but found that it wasn't what I wanted but was my heeding advice from others. He is now working and probably finds me needy now, but am so happy that I stuck by him through his difficulty...as is he. I am a bit concerned about advice that is purely objective without having a grasp of the details of your caring for these men who others are telling you to completely cut off. Only you can determine that based on what you have experienced with them and based on what traits you found attractive about them. When you are with someone for a year and a half, you must have some faith in your own judgment that there was a reason why you had wanted him to share a part of your life for that long. I just hate to see someone regret actions suggested by others.