Hi pilotguy - did you actually tell her that you were MARRIED? OR did you just say that you were "with someone". OR did you say you were "seeing someone" or that you had a :girlfrined".

Did you actually tell her that you were "living with someone". The reason I ask is because many years ago I had someone I knew pay a lot of attention to me. We talked a lot on the phone and we became very good friends. I was pretty sure he had a girlfriend of some sort but he never mentioned her - or when he did it was like "my - uh - girlfriend" - never by name or anything. After about 6 months of talking and emailing - I find out that his girlfriend that has lived with him for several years reads his email, spies on his phone bill, has people she questions about his whereabouts, etc. (ie a real strange - insecure person). Had I known he had a girlfriend that lived with him, I never would have emailed him and probably would not have placed as much trust in him as I did. Maybe he really did want to be my friend and that's why he didn't tell me until an issue surfaced, or maybe he was embarrassed about her behaviour - either way - it wasn't made clear from the start.

So what I am saying is - make it very clear what your situation is and that it IS NOT GOING TO CHANGE ANYTIME IN THIS CENTURY and that you hope she is able to find someone that she is a happy being with as you are wife your wife.

Hi Aries68 - Captain is right - you are stuck (unfortunately I recognize being "stuck" all too well). I waited ar too long for others to get "unstuck" and it delayed me being able to "move". In the meantime, I became more burdened.

A.) you are NOT repsonsible for paying or contributing to the support that your boyfriend must pay for his exwife and kids. You are responsible for your share of rent, food, gas, personal stuff, clothes etc. and after that - whatever you care to contribute to his share of the rent, food,utilities etc. - different couple work this out differently. But his past debts are his debts.

B,) This may sound silly - but evaluate what sort of car you were driving when you got hit - make, color etc. There are statistics that show that certain makes and colors do tend to get hit more often for some odd reason. If both cars were white - I would get a different color this time.

C.) Is it possible for you to walk or get public transporatation to work, etc. just for a short period of time? After the first accident, you may have been unconsciously afraid of being hit again and being injured. I have this saying - what you are most afraid of killing you - will.

I have had a couple of friends who were so afraid of dying from cancer that they were obsessed with excercise, eating healthy, air filters in their homes, - always suspicious of pesticides, etc. and you know - they died of cancer. I knew someone else who would never ever go sailing on the bay because, even though they were a very good swimmer, they were deathly afraid of drowning. They went fishing with a friend on the Delta in a small boat and the boat somehow capsized and they both drowned. So I wonder if you might have "attracted" the second accident. by subconscious fear. Just a weird thought I had.

D.) As hard as it is for me to say this because I am the "fixer" person a home and at work. I am sick of it. When I need help - I have to pay for it - either emotionally or monetarily,. Other people expect me to "clean up after them" or fix issues at work and I am always trying to take care of things for the kids that my husband never would. I got sick of it. But if I need help - they don't even respond. As bad as it sounds, I have had to decide to only give what I get back from certain people. I am not reponsibe for everyone else and neither are you.

I hope you feel a little better. Good luck.

Hi ShortyiX - hahahah - where are all those young guys who are suppposed to be lining up at my door? I think Igot tired of being nice and nurturing to everyone else. I'm gonna go eat some chocolate and try to take an art class and get a massge before I have no time (if all those guys show up - well I won't even have time to do my laundry I will let you know what happens. An exciting reading for sure. thanks!!!!

Hi ShortyIX: If you hve time after all of the other requests, I would love for you to do a reading for me. I don't know if you need my BD. It is 3/14/1958. a general reading would be okay. I guess you could say I am kind of tired of being "alone." thanks a ton. I have not done well myself when reading for other people, or I would offer in return. Even the pendulum that I use that ued to be very good for me has been off lately. thanks!!

Thanks Reesey - I just checked in today - sorry I didn't say thanks earlier. Gee - I wonder where the guys are then?? They must be hiding under my rug. They aren't knocking at my door..:) Oh well - its quieter without them.

Hi ScorpWolf - you posted something else I laughed at because my Scorpio friend's always listened to me better than anyone else - but I think its partially the "intuitive" part of the Scorpio/Pisces connection because you can already figure out what the other one is going to say - or they can say it in a way you understand. My Geminii husband NEVER listens to me. I will be talking to him, get 2 words out and he walks away.. I will tell him the same thing 300 times and he swears I did not tell him. (WE are in the middle of a divorce separation) But both the Scorpio and the Geminii have one thing in common that irks me - they both want to shine over other people. Scorpios are sneakier about it whereas the Geminii just busts in and takes over the stage - IMO. No matter how hard I worked, what I did or how great of a thing I did, it would always get overshadowed by one of the "superstars." I hated that. My husband stole almost every little bit of my 5 minutes of fame for himself and them some.

At least the Scorps complement me the same percent of the time they are telling me what I did wrong :). On the other hand, I also know that if my Geminii go real mad. he would probably come back and he won't let me starve out in the cold. If a Scorpio gets real ticked off at you - I feel that you are out of luck. BtW - My scorpio friends can see right through the Geminii and all the BS he is pulling while trying to steal credit for himself.

Scorpios - what can I say - they are great but don't make them mad - big ouch.

My best friend in high school was a Scorpio. I am Pisces. WE were artists of different sorts. She was weird. I was werid. It was great fun. Til she started going out with guys I wouldn't "bring home to mom." But we were still friend til we moved to opposites sides of the country.

One of my best friends is a Scorpio guy - if I can call him a friend. I laughed when I saw some of the posts - Asia's story about her friend blaming HER for his cell phone battery dying! My friend did the same to me. Also blamed me for the crick he got in his neck while talking to me on the phone one night for 2 hours. Also got pissed off at me because his GF got pissed off at him for talking to me too much. Keeps his emotions bottled up so no one can see them. Except for an intutive person like a Cancer or Pisces or another Scropio maybe.

I do believe that when they get mad and have these short temper outbursts, they do feel remorse - even if they never say they are sorry. I do the same thing. Note that these temper outbursts are not situations where Scorpios get really mad. If they get really mad you need to take cover and they will likely leave and never ever return - even if they utimately realize that it wa partially their fault. They are survivors. They are calculators and if they see something they want or want to do, but they can't have it right now, they will slowly plan and work and rework their plan until they reach their goal - but you may not understand the steps they are taking when they do it. Even though I am Pisces - I do the same thing. Sort of like an architect visualizes how a house will look when it is finally built and starts to draw the blueprints before drawing a final picture. I will have an idea for something in the yard. I know I have to dig a couple holes. SO I dig them, but my husband will not understand what I am going to do with the holes. Then I will do something else out of sequence because maybe I do not have the money or time to do everything insequence so that you can see it taking shape - but I know what the final outcome is supposed to be. Except I think Scorpios have more concrete and realistic ideas about how their visions will come to pass, whereas mine are a little more difficult because maybe I don't realize the full extent of grabity on this planet or something like that. Scorpios can be very kind but they can also be very crueland harsh. Because they keep their emotions bottled up until they overflow you may never know how they really feel until the bottle overflows unlike a Pisces who cries when they are sad and screams when they are mad - who show all their emotions to everyone almost all the time. Scorpios are much better poker players.

Hi - I hope someone answers your question because it is very similar to my own. I have been told that Scorpio/Pisces is best for just friendship. My situation is that I am in a separation/divorce mode for about 3 years. I am a Pisces and I met my Scorpio friend throught my husband and it was instantaneous friendship like wehad known each other all of our lives. Yes - we think the same things and even though we grew up in different parts of the country we even spent some of our summer as kids in some of the same places that most people really don't usually go to - that is particularly weird I have never ever cheated on my husband or ever gone looking for someone else. I have been married for 19 years and can tell you that I never connected with my husband like this. Like you - I cannot get this guy out of my head or make him "go away." We are just friends and mostly just talk on the phone. His first wife was a Pisces. She "accidentally" got PG and got him to marry her and he had to stop school and work on his business to support her. Then she embezzled money from his company and he divorced her -it was very messy - he lost a lot. He has aGF that has lived with him for a few years that is not much better than his ex - but he doesn't see it. He says he loves her but never ever talks about her to me - what they do or anything - its like she is a piece of furniture. I get that he does not talk to her much either or why would he be talking to me? WE are very good friends and have a very high connection. Its one that other people just cannot understand. Its bigger than lust or love or being in love. Unfortunately, his GF is immature and jealous and if she even suspects he has been talking to someone casually in the grocery store I think she rails on him. She has him collared on a short leash. This type of person can never ever understand that a male and a female can be really good friends without sleeping together and I think this has not happened between us because he doesn't want to deal with any drama right now anyyway. Like you - we get lost in each other's eyes if we happen to have a moment where we can stop and actually look at each other and its really weird - like watching 2 people in one of those old movies as they fall in love. If we happen to be in the same room together and stand next to each other, the energy is obvious. You could run a light bulb off of it and I am sure that other people notice. Certainly if we were inthe same room with either my ex husband or his GF they would both notice and both have major temper tantrums over "ownership." So we have to avoid getting into a siuation where either of them might even be in the same room or at the same function..

I cannot give you much real advice. I do not "wait" for my friend to be free. I am actually just too busy to do that. I do "miss him" if we do not talk for a couple weeks, but I don't call him as much anymore because it makes things harder for me to deal with really. I also know that regardless of how much he likes me, if I need someone to help me, I still have to call my ex-husband or maybe someone else because my friend lives further away and he cannot just "bolt" from his house and drive 15 miles to help me out - it doesn't seem that far but I guess his GF would question him about where he was going and what he was doing - you know.

So even though we are very good friends - he is not the kind of good friend that I can call up to come over and play scrabble with me or come over and help me move my couch or hold a ladder . So, for right now - it's just something to fantasize about and that's that.

As for your situation - There is a child involved. If she leaves him and leaves the child with him - he becomes a single dad and a lot of his attention will then be focused on the child. SHould you choose to have a relationship with him and even move in with him, you become a convenient "mommy" substitute for him. If she leaves and takes the child or has shared custody things might be better but then he has to pay child support etc. and he still has obligations that keep you from being number 1. You will always be less than number 1. You are already situated below his current GF and his child and whatever else. You like him, he knows it and he uses that to get what he needs from you. I hate to say this but - he is - perhaps subconsciously - using you to fill a need without giving you back what you any commitment. You are allowing yourself to be treated this way and allowing him to treat you like less than you should be treated. If he does become free, he will be used to being able to treat you like this. This will lead you to feeling resentment and eventually you would realize that you are not that happy and would want to leave. So from my point of view - stop giving him what he wants, when he wants it - just because you want it. Stop accepting the scraps he gives you. Seriously, where did he spend Christmas, New Year's - holidays, etc? If he spent them with his child and GF then that will give you your answer. You are essentially nothing more than a mistress. Put a lock on yourself and try to keep your feelings bottled up until you see what he is really going to do . If he actually starts going out with you in public and truly leaves his GF you can access the situation. But don't give him much unless you know what is really happening. Then consider what the next 10 - 15 years would be like if he also has to take care of the child as it is likely he will still have to deal with his ex-GF for a long long time. I decided that I was not #1 or #2 with my ex-husband - I was somewhere below Monday night football and his 12th fourth cousin's 32nd birthday party. - No one is going to treat me like that anymore no matter how much I like them.

isn't this like having a straight flush in poker? this has to mean something important.

If Blades are like swords then maybe someone used to a more common tarot deck can translate??

OOOhh that sounds rather complicated. Thanks captain - maybe I am better off just being his phone pal. Sounds like things could be rather difficult. I am ware of the secrecy aspect of Scorpios and he does have his secerts - I do too but I tend to be rather honest to a fault and I do not like hidden agendas. So that pretty much sums it up. He has been a good friend though - so maybe that's what is meant to be.