Oh dear, I hope you're right, but it's not that simple. I have written him two letters, one after 1 week and one after 10 weeks, apologising, telling him I know I was wrong, and in the second one telling him that I am seeing a therapist in order to try and work on my low self-esteem and my insecurity, which I believe is what made me get so upset about his exes still being in his life (though, as I said, I would dislike them in any situation - my view of their characters hasn't changed, I just think I was wrong to get upset about them). He has not replied. If I call his phone my numbers get diverted straight to answerphone. I went round to his house after 19 days and he refused to speak to me.
I don't know what else I can do. I think we're well past a point where I can just go round to see him and say, "Hey, that argument we had..." and try and laugh if off. He has ignored all my attempts to contact him - did you assume I hadn't made any? I initially tried to phone and text the weekend he left, then I left it a week before sending a letter, then left another week before an email, then cracked up and lost the plot after 3 days and tried to phone, went to his house, sent a crazy 2am email, sent another one the next day apologising which probably came off as even more crazy than the first one...Then I tried to leave him again and managed to not contact him for only about 2 weeks before sending a 1 sentence text and email asking if he was OK (because of the riots in London) and then I sent this letter on the 9th of this month. All of this he has ignored. I cannot just turn up on his doorstep, I'm afraid. The next move is his. Surely?
The sad thing is that we didn't have time for our friends, and he was spending all his time with me, but I was so wound up and upset about his friends and his exes that I couldn't stop thinking about them and convinced myself that I was keeping him from his friends and thus making him unhappy and that we were doomed. I created a problem where none existed because he was actually happy to spend his time with me rather than them. The problem was really only in my own head. I can see that now, but I strongly suspect it's too late.
To be honest, I'm not sure now if he said "again" or "anymore" - I think it was actually "again", but I don't think it makes much difference. That he wouldn't speak to me when I went to see him makes me suspect he has taken some sort of vow that he is going to stick to it literally. I wish I had your optimism, but the evidence points to that. I think it's women who say one thing and mean another, not men.