lol, hi flowsco, my crazy weekend continues but i wanted to check back in and finish up my thoughts. thanks for the update! and the offer for romance stories.
sooo ... yeah the tricky thing with a libra is not to make them wonder too much or they will begin to distrust you and then things get VERY prickly - even if your intentions were always pure and it just becomes misunderstanding. i think this can happen at any time with any sign, mixed signals get negatively interpreted and then it just snowballs into miscommunication and bad feelings.
so after your last update - I am glad you two got things out in the open more. i will caution that his behavior kind of made it clear already that he is afraid to go further, you're right about his hiding - we hide deliberately when we are nervous, upset, or doubtful. when we are SURE of something - we are SURE. it takes a lot for us to be sure, but once we have it, we are golden, we trust you, we do not look back, we are sure of what we want and how we want to pursue it with you.
all the signs so far show he wants something but is uncertain.
with men in general this means "i don't know what i want but i like you." it is a fine line here because you ask for advice for a libra, so i tell you in context of a libra what his actions mean, however - he's still a regular human being in a relationship making the same choices, mistakes, or good decisions anyone can make.
at least now, you know he wants you to flirt more, he likes to push you to b emore specific about your attraction to him (actually that's not necessarily a libra thing, more a man thing :), he gets jealous (not a libra thing, actually, but it can happen depending on other signs in your chart) of you with others, he insists he has feelings of some sort yet remains busy and hard to pin down.
now, he's full of vulnerabilities and good will. he doesn't have bad intentions. he shows you respect.
all this, it sounds like, have made you take him more seriously than you might have years ago and that you're giving him the benefit of the doubt because you see his intentions are good.
i do want to caution - all the good intentions in the world can sometimes mean nothing, and even though you didn't say to him that you're not sure you want to wait - i am glad that you have this in your mind.
because if anything, a libra is REALLY indecisive. which is one of the number one things most signs hate about a libra.
when it comes to love, we can be in love with love, we can think we want someone, something, and then once we have it, we can very much indeed change our minds. i'm not saying we're fickle.
what i am saying is - let's say you go into a store, and you're hungry. and the store sells ice cream and pastries and they all smell good. as a libra, we go in there and say, YUM, i want it ALL!
then you have to pick one. The libra dilly dallies. The libra says, oh man, if i can't come back, i have to pick the BEST, no limit!
someone comes along and says, the store is closing. you have 5 minutes. pick something.
forced to pick something, we pick what we think is the best - maybe 2 items.
standing outside, we hold our bag and sit there thinking, i never had enough time to fully evaluate all my options. what if i picked the wrong one?
we take the pastry home. we eat one. whether we like it or not, we're thinking - what about the 40 other options i didn't get the time to really look at and compare and think about?
if a libra had their way, they would be in that store for an hour picking the very best. then they'd come back to the store 4 different times until they confirmed and tried all the variations and identified the top items at the store. only THEN would they be satisfied.
my point here is, the libra picks what they think they want in th emoment, with what tools they're given, and some libras are better and faster at this (and learn sooner) than others. now, men and women also have a flurry of emotions and waffle back and forth, since love and romance are subjective.
add all this together, and you are both not sure of what you want but you know you like each other.
flowsco, you sound ready to dive in. his behavior shows he does not. his behavior shows he is clearly open to and ready for s.ex.
no, he doesn't pressure you, because most libras would never do that, it's rude, and boorish. we like to look classy.
however, that doesn't mean he isn't wishing it were all "simple" and he could just not stress, fret, worry about having to "pick something for good and commit to it." he's worrying about that, see, because he knows you aren't pursuing him lightly.
now, no one wants to be the bad guy. he doesn't think of himself as a lothario and he might even be totally benign with a respectable social life but the point remains that he is uncomfortable with making a choice right now. usually that stems from a guy meaning well but not wanting to hurt somebody and just admit "i don't want that right now can't we just be lovers?"
sometimes, even, a guy coming to that with a woman, unless she's in the same realm, will obviously end the relationship, and the guy knows it, so he'll never say it.
but that's what he's hoping.
my hope for you is that that's not the case, but i do want you to be realistic. i have never fallen in love at the wrong time, but i have fallen in lus.t. be prepared - and don't be offended - that the libra is actually fast to move on, when something sours, no matter how much potential or good it could have.
so i want you to prepare yourself - in the next couple weeks or months, that you keep it open and light, and that was my concern about the expectation with him, that he may feel too pressured. it really depends how much you want him, and what YOU want.
what you want is totally normal and healthy but it may not be something he wants and is ready for, and that's both of your prerogatives, you know?
if you want him really badly and are willing to bend over backward, then you can try to wait him out and keep luring him for talks and trying to touch his heart and move in.
however another alternative is simply letting it be for a while, and also being prepared that if you do that - that it may never pick back up again. libras can really move on just to avoid further "drama."
not sure i'm being much help here ... i feel bad. honestly if i were in your shoes i really would have moved on by now. i'm the type where if you want me, be serious about it, step up, put in the effort. as a libra i can't abide by someone not being fair to me.
what i worry about for you is that you're spending way more time thinking about his vulnerability and feelings and fretting than he may be about you. i'm no tsaying he isn't, or that he was lying about thinking about you, but i do worry that you're being far more accomodating in your life than he has been. which to me, isn't fair!