I have become interested in making jewelry and also have been delving more into tarot reading. I just don't want to sit behind a desk anymore and work for anyone. I have been also looking at possible real estate choices though I don't have a lot of money right now. I'm just very anxious and confused about taking another office job.

Hi Vettech,

I did a simple five card reading which I find to be simple, direct and gets to the heart of the question quickly.

The first card was the 7 cups: This card represents Illusion. It could also represent the hoping for something that is not evident. You may have blinders on in the midst of the situation. Look at it for what it is. Based on your initial question, you do have doubts about this relationship and the advice this cards offers is to remove the veil and you will see the relationship for what it is and how substantial it is.

Devil: Indicates you are bound in this situation. Sometimes this card appears when a person has a habit that is hard to break, so this would indicate there is a level of dependency in this relationship. You are not as happy as you could be in this relationship because of feeling trapped.The living together that you mentioned may be more than you can deal with at this time.

Ace of Swords: This card represents a new beginning. By stepping back from the emotional attachment and looking at your relationship from a logical perspective you will be able to see what needs to be done to move into a better direction in your life. Something needs to end in order for you to be happy. That can even mean there is one aspect in the relationship that brings you distress and you may need to communicate this to your partner to bring an end to the specific problem.

Knight of cups: New emotional direction that is nourishing and healthy. If (when) you decide to make major changes in or about this relationship, there would be some doubts, of course, and maybe some fear in going in a new direction, but a major change is in store for you.

Judgement By changing your perspective on how you see this relationship and taking steps according to what you learn, you will end up with a very new and different life with the promise of great happiness.

Overall I could say that this relationship should end in order for you to be happy, but with this reading, you may be able to make some adjustments within the relationship and then be able to find the happiness you seek with your partner. It may be that the living situation is not a good idea at this time. There may be some financial concerns that are in the mix. Ultimately each of you have to step back and develop the tools you each need to establish a strong, loving and supportive relationship. It cannot be one-sided or it won't last. One of you will feel worn down and the other will feel abandoned. Step back and evaluate what each of you brings to the relationship and what each of you gains from the relationship. There you will find your answer.

I hope this is helpful to you. If someone is able to provide the component you asked for about your boyfriend, you might gain more clarity with the two readings together.

Peace,

Tegwyn

Hello Vettech,

I always hesitate to read for a person without their request, so perhaps someone else can fill that part of your request on behalf of your boyfriend's feeling.

I have done a reading for you, so let me know if you would like to proceed with that or you prefer to wait for someone else to read for you in answer to your complete request.

Tegwyn

Yes. The 2 of swords shows the figure caught between two situations or circumstances and is totally blinded and cannot make the decision. At some point a decision will have to be made but this is the circumstance now.

The card, 5 of pentacles that I pulled in the first reading shows the struggles of you two as a couple. It may also entail some financial hardships based on trying to maintain two relationships. There may also be some ignoring of the former spiritual beliefs that may have held meaning at a point in one of your lives. The death card shows that though you may want to keep this relationship going, it will come to an end. But there is light in the horizon. The question is do you want the relationship as it stands now. The risk would be that if you end the relationship you may meet someone better suited to you or you end the relationship and that person does realize your value and does eventually leave the person he is with and come back to you.

Maybe another reader can fill in the gaps with a further reading. In my reading I was addressing some of the issues posed in your first inquiry. I note that in your response to my reading, there is more information which weighs in on the possible outcomes, but generally the heart of my reading holds true. Drawing another card for the yes/no question, I would have say that the person of your interest is bound in a committed relationship indicated by the two of swords. I do not lean toward yes/no readings because it erases the seeker's choice and intuition, but I hope this helps.

If you don’t mind, I will do a simple reading for you from my vantage point. When I do a reading, I draw much from the inquiry and how it is posed. The deep concerns and fears behind a question sometimes speak volumes of about what the person feels deep in his or her heart. The person’s own intuition usually knows the answer and conveys this to the reader.

The lovers next to the ace of swords indicate a new relationship. A lot of thought is going into this so it is not really an impulsive move and my actually be over-thought.

This relationship will be lacking in the elements of healthy relationship as indicated by the 5 of pentacles. There are many weaknesses. When you go into a relationship with doubts and concerns, those do not usually go away and turn into something trusting and vibrant. This card shows the lack of faith you have in this person and also that you are not gaining what you need form the relationship. It may be because of the distance as well as the circumstance of your love interest.

The next card is the death card. You yearn for this to be “the one”, yet it will likely come to an end. However there is someone who will be coming into your life that will be much better suited to you.

Finally the chariot is a card I see that represents control, power and choice. You have it in you to make the choices that are best for you. Go with your gut.

Don’t start a committed relationship that is heaped with doubt. How much do you know about this person, not from what he or anyone else says? How often do doubts come up? Is your intuition warning you about something? How much time do you spend with this person to know the types of habits he has which would tell you if he has another relationship? When you are in the place of complete confidence, trust, contentment and happiness with this person, you are in the right place.

In my tarot studies, I have found a great deal of importance placed on the seeker's question and how the reader helps frame the question. Meeting a tall handsome stranger could well be an encounter with a mugger in a dark alley. Then yes, the prophetic answers hold true. But I guess our questions need to be seeking the answers to our deeper wants and needs and what is right and healthy for us.

Thank you Leigh for your thought-provoking question.

I agree 100% with Voply. A number of years ago and I consistently received readings from different readers over a period of time about a partner that I would have and vivid description of lifestyle which, in a literal sense, was the lifestyle I wanted. I did marry that man, and it turned out he was a poor match; very deceitful. And the lifestyle I had, though as described in the readings, was build on fraudulent pretense. Bottom line, I did not seek deeper guidance, such as character and honesty. I went into the relationship based empty words of promise of the life I wanted. A huge mistake which I came to regret. Tarot is a tool for guidance. I found it is important to use it wisely to help make the best decisions for ourselves.

If you don't mind my input, I see the Hanged man as surrender as well. Further, with the 10 of swords reversed, either a very stressful, worrisome situation has recently ended or will come to an end shortly. You will start to see your situation(s) from a new perspective. As above, you should start shifting your focus off the negative. Learn new lessons from your experience.

Hi,

I'm Tegwyn. I've been doing readings for about a year. When I stumbled onto the Tarot forum I immediately thought this was a great place to exchange experience and information, so I joined.

I do simple 5 card spreads based each line of inquiry, drawing additional cards if needed.

It does help to have a birth date if I am doing a phone or online reading, though I typically don't use astrology.

I use the Rider Waite deck, though I would like to start using the Robin Wood deck more.

I hope to develop my skills as a reader as well as have the opportunity to read for some of the members.

Peace,

Tegwyn