Not often. He usually drinks beer and seems to be in control of that, but my experience with him drunk is not one I wish to repeat. He was belligerent and scary. He apologized profusely and promised it will never happen again. I'm giving him his chance to prove himself. I believe he is falling in love with me, and I could easily fall for him but this Taurus will approach with caution. Thanks for your input. I appreciate you taking time to share.

I have been seeing this Cappy for about a month. If our schedules weren't me days and him nights, I have no doubt we would see each other nearly every day. Our dates last all weekend. He is the sweetest, kindest, man and the most amazing lover. He is mature and put together in every area except one-when he drinks liquor. He has had a couple of past DUIs that have resulted in other legal issues just last year. He tells me he is working to fix all that and that he doesn't drink liquor anymore. The Bull in me is hesitant to fall for this guy. I have never been so happy with someone, but I'm worried that he is an immature Cappy. He is 32 and I am 36. Is this a thing of the past or is he just telling me he's learned from this? Help!

Well, I have finally moved on from Mr. Cancer and have two wonderful choices. It's early but I don't know how to choose Aries and Capricorn both have amazing qualities.

Aries-Beautiful! So smart, loves to cook, makes me laugh, and is such a strong personality. He's a sweet heart too. He will take his time I think which may be best for me since I just came out of divorce. He has a youthful wrecklessness to him that drives me crazy with attraction, but I dont know if this Bull can handle that long term. He makes me feel strong and capable and confident when I'm with him. His confidence empowers me to be more woman. In short, he's hot, components the Lady in me, is sweet in an innocent way, and we just click-instant friendship-instant fun. I WANT to be his Lady.

Capricorn-Sweet, romantic, and Mr. Southern Charm. We like a lot of the same things. He gets my faith in God. He is younger than me in years but in many ways more mature than me in life. He's full of gentle kindness and is free about expressing how he feels about everything from my

laugh to my phrases. He is sweet, serious, practical, easy to talk to, and makes me want to take care of him. I did that already with the ex husband. I tired of it because it wasn't returned.

He will fall quick. I'm not sure I can trust that.

Any words of wisdom, friends. I'm trying to take it slow on both accounts and let my heart feel it out. I'm enjoying not having to overthink anything and having options. I'm excited about both, but torn. Lol

Cancer men ain't for sissies. That moodiness is them. The hot/cold is them. Those early moments are amazing but they are tortured souls. Their emotion and doubt about themselves and you are do deep it's hard to overcome. Be prepared to be crushed often, lonely and frustrated. Only you can decide if he's worth it. I gave my Cancer man five months and felt used and misunderstood when it was over. It still hurts. Ultimately, love you, be you, and do not cater to anyone Cancer or not. If he can't appreciate you, he doesn't deserve you. Best of luck.

Well, I am trying to walk away from Cancer Man until I heal my heart from my divorce. Tuesday I text him I missed him and we had an argument via text about just being friends.... He called me when he got off work to talk. He says he would have walked away a long time ago but he knows we can be great friends and maybe after I have healed and we have spent time away over time we could try again. He says he doesn't know why but he would and has cut other people out of his life that have been so all over the place, but with me he doesn't want it to be that way... I was glad to hear him say that, but I need SPACE! I can't heal when I love him and he doesn't feel the same and he says he's sorry he doesn't love me but that he does care for me and it makes him feel good that I love him. Obviously he feels something or he would have shut me out of his life. I have been so emotional and dramatic-not Taurus like at all-since leaving my marriage and the divorce. I can't heal with Cancer Man in my life. I have to take time for me, but I love him and I find it hard some days to let go... Do Cancers really rekindle things down the road or is this just a crab thing-holding on to me? I'm not trying to get my hopes up. I want to focus on me, but if I thought taking time away would lead us back together it would be easier somehow I think. I have it so bad for him, and yet my Taurus self has kicked in and I know I can't be whole until I am whole alone. So, I am deteremined in my Bull like way to walk away from this and work on me. I will, but I want to know that he really does want to be my friend (I'll make sure that we are distanced as friends)... And could he and I find a path back to each other after time has healed my heart? j

Captain, I am desperate for love. I'm learning to love and do for myself just like you said, but truth is I've never been truly loved by someone other than my parents. I'm the one who truly loves and is always the giver. It's depleted me giving and loving my ex. I gave him every ounce of me, but he was so wounded by the loss of his father he couldn't love himself and he couldn't love me. Our marriage went wrong for a lot of reasons, but primarily because we didn't

love ourselves. We had very different ideas about love and family, and the mental, verbal, and emotional abuse wasnt going to end until we healed our hearts. We could never do that together. I

am to quick to fix things for him so he became dependent. I resented him for not trying and for shutting down. We had no intimacy the last 5 years of our marriage by his choosing. It left me empty and broken... So, I long for someone to love me, adore me, and make love to me. I'm deeply spiritual and I want someone who knows that depth of God like I do. I settle a lot of the time because I am so desperate to be held and kissed and loved. I know I'm settling, but i also see their potential so I believe love can change them. The truth is I'm in love with love-the idea of it. I'm trying to take back my self respect, my self worth, and my self esteem, but I have weak moments where I need that connection (physical) because I've been deprived so long. I can get sex anywhere but I long for someone to give me their heart.

Currently, I've decided I'm all I've got and the only one I can trust with my heart except God. I'm

Working on doing what you suggest. I'm really trying to be all that I need. It's just lonely out here sometimes. Lol.

Thanks for your input.

Thanks, Captain. I hope you're right. This is the most emotionally challenging relationship I have ever had. I've never felt more uncertain of who I am that when we would talk. The sex was amazing and kept us together for far longer than we should have... The last six years with my Leo ex were not this challenging. I thought I couldn't be more miserable, but I was wrong. Any reading on future love for me? Or a reading on me-where I need to focus ?

Without going into a ton of details, Cancer and I talked yesterday and we talked about the same issues we have discussed the whole time we have been together. He says he wants to just be friends now and not fwb, and then says that he still wants us to cook for each other and hang out. I told him he makes me tired. I am exhausted. I have been emotionally exhausted since a month after I met him. I feel like I have to walk on eggshells and choose my words soooo carefully. I got off the phone and just cried. I love him. I am in love with him, but he makes me miserable. So, I decided today to send him a fb message telling him I can only be his fb friend. I told him that I can't do this anymore and that I love him-I am in love with him, but I have to protect myself because he doesn't feel the same. I told him I wish I had met him at a different time in my life because meeting right when I was separating from my ex husband and us trying to figure out what was happening while I was going through divorce has been a nightmare. I wished him well and told him we are done here. I can't tell you the pain in my heart, and yet I can't tell you the freedom I feel in my soul. How can you love someone so much and be bound to them in your heart, but be weighted down in your soul? So, the weeks ahead will be long and hard, but I refuse to have less than I deserve. I deserve someone who adores me and wants to love me. I deserve the black and white that I understand instead of having the rules changed on me from day to day. I deserve someone's heart, their patience, to be the only woman in their world, and to KNOW that I am adored. My exhusband couldn't do it and Cancer could only manage it for three months... When will it be my turn to have the love I long for and dream of? I am so tired of giving and loving and coming back with an empty heart.

Thanks, Captain. I am fearful of losing myself to someone else. I love the idea of love, but I fear being wounded and taken for granted again. There are days when I want nothing to do with a relationship, but most days I long for the love and romance I know exist. I am as fearful as I am hopeful. Me and Pisces are just starting out... Maybe this will be as all my relationships seem to turn out-friends. I appreciate your insight.

I have met a lovely Pisces man. We are in the beginning stages of getting to know each other as friends but my intuition tells me there is something more here. I am Taurus born 4/22/76 in Hyden, Kentucky, and he is Pisces born 3/6/77 in Lexington, Kentucky... He is deeply spiritual as am I. He stirs my love and desire for the deeply spiritual things of God. I find myself feeling more like the me I know that I am when we talk... I would love to know what is ahead for us and how to approach this. I tend to come on way to strong without meaning to. Thanks!