Gemmi90...yes we sound like we are dealing with the same type of person here...i wrote this thread over a month ago...I have come a long way...it was a tortured relationship....I dont deserve it....and deserve better....we have had no contact...let some one else deal with him...i cant lick his wounds anymore...time to heal mine....hope all is well gemmi90

Oh Gemmi90....your are making yourself crazyyy.....what did you do??? there has got to be more to the story from your last post....did you block him again?? and he blocked you back?? I am confused...your playing his games now...word of advice...don't...your just going to cause yourself a whole lot of stress, pain and humiliation....hope your ok...

Dangala.....your thread was great.....you have been an inspiration to me on this forum...along with many others.....as you know I hung on to this Cancer Male for 9 months...the verbal abuse, mind games, manipulations, all his women.....he would pull his hoodini moves and be gone for 2 weeks or longer then come back to me.....as I found out he was with other women.....It took me 9 month to realize...I said to myself "are you stupid"???....I finally said to myself, I need to remove myself from this situation...and love myself...obviously to put up with what I did...I had no self esteem...and he made it worse...it has been 2 months now....I have good and bad days....because I think of the good times we had....but I finally realized enough is enough....as much as I want to hate him...I hope he finds happiness someday...

Oh Gemmie90....Well he is upset with you right now because you hurt his ego by "attacking him"...you really have to leave him be....my Cancer took a lot longer to "get over" anything that might of hurt his feelings....also my situation was very verbally abusive, he was horrible to me...and I put up with it...please if he is disrespecting you now...which I dont know what happened...he will continue to do that down the road...no one deserves that.....some days I hurt....and I want to talk to my X...but I think of how he treated me...and I am much better off....remember time heals all wounds....unfortunately when my X did his disappearing acts for weeks...he was with other women....I recently found that out....and he would come crawling back to me....which at the time if I knew I would of told him to pound sand....I know noone will put up with my X.....it's just a matter of time before my X dials me.....when his new chick kicks him to the curb.....I hope you don't have to deal with the same thing....give yourself some time to think the whole relationship thru...right down the good and the bad....it may make you feel better...but stay strong....

Gemmi90......I read your story....I am also a Gem...I dated a Cancer for many months...we broke it off in September of this year for good.....being much older than you sweets...I can tell you what I learned from being with a Cancer and what not to do.....First of all...your upset and sad...a breakup is never easy...I still think about my Cancer...however....Crab's love to play games...with him telling you he is getting dressed up to go on a date...was to get to you...to make you mad and jealous...mine did it to me ALL THE TIME...they just want a reaction.....and you fed into it....you showed your emotions and he loved every moment of it....you say you at times get jealous...well everyone does....BUT with a Cancer your BEST REACTION IS NOT TO REACT......when he says stuff like that....say "oh have a great time" the END.....they hate being ignored....trust me....they like a challenge...I wasn't a challenge...I was putty in my Cancer's hands....you sound the same when your around this guy....and most of all when they need their space and run into their shell...LET THEM BE!!!!....I would aggravate mine and it would make the relationship worse.....if he blocked you...he blocked you for reason...and of course the mind games he is playing with you....give it some time...he will be back....don't call, don't text, dont creep on line looking for him...give him some space....if your not pursuing him....it will bother him eventually and he will contact you if he is into you...to find out what you are doing....and why you havent been calling or texting him.....trust me...been there done that....I was just tired of all the women and games mine had...I threw in the towel...and waiting for someone who deserves my time and energy....good luck sweets keep me updated....

Gemmi90....I am not sure about birthdates...I am a Gemini woman and dated a Cancer Male on and off for about 9 months...honestly worst experience I ever had in my life...manipulative, verbally abusive, mind games...shell shocked constantly....I needed to remove myself from the situation...My situation was different....I had no and low self esteem when I was with him b/c he constantly made me feel horrible about myself....that is not love...it's torture.....it just was not a healthy relationship...Me as a Gemini is very sociable and fun...my Cancer didn't like that....he thought that I was ******* around on him all the time....they tend to be very jealous...so if you can handle the jealousy, and explain where you are at all times...go for it...I would like to see a happy story about any cancer at this point...and trust me there is not many on here I have seen....

I agree with tooralooryeaye....my x Cancer Male is in his late 30's and still lives home with mommy and daddy.....he always tended to put tons of "excuses" why he did...but honestly I dont make fun of anyone who lives with their parents...but mine just didnt and will never grow up....

he verbally abused me, called me names...gosh I wonder how he treated his mother...I guess I wonder if he treats her with respect...but I guess I was told how a man treats his mother is how he will his woman....and trust me he treated me horribly...

GoldenEgg3....I agree with everyone on this thread..."RUN RUN RUN"I too have been manipulated by a Cancer Male for 9 months....I finally had to walk away....only you will know when it is that time...but I feel so much better that I did....the problem I think that I had with mine was that constant challenge he gave me...almost fighting for his affection...and it took me some time but that is not love....love shouldn't have to be so hard as it was for me and my situation....letting go is the hardest part...but you will look back and say what was I thinkin....and your Cancer will come back...they always do....hopefully it's not when his "other girls"...blow him off....and need a ego boost...because that is what mine did....he couldn't stand rejection or being ignored....I finally realized let some other dumb chick rub his back constantly...wait on him hand and foot....that is what I did....stupid me...live and learn...I wish you the best of luck keep us updated....

MariaRia....thanks so much.....I hope I do look back at this and say "what was I thinkin"...because the way he treated me yes was always about control...this one time I was going to a girlfriends house in a big city...and he said "no I dont want you to go, you will be dressed to the nine, clubbing, and sippin' your wine and get hit on..." Like a loser I didn't go...I spent it with him and then was immediately thrown away for another couple of weeks....he is not happy unless he puts me down or controls me....he knows when he puts me down and calls me names, I dont do the same to him...I would tell him it hurt when he said that and he would say even something even worse...I would clam up, cry by myself and leave him alone...hes not good for me...and I hope one day he regrets it and realizes how he treated me....but I dont think he ever wil...I really dont think he is capable of love...he just wants to **** every woman he wants and toss them...

thanks gypsydreams...and cancercutie...I am definitely not contacting him...and he cant contact me either...I am glad it was only 9 months of off and on...rather than years invested.....I really believe he will never be happy...he shuts everyone out...I just cant deal with it anymore...one man's junk is another man's treasure...he didnt deserve me anyways....

snowball543....you are so right, and your thread made me feel better....years with him...I would probably need a straight jacket....better now to get out.....