There is a well known saying, " What goes around comes around ",twice in my life my Exs have used our children to get back at me, the 1st was the one who cheated & it took up to 25 years to establish full contact with all my children. I did'nt actually wish harm or revenge on her, I did tell her she would regret what she did, not so much to me personally, but by using the children to hurt me, Her marriage to the so called best friend of ours, only lasted 3 yrs & he was with any & every female he could lay, giving her a taste as how it feels to be cheated on 100 times over & her life has never been a happy one, Her health has also been very poor & the person she is with now has lifted his hands to her on several occassions & actualy scarred her with a corkscrew, I don't get any satifaction knowing this, but reckon its just Karma,My 2nd Ex-Wife just wanted to hurt me & she knew the only way to do that was use the children,this took 5yr to fix out, simply because the Judge thought the Access had dragged on long enough & spoke to the Children themselves, thankfully i brought them up to tell the Truth at all times & the Court case went my way & of course the childrens, as they obviously wanted to see me whenever they could. Her life has'nt been a happy one either,never met anyone & her health also was never that great & still is'nt. Mines has fared far better than both of theirs, I guess one of the biggest reasons,was that I never spent any time wishing or waiting around to see all the ails & tribulations happening to them or seeking revenge, Cast a Spell wrongly & it will come back 10 fold to haunt you, I guess it did to them, The Karma will always work & least when they expect it, things will flow smoothly & greatly & then wham they will suffer for all the hurt & pain they have caused. So why waste your Life worrying & seeking revenge, Love & enjoy your freedom & your Children, Life is too short as it is, don't let bad memories ruin your New Life, I'm not saying to forget them, but use the experience to move on in a better & positive way. Good Luck to You & the Children. & May Your God Bless & Protect You.