That is what has kept me from doing anything prior to this. I know it is his lesson but dammit it is painful to watch him go through this.
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Should I do it?
I have a friend who is in a mentally and emotionally abusive marriage. I keep trying to talk to him, convince him to leave, but being a typical man he won't admit that he is being abused (even though he complains about how she treats him constantly and others can see what is going on). I have considered doing a breakup spell to give him the courage to leave, but then I question myself and whether I should get involved? Last night I found out, from a mutual friend, that he was forced to walk over 6 miles to work about a week ago, in a rain storm, because she needed the car but wouldn't take him to work. That just pissed me (and several other people) off. They are constantly broke because she spends so much money (he makes over $20 an hour and she makes $9.25 hr, plus tips) and he had to close their checking account due to having so many over draft fees, so he couldn't even afford a taxi to take him to work and was too embarrassed, or stubborn, to call anyone for a ride.
Anyway, I pulled some cards to find out what would happen if I did this breakup spell and would appreciate some feedback, since I am probably too mad to interpret the cards correctly.
If I did the breakup spell...
1. How would it affect him? Page Cups
2. How would it affect her? 3 Swords
3. How would it affect their marriage? Ace Swords
4. What affect would it have on me (bad karma?)? Ace Pentacles
5. How would it affect my relationship with him? Empress
To me it looks like the affect on him is that he would finally start feeling good about himself again, regain some of the self confidence he has lost since being involved with her. For her it would be heart breaking and she would suffer (GOOD!!) From there I get lost. Is the Ace Swords saying that he would find the strentgh to start over, without her, or that they would have a renewed outlook on their marriage due to what they have been through? For me I am seeing the Ace Pentacles as saying that I would be fine, because I would be doing the spell to try to help him. The Empress looks like our friendship would also be fine and I wouldn't lose that relationship due to interfering.
I'm just not sure if these cards are indicating that the spell would work or not. If it won't work then there is no point in me wasting the time and energy to do it, but if it will work then I will do it so that he can get out of this abusive relationship.
RE: Marraige and mistress reading
Thank you...I do imagine that the wife will find out, eventually, that he wasn't being completely faithful, even if it was just verbal and there never was an actual, physical affair...at least not with this one woman in question, who knows if there were other women.
Marraige and mistress reading
How does he truly feel about being married to her? Page Pentacles
How does he truly feel about his new wife? 3 Swords
How does he truly feel about the woman he wanted to have an affair with? 4 Cups
How does he truly feel about seeing her when he gets back from his honeymoon? 8 Wands rev
I don't see any love from him towards his wife and it looks like his marriage to her is more about money than any kind of love, or even affection. I am not sure if that 3 Swords is saying that he will leave her and break her heart or she will leave him (since he doesn't appear to love her I don't see his heart being broken).
As for the "other woman" it would appear that he grew tired of her and has decided he no longer wants anything to do with her. And for seeing her again, I would say that he is gojng to try to delay that for as long as possible.
Any other thoughts or corrections on these cards?
RE: Assistance on interpretation please
I don't believe they love each other. It feels more like a control thing to me with neither one of them wanting to admit defeat, so they stay together, and miserable, because neither one is willing to say they are wrong. shrugs They have to do what they have to do...there is a lesson in this that they need to learn, no matter how unhappy they both are.
RE: Assistance on interpretation please
Not sure if the initials make a difference but the M was for male and the F for female. They are supposed to be getting married in a few weeks but I honestly wonder if that marriage will take place? She is very insecure and jealous - rightfully so because he has been less than faithful...not full on, physical cheating, but he has been chasing after at least one other woman (if not more) for a year and a half - and when he went to work at this new place (where the other woman works) his fiancee was determined to work in the same place. He isn't happy with her but at the same time he won't leave her...not sure why, but he won't. So yeah, I can see where you may be right on with this interpretation.
Assistance on interpretation please
Would anyone mind giving me a little assistance / thoughts on a reading I did? Please and thank you.
I asked the cards how M feels about F (his significant other) starting a new job at the place he just started working at? Cards drawn are Fool, Judgment, and Hermit (I used a full deck and got 3 majors).
A little background on this couple. She is leaving a job as a full time security guard at a casino to take a job as a part time waitress (she has no waitressing experience) because that is where he is working as a chef now (he used to work st the casino, too). She is very jealous and insecure, which is why she is changing jobs.
My take on these cards is that he thinks she is a fool and that this is not going to go well (he felt very confined at his old job because between her and her co-workers in security and her brother in surveillance, he felt like his actions were constantly under a microscope). He feels that things will come up that will not be pleasant, and he will end up withdrawing into himself because of her actions and how others will perceive him, because of her.