marielle 25 I feel your pain in your words. as myviewpoint states your mother is sick she needs help. she will not benifit from it unless she wants help though. I suggest you write her a letter and send it to her explaining that you feel hurt, confused and angry that you are without the parental support every young woman deserves. Put it all in writing and let her know you think she needs help and that you will help her if she decides she wants to stop drinking and being destructive to your life because you apparently love her as much as you hate her. if she chooses to remain the same then you can walk away knowing you made a sincere effort to help her. You do not have to be abused by anyone. you seem like a kind and responsible person despite her hurtful behavior. Dont allow her or anyone else in your life to treat youu without respect. Children of alcholics tend to seek out alcholics in life they have the need to protect and fix other people. be careful of this. AAA has a program for family of alcholics called alinon it will give you great insite into no being an anabler and also give you a sense of not being alon e in this terrible hopeless feeling. you should try a few meetings and see if it helps you heal some of your wounds. I wish you peace and love in your life. Know you are not alone I am the daughter of an alcholic and I married one. It is not your fault and you can justifiably walk away. Write that letter today so you can get it off your chest and start the proccess of healing for yourself and hopefully for her. I dont know if you have other siblings but they should write her letters also and maybe she will see how bad she has become to her family and want to seek help. dont besurprised if she is angry with you she will hear what you feel and for the first time not interupt you and attack you so you can get it on the table. dont write anything you want to take back just the truth you will feel so much better after you know she read it. I hope you realize the ball is in her table to end relationship and you dont have to feel guilty anymore as the effort was made and the ball was passed to her...Best wishes to you and your Mom
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RE: All Things Pisces
Hi Everyone I was born 3/6/64 I have completely enjoyed reading all you have to say about your selves and others. very interesting to find some like yourself and others not so much..I am a successful business woman and value all my employees I tend to treat them as family more than employees sometimes to my fault but mostly because i really enjoy the diffences they have. I do get sidetracked but always believed it was because I do so well under pressure my brain lets me daydream, stay home, travel and play because I am willing to crunch cram stay up all night or two nights and get it done when it needs to be done. I work hard, Laugh alot enjoy my children who are well on their way to being grown 16,18 and 22 all girls all differant all challenging and exciting. I guess my advice to the pisces is enjoy your gifts, being a step a head, following your gut and compassion are all gifts embrace and enjoy. I also have my challenges one of which are my feet. I hate shoes, I own 25 pairs but my feet hurt. I am addicted to getting pedicures because I hate cutting toe nails I will NOT rub your feet but feel free to rub mine. I also seem to be the one every tells all their problems too.. I have been trying to end a 18 year marraige for the last 3 years but he wont leave I am "The best thing since sliced bread" and he cannt live without me. he is a financial meniace I am fisically responsable. he is self centered I am to busy taking care of everything to be. I quess I just need to vent. I lost my best friend a year ago and no one else gets me. they all think I have everything under control. but I dont always feel that way I am just to busy fixing theirs lives.....Thanks for the forum to vent and offer some advice LIVE LOVE LAUGH Alot...by the way I am considered very funny by my friends and I am extremely composed under pressure I guess its from being a fish with wings.....