I have thought this over and over, and will stand firm with what I know about this individual. I shouldn't have to get out of dodge, actually I didn't have to. The man I spoke of above ran and skipped town, now why would a person like this do this, because he is guilty of his actions. He didn't even go to the restraining order hearing to fight for himself, because I have witnessess to his abusiveness towards me and my family. It is apparent David & his Family prey on the lowly and think it's okay intimidate, harass, abuse physically and mentally and think no one is going to fight back. I know for a fact they never thought I would fight back and stand up for myself. Today David's Family continues to harass me on a regular basis through indirect contact. I have spoken w/our Court Facilitators Office here in Yreka and they say I have a solid case and to follow through w/filing a Civil Harassment Suit against the entire family for continuing to harass me and my family. My goal in this is to let these type of people know it is not okay to hurt or bully people, innocent people. My intentions are to show these individuals breaking the law and abuse is not okay. Well I hope all of you understand my position, abuse is not tolerate any longer.
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RE: My last Relation has turned For the worst, help!
RE: Not Sure Anymore-real relathionships
I had a very stressful past year 1/2, however, I have made some big changes. I am not ready to take on a relationship w/anyone right now, with exception of my kids. I quit both of my jobs and have decided to stay w/healthy & important people that give me inspiration and the ones who are healthy individuals. I had some letting go problems w/some of the people I know that, I just had to let go, they were making me sick emotionally, spritually and mentally. These unhealthy individuals were holding me back, tying me down & supressing me. I have always in my entire life tried to help those that wanted to change for the better. Their words meant nothing, there true ill intentions soon manifested over a period of time with their actions. I will no longer allow pestilence to invade my, nor my children's lives any longer. I have worked very hard all my life giving 100% loyalty to my jobs that I had and my family life. It is clear to me know that I cannot help others that do not want to help themselves and have to ability to do so without my help. I have been treated like a door mat all my life and I have tired of those who wipe their feet on me.
I have so many other companions and friends that lift me up and that's what's important to me now. Thank You everyone who helped me to realize my true potential.
RE: Sag woman dreading her libra mans luv
Hey there Sag pal-My daughter that is a cancer, met a friend of mine that is gemini. At first they hit it of very well, but she was still wanting to play the field. She broke up w/him 3 times to go to bed with an ex and another friend of her's, and gemini took her back each time. He is a very loving, loyal, patient, caring and giving person. I had to sit my daughter down to open her eyes and tell her straight out, your *****ing this up. She was clearly sabatoging the relationship before it had a chance to flourish. My daughter did not like the fact that I am very up front, blunt, to the point and very truthful, she has a problem when she has to face the truth.
But It does not matter what your sign, planet, stars, it matters that even though she didn't know what a relationship was truly about, she made a wise choice. She is with him today and has come to me w/her feeling about this person and it's more than she ever expected. I see how they are together and they are truly in love.
If you truly love this person, plunge and take a chance, better to have loved than not. You won't know till you try. In your own words I don't think he's loyal, that's actually you! Your the one being unloyal to yourself and to him.
I had another friend and she tortured a friend of mine for years. He ws completely in love with her, she could do no wrong in his eyes. She played the field and then would run back to him and cry and want a shoulder to lean on, but in the end after years of abuse from her he finally let go. Since then she has gotten married and has 2 kids now, but she is very unhappy, she wished she had never lost the best thing that ever happened to her.
Your love life is what you make of it, I don't think your being very fair to your man that has been there for you each time you fall. Put aside all your fears and plunge, this could be exactly what you have been looking for after all. Don't use your feelings of fear stop you from love or commitment. Wishing you luck-Sweet Sag.
RE: New situation, scared witless, need advice
In the old days a servent would bear a child for a king and queen, if they could not have children. I can recall the story as this the king fell in love with the slave girl and the queen wanted her dead because of jealousy. The king secretly sent her on her way w/child and never saw her again. It was a tragedy.
In your situation and the story I told, 3's a crowd. If you have already engaged in this situation and allowed it to happen, it's a little too late. Someone is bound to get hurt here. If you have not engaged in it yet, is it because your boyfriend and best friend suggested it? Who initiated this, there intentions are not very pure whomever did.
Now if it was you whom initiated this kind of relationship, then you will have to face whatever consequence comes with it. I am very soory for your situation, but if you allowed this to happen and you have doubts it's not going to turn out very good!
It's too late to stop what has been started and whatever the outcome, you'll have to accept it. We all make out own choices weather it good or bad, we all make our own paths for our own destiny. You have to ask yourself is this the right path for me?
I wish the best in your choice, I hope it works out for the best
RE: Not Sure Anymore-real relathionships
I have come to the conclusion that God has put certain people in my life as though it was a test and I have decided right now to take care of my children first and me last. I really don't need a man, I would like a loving man in my life, but they are so hard to find. I need someone strong enough to be with me. Someone that shares the same values and morals as myself. But for now my children come first. I have some pretty great friends and they keep me going. I have always been a giver, non judgemental and fair. I'm sure sometime in the future there maybe someone for me. The last man I was with, I knew for 5 years and I never thought our relationship would turn out the way it did, it was like going through Hell. He was a pretender, and once he revealed his true colors it was a nightmare. How could I have known, 5 years!!!!!
I can get to know someone, and take my time, but the cover on the book doesn't reveal what's inside untill you read it. I think I just have to look beyond the cover from now on.
RE: My last Relation has turned For the worst, help!
I just wanted all of you to know I thank you imput! First only the cowards flee ,like the man whom did this. I am a stander and will not allow these people to trash my loving family. I have decided to file a civil harassment suit against my-ex's family members. It's okay for me to take the heat I am strong enough, but now their slandering my innocent children, saying there abusive and intimidating. That was the last straw, I have alot of friends, whom I call my Angels protecting me and my family. I was focusing on all the bad that was happening and one day last week, it was like God smacked me upside the head. I cried and broke down and realized I have so many people on my side, they have nothing but anger in their hearts, weather it be towards me or anyone else. I feel not only for my sake but others that cross their path, it's time to put these people in their place. I have decided i will not let them control me with their abuse, and neither will God let them hurt us anymore. I am a warrior bride I will take up my sword and fight, not flee. Only Evil flees! I do live in a small town, but I have friends in very high places that i did not realize were protecting us.
A court investigator interviewed my ex's Mother and she made allegations against me and my children. I took all the criminal records showing there family history and had her run a nationwide check on me. They have records from sexual abuse, willful harm to a child and a long history of abuse towards children. I feel God is calling me to help those and others that have been a victim of this to put a stop to it. Through me I can get justice for those they have hurt. I have a daughter 24, a son 20, a son 13 and a daughter 6 years old. I have to be an example to them and teach them how to defend against these kinds of situations. It is my duty as a protector of children. Now as for me I could care what they say, I can hack it, but then they brought my innocent children into the picture. I have no choice but to fight for their sake.
Running is only going to make them think they won, if I stand and remain steadfast in my beliefs and fight back maybe they will move because they have made their own reputation known now. Thank you everyone for you imput, but my higher power is with me and will help me through this.
RE: Looking for guidance & protection ....
My mother was not a very good parent, us kids were exposed to things we never should have been exposed to, my mother was bipolar and a heroine addict. I thank God she had me, however, I learned while growing up I didn't want my children to ever go through what I did. I changed the cycle of dysfunctionalizm. I went through my own drug area and things I never should have, but once I got pregneat for the first time, my eyes were wide open. Since then it has been 20 years later. I had situations that arose from the past and still sometimes do, but I have learned to face them head on and not let them run my life. I had to literally cut myself off from that, that hindered my moving forward. I had to cut my entire family out of my life and focus on what was best for me and my children. don't follow those that cannot bea leader, be a leader youself and just keep doing what you know is right. You Father will have to face his own demons himself at some point in time. But stay steadfast and do not fret, for those old haunts can no longer hurt you if you do not give it control. Focus on the goo stuff in life, not just the bad.
RE: Will he call me again aries girl / virgo man
In your beginning post you told him you would not text him anymore, that says it all. He probably won't respond. If you let something free and if it comes back to you, then will it be yours to keep. Let him make the move, if he doesn't than maybe it wasn't meant to be. It's better to face the truth about the situation, than to ponder what might happen next. Move on and if he text's you then respond, but don't let him play w/your emotions anymore. If you have known him for 30 years, you should know how he is by now. I pray you will open your eyes to the situation.
My last Relation has turned For the worst, help!
I was dating a man and for 7 mos all was good. Then one day he comes home and is higher than a kite. Then I find out he's been stealing my medication, he broke into my roomates room , cheated on me and gave me herpes. Then he starts bringing his friends over in & out of my home selling pot. The man started mentally and verbally abusing me and my children, I had to kick him out, and then he threated to kill me and my family. I filed a restraining order, he skipped town. His remaining family lives here, his older brother threatened to kill one of my dear friends, his mother and father constantly drive up and down my street flipping me and my family off. The continue to harass me and my family on a daily basis. While we were together I met his neice. We clicked right away. After he was gone, his neice called me and told me she needed help her family had turned their backs on her. She's only 24, but her mother gave her up to her grandmother when she was 11, her mother was on drugs and could not handle her at the time, so she signed her over. Her mother has made 2 attempts to contact her , only asking for money. she refused and the conversation turned for the worse, she threatened to kill her own daughter. While living w/her Grandparents was apparently the best either. This girl went through therapy for years, from 11 yrs old to 17 yrs old, she had been molested by her mother's husband at 10 and has been abused at the hands of her Grandparents also, the hitting, the verbal abuse, the lies in the family and abandoned by them. I have known her for over a year ans I witnessed the torment she went through and is still going through today. The one thing she learned was to lie to get attention, her grandparents after all these years do not even know her favorite color. She is a very good person, she has been abused by her own family all these years, untill she came to live w/me. Now my ex's whole family is harrassing me and my children. She has never had a mother or father, and she lived what she learned from her grandparents, however there is one thing different about her. She herself is not abusive at all. She has made mistakes and lied, but confessed. She is experiencing a whole new life living free from abuse from her ex family. I have shown her what is true and how to stand up for herself, however, her ex family continues to slander me, harass me, tell lies, and are violent. towards me , my friends, and family. what to do?