Thank you so much Merlin. Your response helps me to see what I have been feeling for a while now concerning my relationship with the guy in my original question. What I feel for him is the strongest pull I have ever felt towards anyone and I know when we are together he feels the same way. He has described our connection as lightening in a bottle and that is how it feels, but he won't make any kind of committment. Then when I distance myself or start dating others he is devasted and wants me back in his life and will then spend more time with me. It has been confusing but I know it is time to for me to do something. I had been hoping to try to figure out why we keep getting thrown together and why the connection is so strong but I know I want a long term relationship with someone not just when it is convenient for them.
Thank you again Merlin, I really appreciated all of your time and expertise.