Thank you, your advice sounds very sensible and right on the money. I do want to feel like he is more committed to me. His daughter and I are really close, she sees us kiss and snuggle and he agrees we feel like a family. But yes it feels like he is not giving me a full commitment and I do need to FEEL confirmation of his undying, monganomus commitment to me or I need to move on. If this condum thing did not come up, I still needed that but could handle just moving slowly. But now it is most important for me to feel secure otherwise I physically can not take feeling unsure where things are at. I'm still not sure if I can handle the whole trust issue - I feel like our love has been spoiled. I not sure if I can feel that undying love for him again. I need to ask him if he is willing to do work with me to do whatever it takes (even if he has to listen to me cry and voice my fears) and keep confirming his love which I'm not sure if he can do. He is a very subborn Taurus - so am I! But if he can't then I know he is not the man for me.

If you love your husband - don't throw it away. Infactuation is addicting but a man that truly loves you is far more satisfying. Don't confuse yourself that a little fun won't hurt anyone. It will, and it will hurt you most of all - the guilt, the spoiling of the specialness of being the only one with your husband. Turn the situation around and see how you would feel if this was happening to your husband. If you want out of your marriage - get out for you, not because of someone else.

I've been dating a guy about 3 years. Seems very sweet & sincere. Works very hard and is a great dad to his daughter. Doesn't let me sleep with him while she is with us - wants to set a good example - I go along with it but don't like it. A few weeks ago I found condoms in his travel case which he says are from 2 years ago when we were having a rough time but he never used them. I want to believe him but I am having a hard time letting it go and/or knowing if he is telling the truth. Or even if I should stay with someone who ever even though about it. It seems so out of character for him or am I just a fool? He swears it's only me & him and that he loves me (though he has a hard time saying the words). Has said he doesn't want to get married again, loves our relationship just the way it is. I did too - but now I am consumed by this issue. Not so much that he is looking but that he blew my little "so in love" fantasy. What do I do? I am very depressed, I feel like if I keep bringing it up I will sabotage the relationship but if I don't I am sick to my stomach and don't want a relationship in which I feel this way. People are telling me I am acting crazy and I probably am.