Thanks rnrchick, your confidence in this relationship developing really does mean alot x.

I really hope something happens too... I can afterall, only begin to try to tell you all how much I feel drawn to him w/o sounding desperate etc...

But I guess the best way I can put it is that, ever since he's walked into my life, I've been constantly feeling the vibe that some things are just meant to be...

Lol I hope for my sake that's not simply his friendship, but who knows!

Anyway, sincere regards and thankyous,

x.

Hi everyone,

I thought that I would send out an update. I'd like to start by saying sometimes, there is no other right choice other than trusting your gut instincts.

The man I've talked about fell out of the world. He dissapeared from existence, and yes this did in turn make him appear as somewhat of an arsehole. Following this I was indeed driven insane.

In the last week I have spoken to him, forgiven him, felt the connection with him intensify and never before right now have I felt so excited and so confused at the same time. Life should always be like this.

Truth be told, as well as his girlfriend getting a bit stroppy, his little baby sister passed away just before Christmas last year. I was so devastated when he told me that I burst into tears, and I've never even met her...

Sometimes, you have to trust that you just know when things aren't right. These are the times that trust, courage and hope are most important. This is especially vital when the circumstances involve love.

I know that I am in love with him, and of every man I've ever had feelings for or been with, this is the only one I've truly been in love. I do not know what tomorrow brings, if someday only turns out to be he choosing to forever be with his current girlfriend, but what I do know is I am so so happy I kept my faith in him and did not try to forget someone so special.

I hope oneday, if not already, you will all experience the depth of connection I constantly feel for him.

Love,

x.

Yes yes yes, meet up with him!! There is no harm in catching up for a coffee date, you have afterall, not met him yet I assume? You can obviously share conversation easily, so that suggests awkwardness will not be a problem. He seems genuine enough, and is most likely just as nervous as you. You mentioned that you tend to over-analyse things, so, leave this at bay when you communicate via technology i.e. electronics etc, but simply take this with you when you meet for lunch or coffee. You will then be able to immediately know whether you feel comfortable around him and whether he is everything you are anticipating. The experience will be exciting, and so I presume the mood and atmosphere will be cheerful.

Have fun, enjoy yourself, and remember that lunch or coffee is only a lunch or coffee, and it is entirely in your power whether you want to slow things down or perhaps see him more often after this.

Also, I believe confronting this new and exciting possibility sooner than later will not necessarily kill anything of the excitement you talk about, but will definitely be less of a dissapointment (should it turn to be) then rather if you left it for too long.

Enjoy it, the beginning of a relationship is one of the most thrilling parts of a successful relationship anyway

x

Dear Inailz, it is very hard. It's even more incredibly difficult to move one without any explanations or reasoning of any sort. Somehow though, we simply have to learn that some people are not worth it. They are not worth constantly doubting yourself, feeling insecure and spending your moments with them wondering about who they're thinking about.

It is like Sarah Starfish said -it is highly important that you raise your standards now. Look for someone who can help you feel more confident about yourself, by showing devotion, love, and most importantly, an openness and honesty in which you deserve.

I feel for you Inailz, but you will be able to be stronger from this and in moving on. You are obviously better than this man, and deserve a much much more secure relationship. This isn't to say you need be more paranoid, only in that from this you should walk away from these feelings from him in having learnt a lesson. That being you deserve the truth in all situations of any relationship, you deserve a loving man, one who appreciates all you have and you for you.

He, as demonstrated by his cheating, cowardly behaviour, that you spoke of, was never going to make you happy and least of all content. And in an ideal relationship, that is what you should be looking for...

I hope you realise that you are not only strong, but will oneday feel this strength, in having ended these two damaging and wearing relationships with your dignity about you.

I hope you find someone that will forever love you

x

Hi Dalia,

I thought I might ask how things are going? A progress report perhaps?

Hope all is well,

x

Thanks rnrchick... Great advice too, and I plan to do just that! Waiting alone for that amount of time will be torturous enough -lol I will need things to do just to keep me sane! I've already started planning things for the year with mates, including skydiving and the moto gp (hurrah!), and a girlfriend of mine is moving in with me.

No intention of becoming a miserable ole' recluse whatsoever ...well maybe slightly upset but ahhh cut me some slack! Haha

Cheers

x

I think this situation shows alot of promise of a beautiful relationship that could develop from a golden friendship.

Some of us fear of acting on 'making the next step' with a friend, for in case we lose that friend. However you have described a friendship in which you both care deeply for each other, and a shared passion between you both for each other is also evident.

My advice to you is that you need to bring it up with him, love is sometimes a risk you must take. I can almost guarrantee he will not take offense or react negatively, but he will probably share what you are currently feeling. Do not wait too long, if you can not talk to him asap, then you should email him, outlining clearly how you feel -do ensure you do not come across as too forcefull or serious, however. Simply state what you feel you must and in doing so leave characterisitcs of the joyous friendship you already share.

I believe you have a real shot at happy future with him, if you can muster the courage to not just talk to him, but to tell YOURSELF that you 'want' to take things further with him.

Good luck,

x

Hi all,

I thought I'd leave a progress report for those who have bothered to read my rather longggg post...lol.. I have decided to wait the year or so for him. At least then if there is the possibility of anything happening between him and I, there will be nothing holding us back yet the decision to make...

I wonder if I am wasting my time, my happiness? But then I wonder If I could have ever truly been happy by just 'moving on'.

I appreciate your thoughts, but also understand if you've given up on me due to the extensive posts on my part.

x

Is this the same man you speak of in your most recent post? If so, I hope you don't mind I was only looking for more background...

I think that you need to strongly consider exactly what the intentions of this man are. Has this relationship developed straight from this post into your most recent post desiring marriage? His character still seems somewhat genuine -it is possible that considering you have a well established friendship with him, he could honestly feel a special sexual attraction to you explaining this post. However as I stated before in your most recent post, I urge you to proceed slowly, in your own time, and take much caution.

x

You did the right thing.