Posts made by steveo57

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Sorry, I had to vent. Your right about not judging all Aries because off my past. What I don't understand is why she is focusing a lot of energy on me when she should be using that time to either enrich her own life or spend it on her fishing buddy. I mentioned that to him a couple of weeks back and his eyes got big, you know one of those wow moments. I laugh now because all the stuff and even the good times we had are behind me. I don't think she thought I would fall in love again and has kept us busy with this court stuff to enterupt our lives. This site has helped me and I know it will help " aworkingbullgirl " also. I do know I would have struggled with this awhole lot more if I had not turned it over to the Big Daddy. So goodnite all and may peace and prospertity bless you....Steveo

I've been divorced since 01-30-07. I tried to be cordial and attempted to be fair. Since she came up pregnant( which is why we got married in the first place)(she's an aries) she pretty much was a stay at home mom. I got to go out and break my back for the family and work the overtime so our kids could have a better life than the one I had. She kept her foot on the spending pedal and basically told me" if you don't like it ..go work more". Not only did I realize I wasn't in a marriage of love, but what I could provide for her. She's been dating our next door neighbor(offically since we separated..but) and I've made all my obligations and above for "the kids" and it has blown up in my face. The big mistake was using one lawywer. The we chose said she could only legally represent her, but she would be fair. Not even close! I wanted out sooo bad I gave her my house that I bought before our marriage, all the furniture in it and a healthy cut of my pension. And guess what: It's not enough. I'm going back to court at the end of the month because she wants more child support( the court not only allows this action..I honestly believe they encourage it). This time I have my own atty and it still has cost me thousands just to prove I've been doing what I was suppose to be doing. I can only pray with the records I have that I won't get taken again by my greedy ex and her ambulance chasing atty. It's too bad I didn't meet some one like you "findingjoyinlife". I also just wanted to move on with peace and for her to go away with our neighbor and leave me alone. I don't know if this helped you as much as it did me. I can't stand my ex even though I do pray for her and my kids. I haven't spoke to my son in two months and my daughter decided she needed a break from me and after our day in court I won't speak to her again. In closing let me tell about the spoiled milk story as it applies to me. You go to the fridge and you know you are not suppose to drink out of the carton but you do and the milk has gone bad. Still you don't toss it out and put it back in the fridge( hard to let go ). Couple of days later you do it again! Guess what it's still spoiled. Since my ex is a hardheaded Aries with a princess rising and a head in Uranus. So good luck with your situation and pray for guidance. PS..my son is a pisces and he also is self centered and like his mother has a sense of entitlement , but has not done anything but live off my sweat equity. My Libra daughter I thought I could work with, but she went over to the dark side too. She also found entitlement was way easier than setting goals and working for them. Again sorry this was so long. BTW I'm a leo and our fire sign were suppose to be dynamic, but I'm the one that got burned in the end. Still I haven't given up on love because fate brought my high scool sweetie back to me after 30 years ( she's a Libra) and we get along great and would be even better if my ex aries redhead and her boyfriend would take off on their expensive fishing boat and leave us alone. Good luck but do get a lawyer and get it all down on paper!

Hi Casper,

Your Leo sounds very similar to me. It sounds for the most part you had a great relationship with him and I believe your not dead until your forgotten. I too made some choices that cost my freedom. Mine was marrying the wrong women. My first was a gemini, very smart and good looking, but gemini's, at least for me you had to figure out which twin you were talking to. My second was a money hungry,greedy, selfish Aries. We have two kids and she has taught them well to serve themselves. Why I'm telling you this because, I too suspected my ex's of infidelity, and they BOTH married my next door neighbors. What are the odds, but I want you to know that I didn't give up on love and my high school sweetie and I hooked up two years ago and are engaged after 30 years of being apart. She is a Libra and she keeps me balanced and returned me back to who I'm suppose to be. May you walk in peace and health. Eveything else will take care of itself

Happy Birthday Libraslair,

I know it's a day early, you've touched and helped many like me. Thanks and enjoy your special day. I hope everyone who see's this extends their best wishes also. Your a great Friend..Steve

Hey leos and others,

Hey shopgirl318, how did you find out about all the other signs. I know my ruling planet is leo, but the other stuff. I know it would help me understand things about myself a whole better. My BD is the 4th

Hi lunaazul,

I'm a leo male with a libra lover. Yes we also have fantastic chemistry and almost soul mate feeling. Yes it's weird for each of us to know what the other is fixing to say. Astrologically it helps if his ruling sun planet is in your house of communication ( your 3rd house) and your ruling planet of venus is in his house of pleasure( I think that's our 11th house). My libra keeps me balanced ( a word she uses often) as is our relationship. Your leo wants to feel in charge and you want a more balanced one on one relationship. Let him feel that way and I admit I enjoy my ego stroked as well as you have the need to feel number one in his heart. Do take in consideration of his past as my libra has to do with me( my ex wife is a hardheaded redhed aries!). How true a leo is he? I'm right in the middle of the sign. Cancer dudes and Virgo dudes are way different than us leos. I don't know all this stuff but it seems to me the closer somebody is to the next sign, those traits show up. Hey good luck, we cats are loyal and loving and like to have fun. We also need to seek approval from our mates and we will do just about anything as long as we are told how much we are appreciated by our mates. A sexy nurse outfit would get my attention if you were to shake things up.

Evening Libraslair,

Production needed me right away last night. I was always wanting to be civil with my ex because of the kids and she has used them like pawns since. My ex girlfriend is in Texas, the ex lives here in Indiana. I was listening to Joyce and her message was about people not liking themselves and being easily offended by everything. My future wife( my libra that got me into this forum) feels she is angry because she didn't realize what she kicked to the curb let alone having somebody else find value in me. All I know is I'm more at peace within myself because of the faith I have with the Big Daddy and my relationship with my future spouse. To quote Joni Mitchell ...you don't know what you got till it's gone! Let's hope you continue heal and stay healthy. I do appreciate helping me understand my libra. I'll try you at your e mail. Talk to you soon..steveo57

Hey

That's great news. You needed your rest and you needed to chill. The brakes are made of carbon, it's still not good for you and I do wear a mask when I deal with it directly. As far as the court thing, she will always be angry and that's her problem. It's too bad it had to go this way and use the kids as pawns. She actually told my kids that is mad at me because I will not return her calls. So I told them that their mother was basically sueing me. Since she took this to a legal level their is no reason to think we could talk. I really think she is jealous because before we got divorced and lost weight, all these guys started sniffing around and I looked easily replaced. Now I'm getting married in September, she made sure we go to court in August. What's worse we live by each other, so I have to see more often than I need to. Still I wish her health and prosperity, again I think she uses my faith as a sign of weakness which if anything has made me stronger and I'm a far better man today than when we divorced.I have to credit my libra again for that! Have a great day and and don't over do it in that heat. Take care Libraslair and may your spirit continue to rise......Steveo57

Good Evening Libraslair,

Had a pretty good day, worked on the house and took a ride on my bike. Smoked some chicken on the grill and took a good nap. My ex is taking me back to court in August, so I have to blow money on a lawyer( she's the aries I've mentioned!) . I was watching Joyce Meyer on cable this A.M. she made me think of you and your health. I'm no fanactic, but as I stated before my Libra is leading us in that Dept. so I added you to my get well list for the Big Daddy. So pace yourself in that Texas heat. My friend who lives near San Marcos was also saying how hot it is there..even at nite! Her parents live up in Blossom, so to get to her house from her parents I would go thru Austin. What I saw of it, looks like a nice place to live. Well I gotta go make some brakes, so have a great day and hope you feel great. Take Care...steve

Hi good morning,

Sorry to hear about your foot. I broke mine playing volleyball of all things! I live in the Indiana and I work midnites, she works days, so we each have our own time and during the week we get to share a couple of hours before my nap before work . What part of Texas you call home? My ex girl friend lives near San Marcos and I was their in March. Beautiful area, but too hot for me. I was in the Houstion area and it was too muggy. You think being a former marine I could live anywhere, but this is where are our kids are at, so you make due. I also work in maintenance. I'm a process control technician and I work for Honeywell. I am so sorry to hear what you have endured and I guess being a strong willed and mind libra has it's advantages! I will add you to my list of prayer. If you want my e mail address, let me know. Have a great day tomorrow and look forward to talking to you again. Keep it in the fairway...steve

Good Evening Libraslair,

I can still hear the words out of her mouth as I read your blog. I've been married twice as well as she. She has been single for 26 yrs. I spread my two marriages out. I guess the best thing is we both do not want each other to change. In fact I told her if she did..I would leave her! Hey, from our conversations, I feel you are a wise and thoughtful woman who has a lot to give and recieve and I sincerly wish to you what I have. I never thought about getting hitched after my last go round..BAM..then it hits you. What do you do at your big box store. I worked at a corrigated box plant setting up some machines, but that was a small gig. I make aircraft brakes, so if you fly and stop, then I did my job. Have a great Sunday and talk to you soon...see ya

Hi Pussycat819,

Did I miss something? I read your posting and you don't mention at all about the feelings you have for your husband other than controlling personality. I was married to an Aries for 15 yrs and with 2 kids. If you are like me ( haven't been doing this stuff for too long), as a leo, I want compassion, loyalty and respect. Given that, I'll move the moon for my love. My ex took that as a weakness to go behind my back and eventually she got the house and my next door neighbor.

It is easy when your dating and always putting your best foot forward. Does your husband make emotional deposits into your account or has he taken from you until you are overdrawn? Be fair to yourself and your spouse. If it's not working, you need to change something and soon. Has your marriage always been a roller coaster or since you met your Libra. And if you wait to long to decide, you will lose them both. good luck lady cat. Find your happiness first then you can love without restraints. It all starts with you and you control more than you think. Be true to your inner spirit, get your pride back like us cats need and may the force be with you!

Hi blueglasslady,

Being a Leo, I think it's important that your compatiable in the bedroom. Yes, there is more to life than a roll in the hay, but the passion and love you can have between two people is special. You mention a physical problem but: he has arms to hold you, lips to to kiss you and a voice to whisper in your ear how special you are and what you mean to him until this problem gets cured. You say you two are in love..that's all that really matters. Still if amore is important to you, it should be important to him if you two have true love. Sex with someone you care about is about as good as it gets and something to look forward to. Hopefully your situation will take care of itself and you both live happily ever after! Good Luck

Good Evening Libraslair,

It's uncanny the things you advised on that take place before my eyes. I value her council and insight. We are having issues here at work among my peers and her advice...Stay out it!! The things about doing crafts ( we are remodeling a bathroom) and matching all the finishing touchs. Yes I am blessed that she is back in my life after 30 years of abscence and I won't do anything stupid( at least on purpose) ( I did mention I was a guy) to disrupt what we have. I wish everyone to have a relationship where their partner is their best friend! I guess the stars were aligned for us. Wish us luck..we plan on getting married this year I don't believe I could be matched up any better to spend my eternity with. I hope this for you also. Talk to you later steve

Hi LibrasLair,

The balance between her strenghts and mine compliment each other. As well as you should now, she is organized, analytical and very giving of herself and quick witted. I know I somehow gravitate to the center of the stage and she's alright with that. I use to play in bands and she has me get the guitar out to play for her. That's funny how you mentioned finances as we are starting to merge our finances and tada...she produces a spreadsheet for our budget ! Same here ..pay the bills we owe, help friends and family when they need it and allow the big Daddy to provide for our needs. She has been the lead on our spirtiuality and that has been the foundation of our relationship..have a great night and take care..steve

Hi Libraslair,

You are correct. I certainly don't want to repeat the last few days. I know I'll make mistakes again in the future ( I'm a guy), and I know my leoness has gotten in the way in the past . Again, what you stated should apply to all relationships. I also want to thank you again for your insight. For I will do my best to nurture my relationship with my libra. Thanks again...steveo57

Hi Libraslair,

Thanks for the insight. How ironic after my posting, my libra and I hit a good speedbump( yes I was the wrongful party), instead of yelling and screaming like my aries often would, my libra got quiet and went into her analyical mode. I tried to make it up , but her past made her put on her protective shield. The reaction I got floored me. I know I got it bad for her..couldn't eat,sleep, etc. I try not to bother her at work , but I didn' want her or me to go thru the whole day in pain. Once she makes up her mind on an issue..it's done! Thanks again for the insight. Hopefully today we will start building on our relationship again. I just know my world is better with my libra in it than without it. Take care

Hi librasLair,

I've read your postings. Thank you. In the past I would do just that and go in self protect mode. I had not thought about it in those terms. My aries could not let things go and everytime we disagreed or debated with some heat...all my mistakes was brought up. With my libra we talk about everything together and what is best for everyone involved. When the issue is put to bed..it's done! Our conflict resolution takes so much less time focusing on the the current topic instead of reliving everything I didn't do to please her. I try to learn from all my expierences and I have found more peace in my life with my libra, then any time in my adult life. I'm 51and my last check up my blood pressure was 104/80. 139/95 with the aries. big difference

hi LibrasLair,

Sorry I didn't make my self clear. I am a true Leo (born on the 4th). My new love is a libra. I also have two daughters that are libras. The aries in the picture is my ex wife. Her and I are the fire signs and when things went good...they were great. We then didn't...talk about nightmare on elm street. I wasn't trying to knock my ex as I was saying how great my life has been since my Libra has re entered my life. Since you know alot about astrology, others have said they are libras with this sun or this rising, how do you know. Does it relate to the time of your birth? I've read more about libras since I made my posting here and find myself falling in love with her everyday. For this I am a lucky man!!

I recently got engaged to a great gal. The guy she dated before me would go thru spells and call repeatedly. Would not hear from him as far as I knew, then call my girl up out of the blue. I mean call and call. This psycho would call, leave a message to call him back and immediately repeat this. 18 times in 50 minute period. First all he wanted to do is talk. Finally I told her you need to tell him something! She finally spoke to him and of course wanted to meet for drinks and talk. I thought it was a good idea, but he did admit he wanted more than to talk. She told him of our engagement and he was cool for awhile, then it started all over! So I gotta hand it to my gal...she knew better than me. Finally she had to change her number to avoid any issues I had about him calling. So the drinks wouldn't have worked in this case either. good luck