what strong people we all are to have come through all we have done !!
all your stories strike a chord in my heart, which is healing at the moment . My love left a year ago, after 8 wonderful years ! no fights, just love and kisses every day! he was always telling me he loved me and we were very close ! then last year he went home to south Africa by himself for a couple of weeks and a month after he got back he told me he wanted to leave ! i could not understand why, every day he said he loved me ! even after he moved out ! he swore there was no one else! and because he has NEVER even looked at another in our 8 years and has very strong morals( because of what his father did to the family when he was young) I believed him --- for a whole year !! after 6 months apart he even said we should try getting back together again he then went on holiday home again and
boom suddenly there is another woman !! 3 weeks ago thanks to a post an her facebook page i find out they had been together BEFORE he left me !! and therefore all this last year when i have been loving and supporting him he has been lying to me time and time again!! i cannot believe it from someone who once loved me so much !!
This b++++ moved here last week ! ( know she just wanted a ticket out of SA, his best friends told him this and have both been very angry with him ! ) he has cut himself off from all friends and family and for the last 4 months has only spoken to her now he has paid to have her come here. she has given up her job and s just living her off him !!
I was so angry when i found out about the cheating and therefore all this last year has been a lie between us . wish he could have been honest so i could have moved on sooner !
i am afraid i really hope they split up, doing that to start a relationship they do not deserve to be happy ! however after reading the posts on this thread i am going to try and let the universe and karma do its work and try and move away and forgive and let go .I don't know how you guys do that though it makes me angry just thinking of them but i will try and hope it will let me be happier sooner !!
Thanks for letting me talk ! it feels good to get things of your chest !!
good luck and happiness to all of you with healing hearts xx