I been knowing this girl more than 5 years now.. we was always good friends but we just started to get close.. long story short we go out together and text and talk to each other daily we have fun.... I told her that I like her and that I feel for her but when I ask if we should start dating she says she not ready for that now... so Im stuck in the friend zone.... as a sitting duck I want to wait but the worst fear is that if I wait and when she comes around and Im not the one I be the one left lonely at the end hurt which im trying to avoid... idk if i should give her total space she said we can we remain good friends.... but how hard that is when you like someone that feeling is always there.. so im stuck in the cross roads GIVE UP or to wait and waiting is going to be hard...

I just started to talk an Aries girl does all pf them play hard to get when they get there heart broken by another guy.... is there a process with them.. im totally lost on what to do..

Thanks y'all Im trying hard to take it slow this time we been friends for years but this is the first time we got really close. she told me that she got hurt in the past so she just want to chill Im not going to force her....

I need advice I think i move to fast to start a relationship i wonder how to take things slow with someone that has been hurt in the past

you right... Yeah she acts just like that all happy when she get to talk to me. other days it be like hmmm yeah im doing nothing like she don't want to talk.. I really think her friends is influence they way she act now idk but its like she changed over night. this might be crazy when last time I took her out the way she talked was way different. even they way she dress was like wait like she trying to give a turnoff signal. I ask everything under the sun what she wants I told her that I will not cross that line until you ready she said that I still have her friendship but its a relationship is something she don't want right now. she said we can still go out on dates but I haven't got one in two months so I just gave up asking its like she don't want to. its like I gave my all about asking her about this. my heart, energy and emotions with this The ball is on her side now she have to make a move.... the funny thing is im talking to one of my friends that I been cool with for a while I told her everything and we talk every day hey this might mean something down the road who knows lol

Well the update is that we talk sometimes but it just don't feel right... well her ex is trying to get back in the pic now and she if the defense about not accepting him back into her life feb makes a year for them broken up..after a 4 year relationship he buys her stuff to charm her up. he kno her better than I do I only kno her about six months before she cut me off. sometimes I text her but it be like one or two reply like we cant hold a conversation.

I ask her out she cant never find time but she find time with her friends. when I call her and we talk and if she says im call you back she finds ways to return my call she says I for got to call you back whats up like a day later...... but its kinda like she a light switch with her feelings for me.. maybe im over thinking..... its like im riding the fence either you want me or not..... I can say if she was not into me she wouldn't be call trying to figure out what I want... its like she waiting for me to give up if we just stop talking all together.. im not the type of person that just role over easy I rater for somebody to tell me hey stop im not in to you I found somebody else. rather than leave me in the dark wonder if she seeing someone else or who she messing with. I wish I can find a girl that replace my feelings for her and just move on..... Its hard to give up when I have nothing to fallback on.

I'm only 22 years old Im the quiet type but once I get to kno people Im just as normal as everybody.. Im sad and depressed over this but not in life. I feel where you coming from. I just think she not into me like she use to. like on twitter she talk to my friends just as normal but when I try to talk to her she dont respond it just be the little things that gets me. She never call me I always have to call her to get her to talk to me. it just hurt so bad that im chasing her. like yesterday I I TRY so bad not to call her or text her but I just give in because i really want to kno what she doing... I just can't accept that I was a Jump off rebound guy. So I decided that I'm just give her space maybe talk to her ever once in a while not everyday like I still was doing. Im just suck it up and accept that she don't like in that way of being in a relationship and that we are just friends. I wish we never cross that line in the beginning. just like that song Half crazy.I think she worth the wait but I cant keep feeling this way all the time. if we were was friends she would at least keep in contact with me. hang out with her friends just do stuff as friends. but I feel like she still cutting me off after I cross that line, its like no return back to normal. I don't kno what to do. I do have a female friend that I LIKE but we never seem to want to go out with just me. I tell her everything we really cool as friends but I don't kno if it would go any further than I want it to so Im just be cool with that so I don't make the same mistake. So now it just a stand still if I don't talk to her she don't talk to me. so the main thing that Im thinking is just to give up all together with her.

Thanks guys. Nice points, today was the first day we kept constant contact with each other again. I think she starting to get comfortable talking over the phone. I gave her space we don't hang out as much like we use to but I think its coming. Im not going to push it by keep asking her to do something together... Think God, I called her friend but I couldn't build up the courage to ask her about her friend trying to find out is this the way she acts. I just ask kept the convo simple about school business. I told her many times that I would be there I had to find out the truth in the last few weeks I just couldn't leave things unanswered I had to get to the bottom of it..... I told her that I need you to have confidence in me that I would never cross that line again unless you ready I also told her I take people feelings serious and I want to make it right.... she said sometimes I try to hard and come to strong and over think things witch I do when i make really bad mistakes.... I told please dont judge me as the type of person I am just hope Im on the right path. sometimes I feel lonely it come and goes like i lost her but when she talk to me or text me I feel better like today is that normal?

Thanks for the reply I was like man nobody answering lol. But we been see each other for six months and for the last two it started to get bumpy. We talked about it many of times but I understand that a relationship is not what she want But its hard for me because I gave to much of my self to fast thinking we were on the same page . when I fall for a women I usually look at they way the is personality wise she very caring person confidence and smart. and she let me see that and that why I think i fell for her. I told her that I would not cross that line until you ready. because I was coming to strong on her. I think she still feel for me because she never ignore me completely. its just hard for me to return to that friend mode. right now I think she just trying to be free she goes out with her friends and family alot and just kicked me out having fun with her is that a sign that she wants me? but wants her space. im trying to understand the way she thinks

Hey Im new to this site I just need some incite on this relationship problem that im going through. Im a Gemini and she is a leo. Well it all started out well in the first few months we was seen each other on a regular base and just being cool. When I first meet her she jut came off a long relationship. so she was up front she didn't want a bf right now. So i was cool with that but than we started doing things friends Don't do such as sex and kissing and just feeling each other more than we use to. But just like a llight swatch every thing changed. she said I was getting to close and she backed away I kno i shouldn't have got my feelings caught up. just because the bond we had I thought we was on the same page. I really feel hurt that she did this kinda with no warning sign. Now she backing off all the way no we cant keep a long convo going ask her do I have a chance she said I have to decided. Im not the person to just give up. I really like her fior her personality. its something that I want to see my self with long term. I just hate the fact that I may lose her and its driving me crazy everyday. I was going to call one of her friends jut to find out why she like this.. idk what to do. sometimes I have to resist texting or call because we use to do it all the time before this happen. should I give her space?