Hi hon

all you need to ask urself in this is :

what have i got to loose?

as far as i can see sense have u not lost him once but twice. I doubt he willl stay around for a 3rd. Another issue is, why did you withdraw in round 2? From ur story it shows the cause is u yet he hangs on.

there must be someone or something that has caused ur over cuatious reaction once it got close again. something between 1990 and now. Only you can know n heal it.

as for his reactionb to ur need of validation, i understand his reaction is his way of showing u´re secure with him n the constant validation can get old, stuck in rut loose its meaning in long term. he has COMPROMISED to UR need. twice a week is a LOT validationattention ANY many regardless of sign can give. Consider urself one VERY lucky lady.

again comes to mind the incident in the course from 1990 to now. I dont think u need to question he motives as much as ur own feelings. In an astrologers words, its time to solve heal the weeds in ur garden. Christopher Witecki at soulgarden´s words.

it means u need to find out what cautious u, what stops u, what makes u act behave move as u do, u need to ask, why do i need this validation 24/24/7? why do i now need this confermation when i back in round 1 didnt need it?

as for him holding back well can u blame him? not once but twice u´ve shoved him away so to say, round 1 college, understandeble, round 2 ???? only u know sweetie.

i hope this helps

cwb

Hello

I'm in need of some advice. I dated a cancer back in 1990 but we broke up because i went away to college, but we were very much in love with one another. Recently, last July 2010, we reunited over facebook. Our only communication was via phone/text because we live 2 hours apart and I wasn't ready for a face to face meeting. We finally met approx. 2 months after. It was hot and heavy as if we just picked up where we left off. He expressed to me that I was the one that got away and he's been searching for me as well. We fell in love again. In a 5 month period we saw one another maybe 6 times. Around the holidays we began to experience some issues. I became very insecure, needy because I felt so vulnerable. Of course that made him a little angry because i wanted him to constantly validate me, etc. Yeah, I know, not good. He became a little distant and of course so did I. I was so afraid that I'd ruined everything so I just pulled away.After new years, he began to contact me daily to see how I was doing. I didn't initiate, just responded. He continues to contact me at least 2 times a week as if he's just checking to see how I'm feeling. His messages seem a little sad. We didn't officially break up but it isn't the same. I don't know if he's contacting me because he's still interested or just being nice. He did tell me he still likes me and last week he stated that he missed me a lot and tried to make arrangements to see me but he was snowed in. As I stated, he has continued to call me 2 times a week for the past 3 months but I'm unsure what he wants. He's never direct about what he desires. Should I take his efforts as he's interested in me still. I don't think a man would continue to reach out if there wasn't interest there but cancers are so confusing so I don't know. Please advise. Thank you.