Hello Momofone1965, I am really sorry to read your story, it must be very painful for you. Has your virgo tried calling or texting after that? Is he restless now that you are not answering his calls? From my personal experience and from what I have seen around me, no marriage can get stronger overnight.
You have to give yourself a break, don't judge yourself too much, try to take it easy a little bit. All virgos are over analytical, that's their main characteristic, I guess you can't do anything about it. But try and spend time doing something you like doing, like watching movies or reading books. Have you ever tried meditating? I used to jump at the thought od meditation, thinking I wouldn't be able to close my eyes for more than 3 minutes at a stretch. I was wrong, I joined Sahaj Marg, it is a natural, simple system of Yoga meditation and spiritual practice that helps one realize the ultimate potential within oneself. It helped me big time! Instead of staying depressed all the time and judging myself for no rhyme or reason, I started looking at life in a simple and uncomplicated way. The changes were amazing and they were all for the best.
I am putting down the website address of this spritual foundation, they have their missions almost all over the world. Hope it helps you!
Take care and all the best|!