It seems I am a glutton for punishment because here we go again. Started talking with my virgo guy after 2 months of not speaking. We were talking pretty much every day then he does the push and pull thing that virgos do. I was ok with it, knowing now what I do about my guy and virgos in general. Here is my problem. Initially we were texting and talking, though not half as much as previously. He was also, not as affectionate as he was before. It was almost like he was afraid to get close again because he had admitted that I hurt him the last time we broke up. He would still call me pet names and such but was not in contact as much as previously. After speaking for 2 wks and going out again several times, we were intimate. Just prior to being intimate, I jokingly mentioned us being friends with bene's if that was what he wanted....he was not taking the joke and became upset and said "Is that what you think we are?" Then he told me he wanted a future with me and that he cared deeply for me but that I had to trust him, relax, and not over react. I'm ok with what ever arrangement he wanted us to have....as long as he told me what that was. Whether that was girlfriend, friend, or friends with bene's. But as long as I knew ahead of time, so my feelings didn't get too involved. So...I go into it thinking that he wants to be with me in a non-booty call way, so I guess my expectations were high..... I thought we would pick up where we left off emotionally and relationship wise.....well, I was shocked when after we were intimate, I don't hear from him in 2 days, when we were talking everyday. Ok....I'm thinking to myself that he is probably just busy but it is really odd for him NOT to at least text me something. So....after a couple of days, he starts texting/talking to me very little and in all honesty, acting like our encounter was a booty call. But....he makes normal date plans with me for tonight. So, We had a date to go out to a bar and watch the UFC fight. All is good, but at no time does he hold my hand or get affectionate with me. It's almost like he was treating me like a friend or co-worker, with the exception that he literally spoon fed me ice cream for dessert. I would put my hand on his leg or touch him and he was fine with it but he made no effort to hold my hand or kiss me. Then at the end of the night, I get a few kisses but just pecks on the lips. Nothing substantial at all. Also, I do get several hugs as well but that was it.
So....I realize that I am over analyzing the situation but can someone please give me some insight into what is going on? Is he just stepping back and being cautious because I have hurt him? Am I having to start ALL over again trying to win his affections? I realize that if I was just a booty call, then he wouldn't spend the time with me in other circumstances....but I'm really confused by his behavior. If he is just being cautious then I can understand and won't expect much from him at this point., but it would be really great to hear other points of view. Please help ladies....I really appreciate it!