Hello TT, (The Transformed)
First, my apologies for taking so long to respond to your reply and in-sight to my post! You provided many interesting viewpoints, and clarity regarding these mysterious Cancer Crab Men! I appreciated the time you have taken to express your thoughts and opinions based on your own experiences! Thank you and I certainly welcome any further feedback/opinions/advice you may have to share/offer. Also, could you please see my response to ‘Crazycap’ in this forum?
Your advice regarding ‘patience’ is sound and certainly makes sense to me! – Yes, I truly love this man, and can actually envision myself growing old with him, if it’s to be! – I’d love for it to be so, as we have similarities on so many levels. Sure as heck, water & water signs signal a ‘green light’ so to speak. This I feel is my chance with this Cancer water sign, and NO – I do not want to pass it up, as I consider this reconnection to be something truly special! The opportunity to get to know each other has only recently presented itself to us both, at the onset I initially felt ‘elevated’ by his feelings and the love he expressed for/to me!
Confused I am though, as he has never asked me for any contact phone numbers, or sent me a friend request on FB, our first initial contact in 30 years! What are your thoughts on this reality???
Yes, I have been taking it personally that his contact with me has dropped off considerably over the past months. I believe women can experience these feeling in general, as for the most part – we as women are clear that....‘Women are from Venus, and Men are from Mars’!!! LOL!!! It’s in the way we express ourselves, or do not!!!
Point made regarding not taking his shift of position under his protective shell personally and allowing selfishness to surround me & my precious heart! Your probably right, - it may very well NOT be all about me. And if it is; I am only a part of what is going on in his life while he struggles to regain his position within his professional and personal life!
Within our contact, I have expressed with clarity, how I feel about him within my mind, heart and soul, as he has with me. As he was going through the motions of being faced with the personal & professional issues surrounding his life, I offered up my prayers and positive affirmations in my effort to ‘lift him up’ in my attempts to keep him positive. I assured him that I am his FRIEND, his LOVE & feel like his SOUL MATE, - and that his health and well-being is important to me! I have demonstrated to him that I am there for him with open ears willing to listen. (I’m a good listener! LOL! Truly though! Throughout my life, I have always extended my Piscean self to family, good friends & fellow man/woman whenever needed, and for this...I have no regrets!)
I have come to learn that Cancers are attached to their pasts. This Cancer Man has expressed to me the last person he loved so dearly was his mother, and now me. How the reality of it all frightens him, as he cannot touch and breathe the same air I do! Wow...NOW that’s honestly deep I’m thinking! I expressed to him I possess this same LOVE for my mother...my best friend! (Both our mothers are deceased). I am a part of his past, as he is mine. This I believe is why this relationship has ‘substance’ of sorts. As my life progressed without him in it for 30 years, believe me, I thought about him...time & time again! More so when my mind travelled to a time & place earlier than my unsuccessful marriage to a stubborn Taurus!
The Taurus man loved me and I him, till he eventually wore me out with his on-going unbearable bursts of anger and antics!
TT....I have always followed my heart & gut feelings over my head all my life! Ego and I aren’t friends! LOL! I’m the sign with the ‘heart strings’ exposed! I have learnt a great deal about myself as my life has progressed through the years. I protect my heart more than ever these days as I have lived with ‘hurt’ in my past, and consciously choose NOT to anymore. However, in saying this...I also make sure that any relationship I am in will not be the recipient of my past hurts! I refuse to carry that ‘baggage’ with me and bring that past into future relationships!!! Don’t want no one to pay for what someone else has done to me!
I have expressed to this hard-shelled, tender, emotional Crab that I am LOYAL, and cannot...will not falter! This, an expression of my commitment overall as a FRIEND, LOVER, SOULMATE, MOTHER & GRANDMOTHER~! I offer up, & deliver my true heart and soul to those I love, unconditionally and have...all my life!
It appears, I have given you and Crazycap the impression I play games with hearts. Please understand this is not my persona at all! I couldn’t be more honest, clean & sharp than what I have exposed to you both! I truly appreciate your response and honesty, and deliver it back to you!
I welcome with an open heart and mind any additional thoughts/responses you may have...and thank you once again for your clear, concise response! You’re a JEM ~ I have learned more about these Cancer Men from you! Again many Thanks!
An Ol’ Soul...Seabirdz.