@Totitoti - thanks for the uplifting spirit. I have been concentrating on me and trying to push him out of my mind. Unfortunately I've not been too successful with it and keep thinking of what could have been. Still nothing from him after his last text to me. I'm assuming he's gone forever, and maybe never really cared in the first place...

@Selenite - happy new year, and thank you for the reply! I havent talked to the Virgo man in a month now. After I mentioned I was interested in him, he made it sound like he was only looking for friendship so I havent talked to him since then. I'd love to have an updated reading on where things are headed with my love life, especially since I dont think that the Virgo man will reach back out again for any romantic communication.

Hello All - I've been stalking this thread for a couple of months, really trying to read through all 400+ pages. I got to page 100 and then gave up, honestly. LOL! I wanted to share my story and get some feedback. Sorry for the long post...

I met this Virgo man (Libra Moon, Libra Venus) via a University online program back in October - we were in the same group for one of our classes. I'm a Scorpio (Libra Moon, Virgo Venus) and gave him my number toward the end of the class, and we started texting almost daily (his initiation). I knew, reading from many websites, that Virgos move very slow. So I wanted to try and build a friendship with him. I have also been VERY apprehensive about telling him how I truly felt, that I wanted to be more than friends. I'm about 6 years older than him also (him 31, me 37).

Most days we communicate, it's multiple messages from him in a row usually in the evening after the work day has finished (he tells me about everything going on in his day, and his likes/dislikes) and sends me pictures from his camping trip and his Thanksgiving meal he cooked. I usually mirror his text style with replying. I VERY RARELY reply immediately, and usually take up to a day to reply so that I don't look desperate. There have been 2 separate times when he went for an entire week without any communication. I would give him his space, and text him about a week after and he would immediately reply letting me know that work has been overwhelming. He works in healthcare, so I understand that particular industry is a little crazy right now. However, during our text conversations I've noticed 3 patterns...

1. He RARELY asks me any questions, it's usually me asking something about him/life/politics/etc.
2. He RARELY initiates conversation, mostly just replying to me.
3. Although I compliment him, and encourage him when he's talking to me about his future, I never receive the same kind of communication back from him.

Unfortunately, we do not live anywhere close to each other, several states away, so physical meetup is difficult. Last week, I had asked him if he were open to have a Zoom catch up and he agreed. So, Saturday evening we had a Zoom call for over 2 hours face-to-face via video. Conversation went great, he was very sweet, funny, and engaged. There was never a time with any uncomfortable silence. I thought it went well, and I thought we had a good vibe. He laughed with me, and listened to all my stories intently. After our call ended, I text him a couple of times telling him about the shows I was watching as a recommendation, and he replied telling me what he was watching also.

Monday was no communication from him, but that evening I mustered up the courage (with LOTSSSSS of anxiety in tow) to tell him that I felt I had a wonderful time chatting with him on Saturday night. I said I thought he was cute, kind, and funny and that we vibe well together. I also said "I would love to continue getting to know you better, if you're up for it." I thought that was pretty clear in me telling him that I like him, I think he's cute, and that I want to continue getting to know him as more than friends. Tuesday evening rolls around and he replies with "apologies for the delay. I'm flattered and thank you! I'm totally down for a good friendship". I felt extremely shattered after reading that message. I feel like I put my heart on the line, and he basically rejected me. At this point, I just want to hide and never talk to him ever again. I'm SO embarrassed and I feel that communicating with him more will just make me look like a weak little puppy dog, awaiting for attention from someone who only wants to be friends.

Am I blowing this out of proportion, or am I right to feel this way? I don't connect with people often AT ALL. I felt something strong with him immediately, even before we started text messaging, and there was something in me that couldn't shake it. I would have never pursued him, if my heart didn't feel so strongly about it. I guess I'm looking for a little guidance. I was really hoping he would have at least complimented me back, telling me he had a good time chatting with me on Saturday, but I got nothing....I feel very dejected...

@Selenite - Hi! I apologize, what does "still open" mean? Are you asking me if things have changed in my romantic life? If yes, then unfortunately no nothing has happened. I'm keeping an open mind though!

@Jodomi @Totitoti - thank you both for being encouraging. I don't have much hope for him coming back, it's been dead silence from him. He probably doesn't care that he's hurt my feelings since he only wants to be friends anyway. I will keep you guys updated. For now, I will be pushing him out of my mind as much as possible. This overthinking is killing me.

@dancervibes06 - Hi and so sorry for the SUPER late reply. I want to thank you so much for the reading. According to your reading, I guess I need to stay single for longer. I've not been in a relationship for close to 10 years, and thought I met a nice Virgo last Fall - he turned out to be nothing and told me he just wanted to be friends so I stopped talking to him further. I met him through a university masters program, and we are teamed up in other groups together for future classes so I didn't want it to become too uncomfortable with him since we have to work together again in the future. I guess I have to stay patient and see if someone MAY come along for me one day.

I also recently just signed up to build a house - should be ready in the Fall. I also graduate this Fall so lots of fun things happening. I will concentrate on that for now. I just wish something positive in love would happen for me since it's been SO long since I've had anyone care for me as a partner. Looking forward to bringing in more positivity this year!

@Totitoti - you're right. I know I need to be patient but I also just miss my friend, I think? We met in a very different way, through university, so I didn't want it to be awkward if we are grouped together on another school project again. I also felt like we had so much in common we could talk about just anything and I missed it. I will try and keep strong and concentrate on me. This overthinking is killing me though! lol!

@Totitoti - hi there! first and foremost, I'm happy that you're happy about getting clarity on your pregnancy scare. I know there are a lot of women who struggle to get pregnant, but there are also others who either have enough children and are done, and/or aren't wanting anymore. It sounds like your Virgo hubby may be hiding his emotions, but that sounds about right for a Virgo right? Funny you mention that your Mars is in Virgo. My Venus is in Virgo, and I definitely have Virgo tendencies sometimes. Although I have Virgo in me, I still don't fully understand the full aspect of a Virgo. This is the first time in my life I've had a Virgo that I've been interested in. I realized recently that my manager (male) is also a Virgo (one day apart from my Virgo). Too bad I can't talk to him and get perspective on my guy - as per usual Virgo, I only gets tidbits of information when he's feeling particularly "sharey"! lol

All is well for me here - just getting ready for the holidays. I do think about my Virgo a lot, but have come to the realization that I can't sit around and have a pity party about it. I have to move on and do what is best for me. I have to keep my heart open and see if maybe there's someone even better for me out there. Too bad I don't connect with prospective mates very easily. This Virgo is the first guy I've been truly interested in/connected with since like 4 years ago. I try to drown myself in my work usually, and keep myself very busy. Once the pandemic hit, my industry took a direct hit and things have been very slow. I honestly can't wait till 2021, when hopefully work will pick back up and I can get a nice distraction from my inner thoughts. I started a workout routine earlier this year and lost almost 30 lbs, but fell off the wagon when Fall classes started back up. I think I'll get back into my routine - a little exercise will do me good and keep me positive!

Hope everyone on this thread has a nice holiday and you can hopefully see (in-person or virtually) your loved ones!

Hi All - Just wanted to check in since it's been quite some time. I've been concentrating on me. I signed up to build a house that should be ready by the Fall, so it's been occupying my time (in a good way). I also graduate with my Masters degree this Fall, so I'm excited to finally be finished just in time to move into my pretty new home! I never heard back from the Virgo I was talking to in Nov/Dec last year. Funny enough, since I met him through our Masters program, we are teamed up on other classes this Fall so let's see how that turns out. However, I guess I just read too far into it before, and he never really liked me in the first place. It still stings a little when I think about it, but I know that if it were meant to be it WOULD be! Hope all is well with everyone!

@Totitoti @Jayann - Thank you, as always, for the encouragement. I unfortunately had a bit of lapse in judgement, along with feeling extremely anxious the last week or so. I ended up forwarding a message to the Virgo via our university chat app. It was another student's post regarding trivia night. He responded within about 30 minutes telling me thank you, and that he would try and make it to the trivia night - he didn't bother asking me how I was or what I've been up to or anything.... I didn't reply to his message. I know it's not a big deal, but I didn't want him to think that I was deliberately still thinking about him. Oh well...

@TheCaptain - I have an opportunity to apply for a higher position at work, with a much higher pay grade as well. I'm kind of nervous about it, because I feel like it may take away from the opportunities that I have with my current job. I think I'm capable of handling this higher position but want to get some feedback on if you see it working out for me. The position has many applicants already but I feel like I have a slightly higher leg up since I'm already in the org and would just be promoted. What are your thoughts?

@TheCaptain - ok thanks for clarifying. I still haven't heard from him - it's been about a week since I reached out to him via social media. His profile is public so I can see that he's been active, but not responded to me. I'm ok with it, but I'm a little sad he hasn't said anything yet. it's all good. I will continue to concentrate on me!

@TheCaptain - Thanks so much! He still hasn't replied or acknowledged my message on social media for us to connect after so many years but he may have not seen it yet. When you talk about issues with honesty between us, does that mean that we would be too honest with each other and cause emotional distress? Or not honest enough? I know he's currently single but unsure if he's even looking to be with someone. I just can't believe that after so many years, I still have butterflies for him lol

@TheCaptain - thanks. I really am trying. It's just been hard. I have been thinking a lot about a friend from high school. It's been a very long time since we've seen/talked to each other, but I went ahead and reached out to him to see how he was doing. Just awaiting a reply. Just curious if you can give some insight and if I should even pursue...

Mine: 11/02/1983
His: 7/31/1982

@TheCaptain - thank you again, and what you're saying is very understandable. It's just hard when people around me who are possibly not as evolved, don't love themselves as much, are immature, etc, are finding the loves of their lives while I sit here still single. It's very frustrating. It's not like I'm not trying, it's just getting so hard to see everyone else finding love SO easily while I struggle. I know age is just a number, but I'm tired of being alone.

@TheCaptain - thank you for this. I really am going the self-love route. I've been single for almost 10 years, so I just don't know what else I can do to attract the right kind of person. I've put my career first the past 5 years, and really focused on myself so I didn't really put much effort into finding someone. I stay confident, and I do love who I've become. I know I am stronger and maintain many more boundaries now than ever before (in a positive way) without letting people walk all over me. I guess I just was hoping someone would be coming my way after all the work I've done.

@TheCaptaih - Hello! I was wondering if I could please get an updated reading when you have a chance? I've been staying as positive and motivated as possible these last few months. I've moved past the Virgo man as much as possible, and have tried to keep my heart open. I know you mentioned this year I need to do some house cleanup (mentally) so that I can look forward to a better 2022, but I'm curious if you see anything romantic coming in my future? I've been feeling a little lonely, and although I've been trying to stay as busy as possible I just always get the feeling of "wouldn't it be nice if I had a partner to share life with?" I'd love to get your feedback when you can.

@dancervibes06 - Hello and thank you so much for the reading. The first reading regarding my home really resonated with me! The way I interpret the King of Pentacles you mentioned is that my father is always giving me the best financial advice. He’s been helping me throughout my life, especially with the home buying process and managing my finances to get ready for the mortgage. As you mentioned, there are obstacles in the way that keep popping up with this home.
Even yesterday I had to make a quick strategic decision with my salesperson but it looks like it will work out best for me in the end. There are things that I wanted to add into the house that I didn’t know if I could afford if the delay hadn’t happened. Now that the build has been delayed, it gives me more leeway to build up my finances and possibly put more money toward the house on things I really want! The Moonology reading was great too, needing to make decisions to keep the movement forward! Love it!

Regarding the love reading, I truly appreciate you taking the time to help me understand what is truly going on with my emotions right now. It’s been a tough couple of months, and I’m not even sure why this Virgo man had such a strong effect on me. I see you mentioned more balance is coming my way, and it’s up to me to maintain physical/mental balance and positivity. You mentioned I’ve been fragmented lately, and you couldn’t be MORE RIGHT!! I’ve started to work out again, and it’s helping with my mental state. I like that I can lower my anxiety with exercise! It looks like I need to start dedicating some time toward meditation as well to keep my focus! Sounds like the theme here is to release the negative energy and make room for the positive energy and love that is coming my way soon. I need to release my past, and forget about the Virgo, to make room for new love (which will hopefully come soon)! You mentioned it perfectly at the end of your love reading, right now I need to focus the most on me (fitness, meditation, self-love, better sleep, and diet).

Thank you so much for this, it really was exactly what I needed to read!

@VIRGO-MEETS-HIS-MATCH - Hi and welcome. I'm fairly new to this thread as well, but I feel like you've got a lot to unpack with your current relationship. Just going through your post, your Virgo man seems to be sucking the life out of you (literally). As a fellow scorp, I would tell you to cut him out of your life now! You sound like you were so vibrant, and with so much love and light to give, previously. He seems to have brought you down to his toxic level, and made you feel unappreciated and vengeful. I would think the best revenge would be to abandon his sorry little butt and walk away without looking back. If he doesn't try and come back to you, then you clearly mean nothing to him - and you should take that as your answer and put your efforts toward someone else who will not only vibe better with you, but be a true partner who supports you and encourages you, rather than constantly put you down. If he does come back to you, ask yourself if you want to continue perpetuating this same toxicity forever. Ask yourself if he is who you truly want to spend the rest of your life chasing, and hoping/praying that he'll pay attention to you. I have anxiety and just thinking about having to deal with someone like that in my life makes me so unbelievably anxious. Hope you find some guidance to follow what you truly believe is best for your heart and life.

@dancervibes06 - Hello, and no worries. Take your time. Hope your child is doing well now?