Searching Ashes - would you please be able to do a reading for me regarding a man who is Scorpio ?

Regards

Jane

Old thread I know but this sounds very much like the Scorpio man I've been involved with the last year. Never have I been so confused about a man!!. It has made me quite ill to be honest. How did things work out?

DC...I know this thread was started a long time ago but I am in a very very similar situation as you were/are? with a Scorpio man, I'm very interested as to how things turned out for you?

I have known this Scorpio man for 35 years. We had a little 'thing' one night years ago, just a bit of messing around but that was it. I moved away we both got into relationships. 12 months ago, we found each other on Facebook, He couldn't believe it, he told me how he had felt about me all those years ago and he remembered every little thing about me. I too had liked him all those years ago. This online relationship lasted 6 weeks, we spoke day and night most times til the early hours. He told me he was totally in love with me and adored me. It was a very deep, intense relationship and we arranged to meet up. We met, it was a lovely day. I had just ended my 25 year relationship with my partner , it was coming anyway but this spurred it on. After a few weeks of seeing each other, he went cold on me, still keeping in touch but he told me he was confused because of his past relationship where he got badly burned as he put it. There was a child involved which his ex caused him so much pain over because he left her, and has never let him see his child. After a few weeks of limited contact he came back and we saw each other once a week. Not dating as such but he made excuses to come over and help me do things. He has never actually asked me to go anywhere with him, almost like it's a weakness to do so. 12 months ago we were lovers but since the 2 month break where he was confused, we have only kissed briefly and never slept together. I don't know whether he still feels the same way about me or not. In the early days it was me who instigated sex, he said I was far too important to him for it to be just about sex. However, the few times we had sex, as much as we wanted it and were attracted to each other, it never really went well. I am wondering if he is afraid of failing in this area. We still see each other, but he still only comes over when it's to 'help me' with something. He knows I love him because I have told him last year and again the other day on a message. He stays here all day and into the early hours but will never stay over. He finds it really hard to show any affection at all. I don't know what he is thinking or how he feels about me. I know he cares about me but I don't want to just be friends. I don't know whether to just give up or be patient in case he is taking his time to trust me. I haven't seen him or heard from him for over a week, after he spent a nice day here last week.. It's like he gets closer and closer and then backs off again. It's driving me mad.

Wow!!! we could be talking about the same guy here!!

This is exactly how it has been with me and the scorpio man I have been involved with for the last year. He fell for me really hard a year ago, when we got really close, he backed off telling me he found it hard to commit because of being badly burned in the past. So I left him to it, he still kept in touch and then after 2 months he was back again, making excuses to see me, helping me with things etc. He has never mentioned how we were in the beginning it's like it never happened. Since that time we have never been intimate but he still comes over and spends the day etc. He keeps coming and going. He spent the day with me at my house last week and I haven't heard from him since. It's driving me mad. I have to read between the lines all the time. Analysing things he says and does. I have no idea what to do. I don't find it easy talking to him about it because I don't want to put pressure on him and rive him away.

He is single and lives alone, he likes his own space and company. He never asks me to go anywhere with him, if I do go anywhere with him it's because I have invited myself. It's almost like he see's it as a weakness to show that he wants me to do something with him. I have sent him a message but he hasn't replied. All this is driving me mad.

To Searching Ashes, your story sounds almost exactly the same as mine.

I found an old 'friend' on Facebook this time last year. I had known him for 35 years and hadn't seen him for 14. We chatted everyday night and day sometimes til 6am in the morning. He old me how much he had thought of me all those years ago but was always afraid to approach me. (We did get intimate once when we were a lot younger) He became besotted with me and I him. After 6 weeks of this we met up and it was the most perfect day. He adored me and I adored him. I was in a very unhappy relationship at the time which was already ending. After 6 weeks of seeing each other, him telling me how he loved me etc. He very quickly cooled off telling me that because of past hurt he shied away from commitment. I understood this. By this time my partner and I had split. After 2 months of this cooling off (he still kept in touch, I always waited for him to make contact). All of a sudden he was back - wanting to do everything for me, help me, made excuses to come and see me. There was no love talk. We went out together but only at my suggestion he could never actually bring himself to ask me to go anywhere with him. Whether this was considered too much of a commitment to him or whether he saw it as a weakness, asking me to go somewhere with him I don't know. This all started in September and all was fine up until 6 weeks ago when he cooled right off again. We are still in touch but it's nothing like it was.. This has been a year of turmoil for me. I love him more than I have ever loved anyone and we had a real connection. I'm sure he loves me but is afraid of getting hurt. He says he's coming over to see me and then makes excuses not to. When he does come over he spends all day up until the early hours of the morning but we have not been intimate since this time last year. I know when he's with me he wants to be but it's like he gets closer and then scares himself and backs off again.

I can't cut myself off from him. I wish I could but I can't.

Hello Gem, your situation seems very similar to my own. This Scorpio man who I have known for more than 30 years founbd me online by accident, he pursued me, told me how much he had loved me for years (we did have a brief encounter years ago). We chatted online for weeks, very intense and loving. He didn't want to meet up til the time was perfect. We hadn't seen each other for ten years. We met, it was lovely we have met a few times (I have recently eded my current relationship) Since we see eachother more now we don;t chat online so much and the intense passiobate chat has stopped but our relationship has deepened I think. He has days where he just shuts himself away and makes no contact and I think he has gone off me but he comes back again. being a scorpio myself I do understand the way he is. He is very scared of committing to a relationship as he has been burnt in the past. I'm sure he feels a lot for me but I think he thinks I am too good for him in some way. It's a very difficult relationship.