Thank God I am not crazy about thinking these things, Flowsco. Yea, I'm wondering if the woman and her guy aren't happy, but I think it's a matter of her guy works too much and doesn't have time for her. Of the 3 times I seen her, 2 of the times she was alone and not with him. She is a bartender and works a few nights a week and I guess it was a common place for my Scorpio to hang out and whatever may or may not have happened between them two is in the past and should not be brought into the future. I happened to mention directly to her that I may get a job close to her in the engineering field (all truth, as this is what I do) and I think it made her realize that I am more than just a dumb little girl dating my Scorpio.
Being a Scorpio myself, I know I have ability to always have the upper hand because when I was internally upset that night, I dared not show it and went about dancing with some of the girls, while the two of them chatted about whatever. I got in my "I don't care mood and I will deal with this later or not, depending on what he says or does." So, when the subject was brought up later that night, boy I blew up and let him have it in a respectable but assure way that I wasn't playing games with him or anyone else.
I have never talked him down about his situation of living with his parents, no car and no job and have always made light of it and accepted it for what it was. I have re-assured him on so many ways that I'm not there for what he does or doesn't have, but for who he is as a person and I've told him I believe in him and us. I doubt she would ever dare try to talk down about me because I have always been kind and never made a scene in front of anyone. That sort of things would probably turn off my Scorpio man towards her if she spoke against me. He seems like the type that, in time, would back me up without a doubt and choose me over any of his friends. And if he doesn't, sure it will sting quite a bit and take a decade to get over this short of a deep relationship, but I will survive.
I just feel so deeply connected to him and I know he feels the same way that I would feel a part of me sincerely died if he and I didn't make it for the long haul. I've told him from the start, don't test me and don't try to make me jealous because it will hurt and I will walk away. So, in essence, I may have made him insecure (not on purpose) about himself because I honestly think he feels I can do better than him, but in reality, he is so much on my mind and in my heart that I could never walk away from any small bumps in the road- like no job, no car etc... but infidelity or even a fraction that he may cause me any insecurities about myself, I would run in a heartbeat. I have been through far too much in my lifetime already to put up with any games from any man and this he does know loud and clear.
There was a few weeks that he was just in a horrid deep depressed mood all the time that we seen each other, not because of me, but of his own problems; this was right before he lost his car.. but I didn't know this was happening at the time because he didn't want to tell me. So, driving one night home from being out, he snapped at me about driving (I had no clue where I was and the GPS took me to a road that was out). So, I politely told him in a strong way, "Ya know, my life sucks too but you don't see me taking it out on you. We only see each other on the weekends and I don't want those precious moments ruined by your foul behavior. Stop being so critical and help me instead of harboring me." I dropped him off and went home.... since then, he has really changed his foul behavior and actually cried that night. He was so worried that he lost me and that he messed it up between us. I was so worried that my little "talk" had made him run away.
But I am wondering about the "now", he seems not to be disturbed by what I had to say or, at least, he's pretending he's not worried about it. I just pray that I've set clear boundaries of being respected. Heck, I even watch porn with him, as I like it too. Part of me really wants to know why they had that little hand dancing episode. My heart sinks when I think about it, but I did notice that he knew I got cold and knew he did something wrong and tried to make it all better by really trying to get closer to me. If he wants me like he says he does, then I guess time will tell and I'll have to take a lot of deep breaths. Thanks for your input and I still want to hear more from others to ease my anxiety, just a little bit...
Any other Scorpio perspectives out there want to provide input?