Thanks Captain... anyone else have any insight into this pairing from experience?
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RE: Scorp/Cap - Can it work?
Thanks Captain... for both the hope and also reading what I already kind of see... he is so self-reliant almost to the point that it seems he doesn't believe he deserves someone - that he can't be enough even though I've asked for nothing (I don't need him but I want him is how I phrased it to him)... he has admitted to me that he has in the past pushed people away when they've started to get too close but hasn't with me - though at times he does tend to withdraw more at which point I just show up at his place - get in his space after he's had a few days of isolation and he always seems happy to see me so I think that this might be reassuring to him...
He knows where I stand - that I like him, that I am not demanding anymore of him than what he can give me (he's away a lot but always gets in touch when he's back)... we make general plans for the future in terms of getting together and doing stuff... I hug him a lot and he seems to enjoy it... but I feel like I have to almost chase him a bit - is this ok? I don't mean in an overbearing everyday kind of way but rather a gentle keep reminding him that I'm still here kind of way (it seems like he just expects me to disappear - or at least he's pushing to see what happens - whenever I've done that in the past - pushed - it was because I wanted to see if that person was worthy, if they'd push back - so that's kind of what I'm doing)... it's hard though because he's just so worried about me getting hurt, of me not getting what I need, of it being selfish for him to get involved with me... so I don't know. His words speak of warning but his actions are just so different.... that being said it gets hard when he is away because I don't get those actions and start to doubt..
We haven't been sexual yet and I think that's more than ok... good actually... we've kissed and such but no nakedness yet though we have both admitted that it's something that is necessary though it seems that it will happen on his time, when he's ready... I guess from your insight I just need to be persistent without being pushy and hopefully over time he'll let down his guard somewhat?
Scorp/Cap - Can it work?
Just wondering if anyone has any insight into this pairing...
me - nov 3 1976
him - dec 24 1982
we've been getting along well when we're together and I can tell that he likes me though from everything I've read he's exhibiting typical capricorn behaviour and saying that work comes first and that he can never be enough for me (even though I haven't asked him for anything other than spending time with him having fun) though his actions betray his words... he's away a lot which doesn't bother me but I'm wondering if it's actually possible to get a capricorn to let down his walls over time... any input would be appreciated...