Hi Katie and FlowyAir,
Hope you are both well. Katie mail me anytime hun. Just got up lol. Take care and talk soon xx
aww thanks ladies you are 2 sweet people and I am glad that I can help in anyway I can.
Katie my email addy is try that lol
FlowyAir, hun keep your chin up and leave him to his own devices for a while, do what I suggested and get yourself out there, and I do feel he will come back, he is keeping an eye on you but acting like a spoiled child. He saw your message as drama and clingy and give him chance to think and mull things over, if he comes back all fair and great, if he doesn't hun it's his loss and better for you to find out now than if he spits the dummy later xx
LOL yep we cancerians are complex peeps. Ok If you feel he needs reassurance then offer it, if you don't truly feel he needs it don't give it and never make excuses for your feelings, they are as valid as his are. Put your cards on the table when you are ready and explain that you are taking a time out to move but if he wants to help you it would be most appreciated (let him feel needed) if he accepts great if not thats great too as it gives you some breathing space to gather yourself and you will be busy also. If he finds out you are seeing someone else he wont go there as his feelings right or wrong about the spilt with your ex will then be founded in his eyes thats a tricky line to balance on with us. Only give him as much as he gives you, this will help you move on if things go south, but try not to close down totally to him as he will feel it and react to it. Sorry hun have to get ready for work, but will answer better when I can. Take Care ttfn xx
Am glad it clarified things for you ;o) Yes your posts are getting through I can see them lol. Case of the internet gremlins me thinks lmao. You listen to your gut hun when you read them. They come with a booklet too so if you are unsure read the booklet for the particular card but in time you will learn to trust your instincts.
I am going to share something with you here. It's an easy thing to do but I have to share it quickly as I have 30 mins to get ready for work lol.
Sit in a quiet place and clear your mind as best you can. Then ask yourself the question you most want answering (ask an easy one first few times so you can guage the truth of your reaction), say for example is my name Katie. The listen to your bodies reaction, if it is truth you will feel a pull (but a nice feeling) in your heart, if it's an untruth you will feel a stronger pull but it wont feel as good. Once you have mastered that ask a question you truly want to know the answer to and listen to your hearts reaction. If it feels good then the answer is exactly that, to stay, do it, follow that course of action, if it feels wrong then you have your answer, it's a no go, not to do it, don't follow it etc.
Use it as a compass as your heart will never lie to you, your head will make you think things that aren't there, see slights which don't exist, but your heart never will as that is the seat of our being.
Hope this helps too, now off to get ready for work, will check in tomorrow of if you wish you can email me, my email is on the other thread about the angel cards. Have a good night and take care of you!!! Smile and laugh and feel yourself rise from the feelings of pain when you feel them, singing happy songs is good too ;o) xx
I love the angel cards etc, they bring me a sense of peace in a turbulent time. I am glad that you wont be upset about him anymore today, that is good, don't be hun, I dont think he is doing this to hurt you on purpose, just he needs his space to gather his thoughts and we are very private peeps and will share when we are ready.
To do an angel reading I just sit and relax and shuffle the pack and ask that which I want to know be answered from a place of love for me and I shuffle until I am drawn to stop, there's no specific question which needs to be asked just if I want a specific question answered I will ask it, otherwise I ask for that which they wish for me to know that day. Once the cards are shuffled and I have been drawn to stop, I will pull three cards from the top of the deck and thank them for guiding me. I turn them over and interpret them. Hope that helps answer your questions xx
Am gonna share a story here about a girlfriend of mine who was clingy and turned me off to show you hopefully what I mean.
We had been work mates for a while and then became friends (I choose my friends very carefully) and we began going out together for rides out to go see different places when time allowed for us both. We had a laugh and I enjoyed myself but there were times when I didn't want to go, but I did to make her happy (we try and keep peeps happy). Anyway this day I didn't want to go and told her I didn't fancy going out and about that day as I was tired and just wanted to chill (gave her the explanation so her feelings weren't hurt as she had no other friends really) on my own. She was oh ok, then later that day I got a text message, asking how I was doing and how she hoped she hadnt done anything to upset me. (I had already given her an explanation as to why I didn't go and it was a true one), I text her back eventually saying no she hadnt upset me I just wanted some me time, to which she replied as long as youre sure I haven't upset you (2 strikes) I said nope am fine, and hoped it would be left at that. The next day at work she took me to one side saying again how she hoped she hadnt upset me and was sorry we hadnt gone out. (Strike 3) I pulled away saying I was fine and thought grrr and left her alone for a day or so to gather my thoughts as this wasnt the first time she had done this. I decided to leave my job as I needed a new challenge and she decided she was leaving too when she was happy enough where she was, but because I was leaving she decided to leave too and left the week after I did. She took a job I had refused and text me daily etc. She became like my second skin and I found myself suffocating as everytime I turned around there was a text message or a phone call or her dropping by out of the blue I felt I couldn't breathe so had to cut all ties with her. I am still her friend and will help her if I could but I no longer see her socially and only text her back if she texts me. Because of her becoming too clingy the dynamics of our friendship changed and I cant 'feel' the same way about her now as I know she will revert to type if I let her back in. Had she left me alone the first time and let me chill as I had told her I was gonna do we would have probs still been friends and gone places together, but because she wouldn't/refused to take me at my word she pushed a barrier between us which I wont pull down because she will revert to type again the first time I need my space.
Hope this helps you to understand the clingy part xx
Thanks, I try and help as best I can. With regards to his strutting his stuff in front of you then yep thats a poke in the eye, but it's also a two way street (this is grr cancerian here lol), he wants you to see what you are missing, then honey poke him right on back. Smile loads, laugh loads even if it feels like your heart is breaking and give him the finger right on back. No I don't think you should talk to him at his work as that is kinda clingy, as you have sought him out to speak, be nochulant stick your chest out when walking past him and girl use your womanly wiles, just remember men place women in 3 catagories, girlfriend, wife and mother (the girlfriend is a nice way of saying a bad word lol but they are paid if you get my drift) he doesn't want a mother, he may not want a wife but he def doesn't want the other as they arent keepers if you get my meaning. Just continue to be yourself, remember he was attracted to you before he met you in person (before he knew who you were) he will remember that, you need to try and be that carefree (kinda) person again make him remember and if he truly hasn't walked away yet (I don't think he has not yet as he is into game playing mode right now and that's wrong) make him remember the 'old' you not the oops what did I do wrong you and he may turn around again. xx
lmao guess its the universe making sure I answer ;o) ok, I don't think your feelings are unwarranted, and I think he needs a kick up the rear (any man really) who pulls these kinds of stunts on us and vise versa. However, I will answer about the girls in a this is me kinda thing ok.
I left a relationship and went almost straight into another (previous one was long distance meaning a diff country away) and of course I couldn't be with him in the biblical sense because of that, but never once did I stray and see other people even when things were going down hill, I met another man and we could only see each other (after long distance thing went south) once a week due to his and my working commitments, and once again not once did I do anything with anyone else because of that, and sometimes I never saw him for 2 months and it was killing me inside as I was a nervous wreck but he was a gemini (nuff said lol), anyway the lack of biblical didn't deter me nor did it make me want to go out and see other people, once we are commited we are commited until we decide enoughs enough and thats usually after loads of heart searching or of basically being ignored or feeling used, then we will look elsewhere, but my point is this, I don't think he has been seeing other people for 'relations' as it's not really in our genetic makeup, of course some are the negative of the sign, but I honestly don't feel he is the negative, just 'hurt' right now for a small thing but to him it's been blown way out of proportion in his mind. Hope this helps x
Ok clingly versus love. What I personally dislike is someone constantly asking me if I am fine when I am in quiet mode, or calling me 24/7, once is enough and if I don't want to talk, they shouldn't take it personally I just want me time, but if they continually call then to me it's their being clingy and I don't like it at all it turns me 'off' emotionally so to speak, I will get back to them when I am ready, I wont intentionally ingnore someone, but I wont be pushed to talk either, so I guess in love you can say hey babe how you doing with a hug (in person of course lol) and I say I'm good but then if I want it left at that (and peeps know as I wont expand on anything), even if something looks to be wrong, if it's wrong I will say something when I am ready not when it's expected. In love a touch, a smile reaching someones eyes, a small gesture is all that is needed but it is pre-empted by a touch. Words don't have to be spoken with us, it's all touch based (or it is for me) If body language says stay away then dont touch as it looks clingy but if you are leant into legs crossed facing you etc then a small touch is allowed and if its not shunned then you can take it further. Hope this makes sense as I am a girl and not a male lol and we are diff in most ways (cancerians lol) but fundamentally the same in others. xx
Hi Hun, it's ok don't worry about it, mine is rubbish sometimes too lol. Ok as cancerians we can cut people dead when we see them, but for him to be leaving his blinds open knowing you can see him and he can see you it's a kinda poke in the eye I think, but I also think he is showing himself to you on a look what you are missing kinda thing. You haven't said how old he is but I am guessing from the jumping on the bed comment he is immature in some ways too. As for the not reading the mails, he is probs giving himself a time out then, but it's not that he doesn't want to read them, his interest is more than likely piqued here.
We like to feel we are the only one, and his knowing you are still with hubby (or taking longer than you both talked about in the divorce part) is probably a bone of contention for him, but it can only take as long as it takes and he needs to understand this. He seems to me to be more than a little insecure if I am honest, but hang on in there, and next time you see him play it cool, be noculant (sp) and say hi how you doing, and if he returns the gesture tell him you are fine, getting there or whatever you wish to say, but don't sound needy, make him think!! xx