I am in a similar situation, only with a virgo. It's been a year and in the beginning he showered me with attention, called at least three times daily. That lasted maybe a month and a half..in that time i completely fell for him. Oh, did i mention we were friends in high school? its been 10 yrs since graduation and this past year we reconnected. This past year has been a roller coaster, i will admit i was always there for him and did anything he asked even if i didnt hear from him for a few weeks. I told him how i felt and he told me he didnt want a relationship b/c of a past breakup that was really hard on him (that breakup was a yr and a half ago now) so, ok i could respect that and we remained friends but in the meantime after i told him my feelings he grew distant and didnt call as often and he didnt invite me to come visit much anymore (its long distance by 3 hours)
But it seems as if there are times when we make progress. for example, he will call me like 3 times in one week..then nothing for a couple of weeks. im still completely in love with him but im just now realizing that i cant do this anymore, esp. after reading these posts he seems to be out living his life and he is a HUGE flirt and just recently seems to be dating others now. which by the way, when they dont work out he tend to call me..and of course im there..like always. and thats the problem..it seems like no matter how much i do, or how much i care, or how much i show him i care and praise him..its never good enough. and thats b/c he doesnt feel the same way about me. this realization pretty much came last night when i was waiting for my weekly phone call and it didnt come. so i gave it a little while and sent a text "just wanted to say hi, hope you had a great night" ok, so it worked..he called, only to act very very distant and well, shady. the phone call i think lasted myabe 5 min. i personally think he's seeing someone new.
and i just always try to justify these things with this thinking.....when im there with him, when i go for a visit..hes perfect. he waits on me hand and foot, cooks for me, takes me out..ive even met pretty much all of his friends. then when i leave...he creates that distance between us again. but, my point is this..dont waste your time trying to figure out what your guy is thinking..b/c chances are that by the time you feel that way..he's already started treating you the way you dont deserve. ive wasted a whole year on the man i love...even passing up dates with other men b/c i was holding out (he doesnt know this) but, the adivce in these responses have been great. if a guy is in to you..he will let you know, just like my guy did in the beginning. so, on this morning..after i have realized all this..i am sad. i do really love and care for him (although i know he doesnt know how deeply..he just thinks i have a crush on him) but, i know i cant keep doing the same things b/c they are not working for him or me. its hard but i will have to move on..and you should too. if the guys wanted to be with us..they would be..and if they dont then its their loss thats easier said than done!
so my advice is to not waste a year on someone like i have. if they dont treat you the way you need or want to be treated then try to move on. i cant tell you how many times ive heard "if its meant to be, it will be" i guess in my case it was never meant to be, but i think there maybe some truth to that statement..even though it hurts alot to think it was never meant to be. ive never felt so deeply for someone ever...and to have that person not even a little bit return the love..yeah its hard..but, ive got to find a way to move on...there are other fish in the sea right??