Cheers,

It is so funny that you say that because just yesterday a friend of mine said that she doesn't see me with him in the sense that she sees me with someone not from my hometown, and she doesn't even know him either. Very interesting. Is their a strong attraction on his end? So you think that if he were looking for something long term then I would be an option or am I just feeling myself/ its too soon to tell? I feel like I should just try to think of him more as a friendship than a potential relationship therefore I will not get so upset if we speak sparingly. I appreciate your wise and in depth responses!

Aww thanks so much. i really appreciate your honest response. The next morning we had a discussion about what happened the previous night and I did ask him if he expected to sleep with me and he replies he didn't even think he would have gotten as far as he did, I suppose me ending up at his place. Do you think he is over me because I turned him down? I explained that being intimate obviously complicates things and I am not trying to take it there with him yet. Do you think he will be the initial one to contact me or will I have to contact him when I move back? We run in different circles, so I doubt I would see him again unless it was a planned meeting. I know Caps like to pursue and am just wondering why he isn't pursuing? Thanks again for your response

I am a Sag woman interested in a Cap man (I know, we aren't supposed to be compatible, but I like him!)I went to HS with this cappy several yrs ago. I had always been interested in him and minor flirting went on but nothing serious. long story short about a month ago I randomly contacted him on FB and we exchanged info. He seemed extremely eager to make plans with me and reconnect. We currently live in different states, but I travel to and fro often and told him I would let him know when I am back in his area. I was the one to text him first out of sheer boredom and we had a decent convo. The next time we spook a few weeks later, I had texted him to inform him that I would be home for the weekend and he immediately initiated a date. On the evening of the date, he called me to make plans and picked me up (were I was staying was quite a distance from where he lives). We went for drinks and then met up with a few other friends from HS. We were both very intoxicated and seeing as how he lives closer to where we were having drinks I went to his apt. I warned him that nothing would transpire of me staying over, so he need not try because he would get shot down. Non the less he tried and as predicted was shot down. The next day we spent a good majority of the day together reminiscing and laying around and watching tv. He dropped me back home and when I left the car I felt an awkward good bye. He didn't say anything along the lines of "we should do this again, or I'll call you later". Needless to say I texted him a few hrs later to thank him again and reiterate that I had a wonderful time. He responded with a "i had fun as well". I have not heard from him since and this was about 3 or 4 days ago? I feel like I am going crazy because I am interested in him and am wondering why he has issues initiating contact but is the first to mention a date? He knows that I will be moving back to his city at the end of the month. Should I initiate contact with him again when I move back permenantly? I am def not a pursuer and am used to men making themselves available to me, so this situation is making me tense! Is initiating contact a few times really considered pursuing? I need advice PLEASE! Not sure what my next move or lack there of should be. EXTREMELY HONEST ADVICE is appreciated! Thanks so much!

Hi!

I have been conversing with a CANCER man for about a month now. Since the beginning he has said he wants me to come see him ( we live in different cities). The friendship was casual, we would talk every few days, and then last week we began speaking every day. He told me that he likes me and suggested that I apply to schools in his area ( I am going back to school). Recently he was close to me on business, so I decided to go see him. The visit went well until we started making out and he tried to have sex with me. I refused and I feel like he became a little annoyed, because he started to act a little differently the rest of the day. Later on that night we spoke again and he expressed that he was happy to see me. The next day we did not speak and the day after I texted him and he was a little short with me. I know CANCERIANS in general tend to become closed off when afraid of getting hurt, but I am confused as to what my next move should be? I do like him, but at the same time I am a true SAG girl and am resistant at showing my feelings and am not used to stroking a mans ego that often. I know CANCERS like to be baby'ed but at the same time I don't want to put in an effort if it will not be well received. How should I go about this? Thanks in advance!

Thanks so much for the great advice! It's just frustrating bc I am more of the chase me type, but I'm into him, so that always changes things. Y can't we just be blunt and not play games!

Hi Everyone!

I need your help! I recently met this cancer guy, I would say like 3 weeks ago. I met him out when I was with a bunch of friends. He pursued me and tried to get my attention, which is a rare action by the shy crab. Anyway, I gave him my number and he called the next day as promised. We had a good first conversation, he told me about his family and interests, etc. We proceeded to talk several times throughout that day. After a week of numerous daily phone conversations I told him I had a few days off from work and he got me a plane ticket and flew mw down to see him for the day. This is the first time anyone ever flew me out to see them for a day, so I was impressed to say the least. We just cuddled the whole time, did not do anything sexual, not even kiss. After I left he started to say that he missed me already and couldn't wait to see me again. I went to see him again last week for a few more days, and this time things turned physical. I usually wait at least a month, but I am really into him. He told me he isn't going anywhere and really likes me, (typical guy statement, but he could be sincere). Things were fine the rest of my trip. However, now, about 4 days later we are playing continuous phone tag, he calls me, i call him back, blah blah blah, we haven't spoken in a day. In his defense, this was a busy weekend for him, he had meetings and a wedding out of state, so I am cutting him a little slack, but his behavior is just unacceptable, especially now that I am starting to develop feelings for him. My question is, what should be my next plan of action. I am hoping to go see him this week or next week, but we have not spoken to concrete plans. Should i tell him that i am falling for him and have noticed a change in his behavior and want to stop playing games, or should i just chalk this up as a loss bc I got intimate with him to early and now he is no longer interested? I have learned that cancer men associate love and sex and don't engage in alot of casual sex, or am I wrong? HELP!!!