Mia1982, I believe there exists for all of us more than one "soul mate". I have encountered many soul mates who have turned out to be my foster family, my close friends, former co-workers and believe it or not even some of my bosses have been my soul mate. Not every soul mate relationship is meant to be a physical love relationship. For me the term soul mate means anyone with whom I have a soul connection makes them my "soul mate".
I would suggest that you not interfere in this young man's relationship. If you two are meant to be together in that way you will be. In the meantime I would try to observe what my attraction is to this person and try to be as objecctive as possible. Really look at what it is you see about this person that you are attracted to and tell the truth about what it is you see.
My oldest male friend has been my soul mate for the past 43 years. We met each other when we were 13 years old. I fell in love with him the moment I met him. This person never even knew I was alive. He started going out with my best friends cousin (who knew that I liked him) which was hurtful to me. Although it took 5 years he finally woke up and began to notice me. We eventually started going out together. He wanted to marry me but at 18 I knew I was not ready to be married to anyone even though it was something I wanted very much. We had a big argument one day and I got so pissed off at him that I wished to never see him in my life again. IOur lives separated for 7 years then one day on my way to work l looked down and he was seated in front of me on the subway (NYC). We renewed our friendship and we have stayed friends till this day. Along the way he got married and had two children, I got married and had three children; and both of our spouses have passed away. He has relocated to another state and is encouraging me to move where he is. He is someone who has always had my back and has never turned their back on me. That is my idea of a soul mate. I think we will always check for eachother no matter who are with or where we are.
Hope my little story has given you some insight.
Be Blessed - Sadio