Posts made by rubia106

Hi Dancealot. Very interesting points you make. I have to say that this relationship definitely has its addictive quality, for both of us. So what you say makes sense. I'm curious as to why you persisted in an 11-year back and forth relationship. Did you guys ever address the issues that would keep you apart or did you "sweep them under the rug", as you say, for a long time? And what were those issues? Was he commitment phobic or was he hurt really bad in a past relationship? From reading other posts of relationships with Taureans, that seems to be a theme with them, that they're extremely sensitive and suffer from past hurts, causing them to be skittish.

This is the issue in my case, by the way. We have talked about the issue several times. He admits this is his pattern, backing away until the woman ends up cheating on him, causing him to be totally commitment phobic. And my pattern is one of holding on too tight when he pulls away, causing us to engage in a back and forth dynamic which affects both of us. Of course, both patterns are caused by lack of self-esteem. We're both aware of that.

We do love each other, which is the foundation that holds us together. We just each need to break our own personal patterns. I need to give more to myself and be more detached and he needs to come forward a little bit and share more. The theory is evident, it's putting it into practice that's challenging. I am learning so much about myself in this process, though.

Thanks for your reply.

Hi Miss Libra. I'm a libra involved for a year now with a Taurus. Every reading I've ever done says that we're a great match in many, many aspects except for the "space" aspect. Taureans need their space, lots of it, and we are the relationship queens. We crave togetherness. We hate to be alone, although we don't like clingy people either, ironically.

My time with this Taurus has been extremely challenging. He comes forward, then backs off, then comes back again. It can be very confusing. However, the key is this...let them go when they want to go. Ignore them (it's hard, I know), and they do come back. They crave love, just like we do. They're under Venus like us, remember. Just don't put up with disrespect or rudeness. Speak your mind. We Libras are good at that. And Taureans like logic and a rational argument.

I'm separated from my Taurus right now. He has backed away and I'm suffering, believe me. I hate when he does this. But we keep getting back together. We have an incredible soul connection. We both know it. So obviously there's things we still have to work out together.

As others have said, if it's meant to be, it will be. Find the lesson in this relationship. The universe brought you together for a reason.

Very interesting. A Taurus woman friend of mine told me yesterday that that's they way SHE is. When Taureans are "in a mood", to use her words, they do not want to be with anyone. Doesn't mean they don't care about you or love you, just they are basically loners and need a tremendous amount of space. In your case, having been married to a Leo, and knowing them also very well, Leos need a lot of attention, are also relationship oriented (like us Libras), and can even be quite needy. From everything I've ever heard and read, Leo and Taurus are NOT a good combo. Your need for love and affection and closeness and their need for space and freedom do not bode well. But I understand, because I'm that way too. I try to use the time they he's "in a mood" to catch up on my own things and be with my friends and family, etc.

Hope that helps clarify. It's always a choice we have to make. Not an easy one, though.

Wow, are we dating the same person? LOL. I have been seeing my Taurus man for 1 year and he's EXACTLY the same. Came on like gang busters in the beginning. When it got "steady", he backed off. Now it's the back and forth dance too. Tell me he loves me, then disappears for a couple of days or weeks. Then we'll talk morning, noon, and night for days or weeks at a time, but won't have sex for 2-3 weeks. When we do, it's extremely passionate and intense. He tells me he's commitment phobic. I know he can't handle emotions. They panic him. My advice, let him go and learn to make him priority number 3 or 4 in your life. Meaning, live your own life. Go out, date other people, study, travel, etc. If he's your soul mate, having a true friend is better than a part-time lover. It's not easy. But look at it this way. The universe brought you together for a reason. Find out that reason and learn from it and create your own beautiful life.