P.S. I dont know if it means anything, but it kinda seems like shes hiding the fact that shes with this guy. Like when it came to us, it was all out there and she wasnt afraid to make it public wether we be with people in public, facebook, etc. It just seems kinda odd to me i dunno. I can deff tell shes in a different state of mind right now.
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RE: Scorpio guy wanting Taurus girl back-------
RE: Scorpio guy wanting Taurus girl back-------
LoveDetox: Thankyou for the advice. Yea i have been moving on and working more on bettering myself. Not only because if she dicided to come back it would help the situaution, but also it would be in my best interest overall. Can i ask what caused in your heartache situations for it to get to the point of your ex saying over and over again they dont love you anymore?
Taurus7: She is the type to kinda shy away from and she also has trouble being vulnerable. Right now i feel she is hurting silently and kinda trying to hide it. Ever since this situation between us has come up (including her other issues shes going through right now, she hasnt been talking to anyone lately including who used to be her closest friends. They have talked to me lately and said they're worried about her too because they havnt heard from her. I guess shes just talking to her bf and his friends (who arnt even her type of crowd). So i wonder what will happen if all these problems shes having clear up, and when the hurt and fear she has now goes away, what state of mind shes in. I know she still likes me, but i can tell in a way shes scared of getting hurt and being vulnerable like you said.
Scorpio guy wanting Taurus girl back-------
This might be a little long, but i want to get out as much info as possible about my situation for better advice.
Well i met this girl in college And everything was perfect. We went through ups and downs in the relationship, but it just made our love for eachother even stronger. We had both had previous relationships but were eachothers first TURE love. We were dating for almost 3 years. Well up until september, we were arguing more than usual and we didnt know what to do. So we decided to stop talking abruptly(Maybe there was a lack of communication?). She was more hurt in the break up than i was. And we still had feelings for eachother.
well around december 20th, i decided to make contact and tell her i want to make it work. I asked her how she was and everything at first (not bringing up anything about reltionships and what not). She said she misses me so much and i said the same. Then i came out with it and said i wanted to make it work and that i still love her. She said that she never thought i would be able to swallow my pride and call her and also said i was stirring up emotions in her. And she said all of this was hard for her to handle. But then she hit me with the bomb...
She told me she is with another guy. She had been with him for only 2 months. She said she had to date and talk to people to get her mind off of me. But5 she still has strong feelings. So i asked her if it was over 100% between us? are we done? She couldnt answer. she never can answer those kind of questions. Instead she said "well the thing is i'm with i another guy right now and i cant just leave him for you" But 1 month previous to me making contact again, a mutual friend that she had talked to told me that she said she still loves me. And i can tell she does based on her texts.
I feel like this guy happened to be in the right place at the right time and hes kinda her "rebound". A way for her to cope with us not being together (we were so in love).
She said she still has some anger towards the breakup so i know that will take time to heal, but waiting is not the easiest thing to do.
Well one night in january,
i texted her asking how she was. And she responded that she was stressed about school and her parents (nothing pertaining to us). Then we started talking on the phone for the first time since we broke up. She was venting to me about everything and we were talking about what had been happening with us during the months we werent talking.
At one point we were even laughing and making jokes that we used to make when we were still together. But then the subject of her new man and us came up and you could just feel the whole vibe of the convo shift.
We were asking eachother questions pertaining to the relationship that were not asked when we were together. Questions like "why did you do this?" and "why didnt you tell me thats how you felt?".
And then at one point i kinda broke down and just started telling her how i felt (which might have been a bad move, but i couldnt help it). I was saying how i want to be with her and no one else. How the good in our relationship easily out ways the bad and its not worth letting go over a reason like this.
And as i was going on expressing myself, she began to cry alot. At one point, she said her stomach was knotting up and that she was feeling dizzy and might even throw up. And aburptly she said she had to go and hung up real fast. i thought it was kinda odd and was still concerned with how she was feeling since she said she had to throw up.
So i called her back and her tone was completely different. I asked are you ok? And she said "yea" in a real fast way like "of course i'm ok". Then it clicked in my head and i asked "did your bf just show up?". and she said yea. And thats where it ended.
As of things recently happening with us, last time i talked to her was about a month ago (trying to respect her new relationship and give her space to figure her issues out) and she was saying how she was stressed with all of her problems and everything (venting). I was just telling her to hang in there and that i have faith in her. you'll make it. And she was saying how much she appreciated that. It was pretty brief.
I'm not sure what to do, but at the same time i dont think there is aything else i can do at this point. The guy shes with now also goes to the same school as her so i'm at a dissadvantage right there. She didnt really have anyone to talk to at school since myself and most of her close friends either dropped out or transferrred schools. I feel that guy shes with now showed up at the right time in the height of all her problems and stress and that is a big advanage for him. I specifically remember when i was on the phone with her, how she was saying that he makes her feel special and stuff to me, but like was "overdoing" how she explained ( as if to rub it in?). Plus i didnt even ask for that info. The guy is a gemini by the way.
Things i've been thinking to myself :
1. Is she with the guy because he is an"outlet" right now for all her issues and stress? If so what happens when her problems start to go away?
2. SHould i send a text here and there saying "hello" or something, or keep no contact to let her fully try out her new guy and sort out her issues?
Hopefully she decides to come back.
P.S. If you need any info feel free to ask, hopefuly not forgetting anything.