i am aquarius and shes aries

i know my question would sound a bit immature and stupid,nevertheles here goes

i have been living in thailand for last 2 years, i am well off and have a stable business in bangkok.i am 35 years old.met a thai girl on a dating website and have been talking to her for last 2 weeks online.shes a teacher and is very nice.i really liked her even before i met her and was considering starting a relation.i know its too fast for that.but there was some magic,but the magic only worked on one side i guess.

i met her 2 days back for the first time and we had dinner together.the dinner went on very well.we both enjoyed it.she says i always make her smile and she enjoys my company.

well after i came back from dinner i left a message saying that i am in love with her.now shes upset and is asking me how can i think of such big words in just 2 weeks of knwoing her.i guess she doesnt belive me and shes angry and she said we can be friends,

next day out of stupidity i send her a mail saying that i really love her,and its not possible to be her friend bcos it will just hurt me more.and i said its better if we not talk again.

later i changed my mind and asked her to be my friend again,then we will see how it can be taken from there,and i told her if at some point of time after she know me better,she has some feeling for me,we can think about a relationship and if she doesnt feel anything ,we can still be friends.

but now she is so supset that shes not even willing to be my friend.

she says before she enjoyed my company so much,but after i said that she has lost all the good feeling.and shes adamant that she wont be my friend again bcos it was me who said first that i cant be her friend.and shes just following what i told her by not talking to me.

now i conviced her somehow to talk to me ,and she says she cannot say anything about the future now ie,if she can be my friend or not,bcos now she dont care about me.i said i will wait till shes calm and i said i am sure she will come back to be my friend.and to that she said "dont wait" and said bye.

so this is my situation.what do u advice?do u think she will be my friend again?i am sure if she comes back and be my friend i will be able to get this grow into a relation

i was so stupid i moved too fast.she said she dont like impatient man,and that she would have thought of a relation only after knowing me a long time and that i have spoiled everything now

pls advice

dear Captain,

thanks for the advice .the only reason i felt she was genuine is that she told me frankly that she dint love me.anyways i think i will take ur advice and stop all contacts

Dear Captain,

I am an indian..been living in thailand for 1 year now.i have been active on some dating sites and met many girls and one of them has interested me.shes a thai girl..on our second meeting i tried to kiss her and she said she had good time with me,but she doesnt like me much.so i stopped all contacts ,but she called me after 2 weeks and asked to meet.since then she we have been hanging out regularly .its now like we meet 2 or 3 times a day,have some drinks,she stays over at my room.we kiss and hug,but no sex.

shes been talking to me about her best friend who was with her at school.whenever shes not hanging out with me,shes with him.i asked her if shes in love with him,but she said they r just friends..shes still on dating site and still looking at her options.but i have a feeling shes keeping me as a second option if she cant find anyone better.

last saturday after the drinks i asked her if she can be withme forever,but she said she cant as she doesnt love me..still she comes over to my room and we still hangout but i feel a little distance now..i am not sure if i am in love with her,but i want to be..i am planning to cut off contacts with her again.delete her from whatsapp,FB and all and see where it takes me..

she feels of me as a friend and she calls me to meet whenever shes sad or alone..

pla advice captain if this friendship can turn into love any time in the future..and what should be my plan ot action if it were to be so..

i am aquarian and shes gemini

thanks

Dear captain,thanks for ur reply

my DOB is 2 Feb 1978 time 7.00 pm(india)

her DOB is 3 may 1983 time 6.15 pm(india)

shes taurus and i am aquarian. i had posted my story in the initial stages previously.but the now the situation has changed.she talks to me.and i met her too..but she doesnt pick up my call after her new bf left her

my girlfriend of 7 years broke up with me 2 months back .i went into the depression and begging mode and kept stalking her and she got irritated.she went into a rebound relationship which has broken down now ..i still love her and she knows that.she cares for me and is concerned about my pathetic stiuation.she knows i am waiting for her to be back.but her new boyfriend left her because he came to know i am still waiting for her.and i guess he was not too interested in the first place.it was because of her persuation that he entered a relation.but shes angry with me now because he left her because of me...

i want her back.what can i do to get her back?

my girlfriend of 7 years left me two months back because i had been so possessive and controlling.yeah and i was...it was because i loved her so much and wad insecure about losing her.she knows that but she says she has lost feelings for me because of all the fights we had.but i still love her and i cant think about living with out her.i have tried but cant move on.i cry every night.i live abroad and shes in india.i am going to india today to meet her.i am not sure if she will come to meet me.this is my last try,if it doesnt work out i dont want to live in this pain.i have decided to end my life..i am just worried about the outcome..if i fail what happens....because i think i fail in everything i do these days.i tried desperately to bring her back and i failed.if i fail in ending my life i will be ruined.i am already an emotional wreck now.what will she feel if i fail?will she think i was doing it to attract attention?will she come back if she really understands my plight?pls advice...and pls dont advice me with normal cliches like ending life is not a solution...plenty of fish etc...shes my life and with out her i cant live

and she has never let me know that she was suffocating with me.this is the first time in 7 years.atleast if she has let me know before i would have been careful.isnt there something i can do to make her give me one last chance?

is there anyway i can get her back captain,i have been trying for last 1 and half months but am not able to get back.they say any problem has a solution..isnt there anything i can do to get her back?i have changed.i have prmoised i will never try to controll her again..pls give me some advice