THANKS SO MUCH SWEETRAVENNCINCY!!! YOU HAVE VERY GOOD INSIGHT INTO THINGS AND OFFER VERY GOOD ADVICE AND GAVE ME ALOT OF THINGS TO THINK ABOUT . THAT WAS MY WHOLE PURPOSE OF POSTING MY SITUATION HERE, NOT TO BE BELITTLED BY SOME PEOPLE THAT MAYBE FEEL THEY ARE BETTER THAN OTHERS....

THE ISSUE GOING ON WITH ME AND THIS GUY RIGHT NOW IS WE ARE GIVING THINGS WITH US SOME SPACE I GUESS YOU COULD SAY. WE BOTH HAVE ALOT GOING ON RIGHT NOW AND FOR ME I NEED TO FOCUS ON MYSELF AND MY SON....AND YOU ARE RIGHT, I NEED TO FIND OUT WHO I AM AGAIN....BEING IN A MARRIAGE WHERE I FELT VERY UNLOVED AND UNWANTED FOR SO LONG AND THEN ENDING UP BEING VERBALLY, MENTALLY AND EMOTIONALLY ABUSED HAS REALLY LEFT ALOT OF SCARS TO HEAL...

I KNOW THAT I CANT FULLY GIVE MYSELF OR MY HEART TO SOMEONE UNTIL IAM ME AGAIN...SLOWLY SINCE BEING SEPERATED I HAVE FOUND LAUGHTER AND JOY IN MY LIFE THROUGH FRIENDS AND FAMILY THAT HAVE BEEN HERE FOR ME....

AND YES " IF YOU SET SOMETHING FREE AND IT COMES BACK TO YOU IT WAS MEANT TO BE" I BELIEVE THAT....MAYBE ITS TIME TO SEE HOW THAT OLD SAYING REALLY WORKS...

THANKS SO MUCH FOR RESPONDING AND GIVING ME ALOT TO THINK ABOUT.....

CAP1962 THATS GREAT!! I AM ON MYSPACE..YOU CAN FIND ME HERE

www.myspace.com/luckofirish73

SEND ME AN ADD REQUEST AND I WILL ACCEPT SO WE CAN CHAT THERE.

THANKS A BUNCH!! I LOOK FORWARD TO CHATTING...

Thank you Miche53083! I am currently seperated from my marriage....and I plan to eventually do what I need to do for my own well being and my sons...Figuring out your life isnt an easy task by any means...

You are sooooooo right about a Taurus...HE is a Taurus and I know that the various conversations we have had about our relationship he does seem to take things in and contemplates alot....I know this isn't easy for him either...To want to be happy, which he has told me so many times he wants, but feels he is trapped...I'm not saying that is an excuse, I know men always have alot of those.....But I really feel he feels trapped in his unhappy marriage...

Even though we have a relationship we do communicate very well on all levels and we've told each other many things about how we feel about our marriages and our lives.....

You are right as well about me telling him how I feel about him..And in no way would I push him...This isn't about pushing him...It is about revealing to him my feelings for him and about our relationship and where things are going in our lives together or not...and for me to come out and ask him how he feels about me..It is very scary to put yourself out there, its very hurtful and painful, but in the end if the person feels the same for you it can be a wonderful, enlightening experience......I guess I am just waiting for the right moment to ask....I dont like to ask over emails or text messages...The only true way to see what is in a persons heart is through their expressions and emotions. Seeing each other in person has been difficult lately......So now it is just a waiting game to see when we could possibly get together to talk....

Thank you as well for the book recommendation. I am going to go out and buy it tonight!

Any kind of uplifting advice or guidance is so appreciated....

I do like to think and feel that I am a good hearted person. I would give anyone the shirt off my back and never expect anything in return.....

Gosh Moon Tarot, I didn't mean to post something on here to upset anyone or create NEGATIVE energy.....I am a good person, a good hearted person.....Things happen to people and in our lives that we don't go out seeking...They just happen.....and I just happen to fall in love with a married man...Am I sorry for that??? No I am not. Should I hate myself and give myself a low self esteem because of it??? I believe in Karma as well, but things happen!!!

Yes cheating is the ultimate betrayal, it happens in life just like anything else...Some people set out to purposefully cheat, I on the other hand did not......

I only posted my story on here for advice on how to go about talking and sorting things out with this guy and where we were going to go from here...I am sorry if I offended anyone

THANK YOU CAP1962!!! IT'S SO DIFFICULT TO BE IN THIS TYPE OF SITUATION..AND I HAVE BEEN ON BOTH SIDES OF THE FENCE ON THIS....MY HUSBAND CHEATED ON ME ONLY AFTER ONE YEAR OF MARRIAGE..SO I DO KNOW HOW THAT OTHER SIDE FEELS, BUT THIS IS ENTIRELY DIFFERENT....IT WASN'T A ONE NIGHT STAND OR A FLING...THERE IS A REAL RELATIONSHIP GOING ON BETWEEN ME AND THIS GUY...I NEVER EVEN GAVE IT ANOTHER THOUGHT THAT IT WOULD LEAD INTO WHAT IT HAS, I NEVER THOUGHT I WOULD FALL IN LOVE WITH HIM BECAUSE I NEVER SET OUT TO DO SO....I HAD A GUARD UP AROUND MY HEART FOR A LONG TIME BECAUSE I WAS TIRED OF BEING HURT SO HORRIBLY...AND HE MANAGED TO KNOCK IT DOWN AND I LET HIM INTO MY SOUL....NOW THINGS ARE JUST COMPLICATED. I AM LOOKING FOR ANSWERS FROM HIM THAT I KNOW I MAY NEVER GET...I DONT EVEN KNOW HOW TO GO ABOUT TALKING TO HIM ABOUT HOW I AM FEELING ABOUT THE WAY THINGS ARE RIGHT NOW AT THE MOMENT. THINGS ARE PRETTY QUIET WITH US RIGHT NOW AND HE APPOLOGIZED FOR THINGS HAVING TO BE LIKE THEY ARE RIGHT NOW...I KNOW I PROBABLY DRIVE HIM CRAZY....LOL...

MOST OF THE TIME IM PRETTY DEPRESSED BECAUSE I LOVE HIM SO AND I JUST DONT KNOW WHAT IS GOING TO HAPPEN...CAN I ASK YOU? HOW HAVE YOU MANAGED FOR 4 YEARS??? WE ARE GOING ON A YEAR AND 7 MONTHS AND I AM ALREADY GOING CRAZY...AND FROM WHAT HE TELLS ME HES LEAVING HIS MARRIAGE IN TWO YEARS...I KNOW ITS WORTH HOLDING ON....

Thank you all for your input....Cap1962, you are right, things in life happen, people change..You cannot help what happens or who you fall in love with...It just happens...I did not enter into this "involvement" with this married man to fall in love with him...We instantly connected online and decided to meet face to face and things just grew from there....

I do see how some would say if he hasn't left yet he's not going to leave his marriage...I can honestly say that I totally understand why he isn't leaving right now and he has told me two years and nothing is holding him with his wife, he's gone....He is staying because of his daughter and I totally understand that....People stay in unhappy marriages because of the children and I can say that I was one of them...No one knows why they stay because it isn't to salvage the marriage....Its routine and its safe....My marriage just got to the point of my husband being verbally and emotionally abusive along with me finding out he was doing drugs and hiding it from me for 4 years!!!

I do believe in soul mates and yes people to misconcept that the meaning is that is the person they are meant to be with...I say soul mates because me and this guy connected with each other on so many levels..We have so much in common and we are very similar to one another which is strangely odd...LOL....When we met face to face the first time, it was in the cemetary where my father is buried, right next to his grave and that is why I say "things happen for a reason and sometimes it is meant to be, just didn't happen at the right time"...

I am waiting for the moment and the right time to ask this guy how he feels about me..Just because someone doesn't tell you they love you, doesn't mean they dont....

I trust my instincts and what I feel in my heart....How can I ignore that????

I am a good person, with a good heart and I wouldn't hurt anyone ever......Just things happen in life like I say that we have no control over....

Cap1962 I would love to chat with you about our situations...Maybe we could help one another...

No my husband doesn't know about the other man or that it's been going on for a year and a half..I've hidden it pretty well...and yes my marriage is over in my eyes and in my heart....

It was over a very long time ago with just the emotional abuse I dealt with for 15 years with him I had just had enough....

Thanks for the great advice!! I am soooo very afraid of asking this man I am so in love with how he feels about me.....I do need and want to know if this is ever going to go anywhere...I have put so much of myself and my feelings into things with this man...Its like the old saying " sometimes you can just look at each other and you just know" I always felt that with him.....

But I guess the only way I am really going to know is to ask him..

Thanks so much for reading and for the advice and opinions...It does help having someone from the outside giving their opinions...Thanks

FINALLY.....10 hours and 19 minutes later I found the candy...thank you thank you!!! Looking forward to the hint for tomorrow...Hopefully it wont take me that long to find it...

I've looked in every single drop down and clicked on just about everything in this site and can't find candy anywhere...I've been looking for the past 8 hours or so and nothing...Does anyone know where the candy is?????? Any help will be appreciated...I'd like to get in on the fun

Where to begin......long story but I'm telling it because I could really use some advice, guidance, or maybe just some kind words of encouragement...

Here goes: I met a man online a year and a half ago, on myspace to be exact...We hit it off right from our first conversation. Bad part about the whole thing, he is married..unhappily he states..and at the time so was I...unhappily as well... We decided to meet in person and from that first moment we saw each other and had our first kiss I knew...he was my soul mate (yes I believe everyone has one).and that he was my one true love..Iam an Aries sign and he is Taurus sign...... We talk like there is no tomorrow, we laugh at each other, its like we were made for each other....So we continue our "involvement" which has been going on for a year and a half. There were also things, "signs" that would occur throughout our "involvement" that made me feel like we are meant to be together..Silly I know...But when you feel so strongly about something you go with it, you go with your instincts...you go with your heart....And that is exactly what I did.......We would text each other, call each other, and communicate thru email when we weren't able to see each other.....I felt like we made each other happy in our lives when we weren't happy in our marriages.....We discussed each others feelings in regards to getting out of our marriages. And I accepted his reason for staying in his until his daughter turns 18 feeling that she wouldn't be able to cope with divorce while still being in high school...I understood his concern because I have a son the same age and I worried about him dealing with divorce as well...But I couldnt take being miserable in my marriage any longer......I recently seperated from my husband of 15 years.....

My situation is this.....I didn't enter into this "involvement" with this man with intentions of falling in love with him...It just happened, and I know the exact moment that it did happen.....

I hate myself for letting myself fall in love with him knowing that nothing could come of it as long as each of us is still married....I just dont know what to do anymore..I wish he would tell me how he feels about me, if he loves me, if he feels the same way I do about everything......Do I keep the "involvement" going not knowing how he feels about me, if he thinks the same about things I do, if he loves me???? Do I end the "involvement" and live knowing that I made a big mistake ending it???? I just dont know what to do at this point.....