@dancervibes06 Hi there, sorry I didn't see your reply. Well interestingly enough, my ex did show back up. He had had a depressive episode/ couldn't cope with being there for me and the situation he was in. How crazy though. We had a nice time talking and reconnecting but I don't know if we will get back together. You are right we should never compromise on our own needs. It is hard when we love someone and we watch them suffer, but there is only so much pain we can take ourselves. Thanks for the good luck. xx